Where to Begin?

[majorzero]

Asalamu- Alaikum

I reflected on myself and I realized that I am careless and I am on cruise control. My Iman is very low and fluctuates a lot. I lack persistence and self-discipline. When ever I feel motivated to do something good/useful, make a change, I quickly lose that motivation.

What I am trying to say in short is, I see this as a game in which I will fall and try to get up back again. I am very inconsistent with myself and it one thing I want to correct the most. I lack taqwa, i only feel bad after I sin.

I have a big problem with "Adult" films, and it is a major weakness to me. I am very ashamed and disgusted of myself.


Any help or advise would be very much appreciated. I am sorry if am being vague.

[noorseeker]

Brother try the search option and type in masturbation, you will get your answers,
there are a lot of sisters on here who will take offence if this thread goes on.

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:salamext:


Question

I am 32 years married with 2 sons. My main problem is the porno movies as I cannot stop watching these movie. What is my punishment? How can I stop?



Answer

In the Name of Allah, Most Gracious, Most Merciful.

All praise and thanks are due to Allah, and peace and blessings be upon His Messenger.

Before I tell you about the punishment of watching pornographic movies, I should tell you first to be aware of the bad consequences of your deeds in this world.

You are losing yourself, damaging your brain, your psyche and distorting your character.

Allah created you for a good and a noble cause which is to worship Him. Allah says, “I created the jinn and humankind only that they might worship Me. I seek no livelihood from them, nor do I ask that they should feed Me.”

Allah is honoring you and you belittling yourself. Allah is raising you, and you are lowering yourself down. Allah takes you and even grasps you to the straight path and you are slipping away of it. Once you miss the straight path you are lost in this world and in the next. I may advise you to read the following verse and ponder over it:

“ But he who turneth away from remembrance of Me, his will be a narrow life, and I shall bring him blind to the assembly on the Day of Resurrection. He will say: My Lord! Wherefore hast Thou gathered me (hither) blind, when I was wont to see? He will say: So (it must be). Our revelations came unto thee but thou didst forget them. In like manner thou art forgotten this Day.” (Taha: 123-127)

Pornography is a Satanic invention. It is destructive to the person and the society. I may ask you what you learn from pornography and what you benefit??

I will answer it to you. You benefit nothing but Allah’s anger and curse. Pornography makes you even underestimate yourself and makes you look at woman in a non-godly and sinful sense even if she is closely related to you. May Allah guide you to understand the real danger of what you are getting addicted to and helps you come out of it and repent.

You can also read:

Addiction to Porn & Masturbation: Islamic Remedy

Advice to Overcome Porn Addiction

Watching Pornography to Fulfill One’s Desire

Watching Pornographic Movies

Allah Almighty knows best.

:wasalamex

[The Ruler]

You could begin with being disgusted in the 'Adult' stuff rather than yourself. I mean, frankly, what's so great about... those?

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[julie sarri]

you have to start by stopping all of these adult films then you can work on cleansing your mind increasing your Eemaan and repenting

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:salamext:

^ Those sort of advice really don't help. :-\

He KNOWS he has to repent and stop watching it, what he needs advice on is HOW he can do that.

[The Ruler]

I'm just curious... Where do you find the adult stuff? I mean, do you have to rent out DVDs or so? Or is it the magazines?

[majorzero]

^^Online.
Does sleeping earlier help a lot?

[The Ruler]

^^Online.

Ah ofcourse. I can't believe I missed that one.

Does sleeping earlier help a lot?

If you sacrifice sleeping time for poopy stuff like that, then yes, it might do. But if you still find yourself seeing/watching porn until 10:00 pm and then go to bed, I don't really think it makes much of a difference. That's like zina only once but not ten times. It really makes no difference. What you need is to occupy your time with somehting else. Something much better. Typically people would say, read the Qur'an or something man. But, realistically, porn to Qur'an is a BIG transition, and cannot be done so easily.

So perhaps you could start by watching "modest" movies... Those that have the occasional kissing scene but no porn. Try watching anime. Action, horror, thriller genre. No sickening romance.

:w:

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^^Online.
Does sleeping earlier help a lot?

Bro read this fatwa, it will tell you what helps and what doesnt.

http://www.islamicboard.com/advice-s...ml#post1017702

[FatimaAsSideqah]

As Salaam Alaykum Wa Rahmatullahi Wa Barakatuhu

Brother majorzero.

Advices from sisters Serene and Liúyú de Lian, its very good advices! Please keep it to with you. :D

Important thing is that please take it to time. And keep to repenting!

[Güven]

Ah ofcourse. I can't believe I missed that one.



If you sacrifice sleeping time for poopy stuff like that, then yes, it might do. But if you still find yourself seeing/watching porn until 10:00 pm and then go to bed, I don't really think it makes much of a difference. That's like zina only once but not ten times. It really makes no difference. What you need is to occupy your time with somehting else. Something much better. Typically people would say, read the Qur'an or something man. But, realistically, porn to Qur'an is a BIG transition, and cannot be done so easily.

So perhaps you could start by watching "modest" movies... Those that have the occasional kissing scene but no porn. Try watching anime. Action, horror, thriller genre. No sickening romance.

:w:

:sl:
Now this is GOOOD Advice :D