My younger brother and sister are my responsibilty after the death of my father 6 years back. Though i donot feel my self a very good person but i tried my best to give them guidance as much as possible.
Danial, maa shaa Allaah! That's awesome that you did your best.
My younger brother 19 year ol talk to some girl on mobile.
Do you know that
some girl's name and how he knows her?
I warnned him so many time through anger , sympathy love and all means that this is not good and may lead to you some worng side. He dont think it is any worng act and this is just a chit chat for him.
Hmm... Put yourself on his shoes. Why does he think that there's nothing wrong with talking to girl over the phone? Why is chit-chat "okay" for him?
Instead of just working on the surface (by warning him), get to the root and start there. Think of ways you can do that.
Not to be too personal, but let me ask you this:
If your younger brother were to "like" a girl, would he come to you and say: "I like that girl. What should I do"? OR if you asked him if he likes someone, would he tell you?
If the answer is "no" then WHO would he go to to talk about such things? You your mom? To someone else?
Whoever "that" person is (whom your younger brother would go to to express/discuss such feelings/issues), get that person to help you out in this case.
If there is no such person, then one of you MUST become that person, his confidant.
[QUOTE]Last night again i caught him talking to that girl, on mobile and he was saying that we are just friends.. i could not control my anger and with emotion i slaaped him twice on his face. Mother was watching us that time.
I havnt talked to both (mother and brother) since last night. I am so tennesed .. Am i reacting over or my way of reacting is not ok..[QUOTE]
Why haven't you talked with your mother? What did she do?
1. According to your ability, take your younger brother out to lunch/dinner/park/snack or something. Take your mother with you if that helps.
2. Make du'aa' for your brother.
3. Ask your mom to make du'aa' for you and your brother.
Please guide me what should i do in this situation. I have so many other problems to handle.. mean while when i see these kind of incopration from my family member i feel myself very much dejected and dissapointed.
Take some deep breaths as you read this. Take it easy.
Put your trust in Allaah and be smart. Look at the situations as challenges, not "problems." With each challenge, you'll grow more insha'Allah.
4. Make a list of ALL the challenges you currently have (yes, on paper).
5. Put them in order according to urgency and importance.
6. Take the top 3 challenges. For each, write down 10 things you can do to come out as a winner on the other side of that challenge.
7. Schedule those action-points.
8. Just do them.
Put your trust in Allah and take MASSIVE actions.