Originally Posted by sipsiko
Dear brother or sister salam alaikum,
if you have nothing productive or nice to say then ts best to say nothing,
no eed for the language used yes, it dos sound like a cultural rather than an islamic thing, but you will be surprised unfortunately how many muslim sisters in particular since it is a thing dne by women only hold strong believe to it.
so as to saying to them that its whatever you branded as in your unkind words is really not appropriate, explaining and enlightening people must be done in a kind loving and intellectual manner, yes it may seem a whole load of rubbish but to these people its not, the purpose for this thread was for me to clarify with other muslims and then tr to make some people that i know in my family understand that it is a form of bidah, since i find it useless and totally wrong to open my mouth and speak of something i have no knowledge of or claim that something is haram when in fact its halal.