Can I go to the school prom?

[anonymous]

Asalamu Alaykum,

Well it's time to start paying for the school prom and I don't really want to go but all my friends ( a lot of muslims) are telling me to come as its my last year and it will be fun etc.. In my heart i feel its wrong to go islamically and i don't want to do anything against my religion but i was just wondering is it wrong? Thanks:statisfie

[aamirsaab]

:sl:
Don't go. It's useless - you see the exact same people that you would normally at school, only this time there's alcohol and dancing on the premises. Take up martial arts instead.

[Mikayeel]

:sl:

Back in year 11 i did go:(, Nd i got to be honest, like aamirsaab said its boring! We done it in the marriot hotel. The only thing i liked was the food :D

The rest was soo boring, soo my advice is with that money go to a very nice restaurant with ur friends, nd u will have a much better time!

[ayan333]

:sl:

quick question

i dnt wana go but in in student Government assciation n they are "making" us by the ticket and go

i havnt talked to the coordinator yet but wut do you think?

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[Al-Zaara]

They've been trying to get me to go for months, but I refuse! One or two Muslims are going and the rest not. I have friends who are non-Muslim and don't drink (atheists, not super-believing Christians as you might think at first!) and they ain't goin', so I wouldn't have anyone to hang around with. I've tried it with those that drink, it didn't work out, haha. I also have to work and earn a livin', no time.

It's up to you, though I'd say no.

[IbnAbdulHakim]

prom = music + dancing

hmm very unislamic


when i was in school my friends all asked me to go too, called up the day before everything. i didnt go and heck i was HAPPY i didnt, i saw the video they done and... :uuh:


anyway, inshaAllah you make the right choice

[SixTen]

prom = music + dancing

hmm very unislamic


when i was in school my friends all asked me to go too, called up the day before everything. i didnt go and heck i was HAPPY i didnt, i saw the video they done and... :uuh:


anyway, inshaAllah you make the right choice

Same, my friends were texting me like "all my friends were their but you..", which made me feel quite bad. Till I saw the photos of the event, which was pretty much a clubbing scene!

[AnonymousPoster]

Same, my friends were texting me like "all my friends were their but you..", which made me feel quite bad. Till I saw the photos of the event, which was pretty much a clubbing scene!

That's why I'm glad I went to a girls school.

We had a 'Gala' instead which is everything you have in a prom without the lads, but still had music and dancing, which I couldn't care less about at the time tbh.

But proms for a Muslimah, don't go please!

[crayon]

Have an anti prom! Get together with your muslim friends and do something special AND halal on the night of your school prom. :)

[Al-Zaara]

^ ;D It's like those un-popular kids at school aren't invited or something, they do an anti-thing. Stoopid movies. ;D

[crayon]

Lol, it's the exact opposite!... we muslims are too cool for regular prom.

[Al-Zaara]

Haha! Yup yup! ;D

[AnonymousPoster]

^ ;D It's like those un-popular kids at school aren't invited or something, they do an anti-thing. Stoopid movies. ;D

:D ;D Stoopid Movies,

Hun proms are dud, use Yr tym wisely, gud gal =P

[S_87]

Asalamu Alaykum,

Well it's time to start paying for the school prom and I don't really want to go but all my friends ( a lot of muslims) are telling me to come as its my last year and it will be fun etc.. In my heart i feel its wrong to go islamically and i don't want to do anything against my religion but i was just wondering is it wrong? Thanks:statisfie

you answered your own question

[UmmSqueakster]

I wasn't muslim in high school, and only went to prom my senior year. Big waste of time and money. I agree with the poster who said to organize and anti prom. Do something more halal, hang with friends, go bowling, go out to dinner, something, anything that doesn't compromise your deen.

[Nájlá]

lol u could do better stuff with ur money instead of wasting it on a school prom.

[Re.TiReD]

Agreed with all of the comments here.

What you do in your leisure time is up to you but this seems like a waste of time in my opinion. Why? Because of the atmosphere etc. Islam doesnt frown down upon socialising, No. Just try to do it in a halal way insha'Allah :) like getting all yer fish together for a partayy :D

[anonymous]

Thanks everyone...Even if i was allowed in islam i still really wouldn't want to go but i feel so pressured to go...the funny (ok not so funny as sad) thing is this pressure is mainly from my muslim friends and not the non-muslims. I don't think they would miss it but I will suggest it to them that we go out instead if they do good we can have fun if not im sure I can spend my time more productively...Thank you for all your comments...I have not idea how i'm going to tell me teacher im not coming though he might get angry.

[IbnAbdulHakim]

^ if he gets angry stuff a sock in his mouth


i'll get angry if he gets angry


his not allowed to get angry !!

[Nájlá]

sis this my last year in my high school and yeh we will have a school prom.
i am not going and teachers can say watever they want.


dont worry about the teachers

[truemuslim]

lol aamirsaab proms dont have alcahol, remember its by loser school?

sis its a waste of time
when my bro's go to prom or homecoming, they go in a $400 suit (:eek: ) looooooads of cologne, fixed up hair, nd wat they do ther? they meet up with all ther black nd muslim friends nd become very bored so they go gather into cars nd go chillin somewher else.
so they go to prom to go to somewher else. because its never wat they expected. its laaaaaaame

besides they got music, dancing, gurls not dressed appropriatly, nd that all equallllllls....

haram.

[anonymous]

Oh no the sis is right there is alcohol this is the end of 6th form prom thats another reason I don't want to go people will be drinking and the underage people who can't buy it will be already drunk..but Yeah i've made up my mind to not definately go inshallah Thanks peeps!:statisfie

[ummsara1108]

I think Proms keep the popularity contest going, drinking and partying = limo to distruction.

However the ceremony, the pictures and the memories outside of the prom = Priceless

[seeker-of-light]

dont go. even if i wasnt a muslim i wouldnt go but since i am thats even more reason not to go. i am 15 and prom will be for me in 3 years but still...is a waste of time and money seriously

[crayon]

Absolutely hilarious article I had to share.:D



"What’s the one question in the world that we all know the answer to but insist on freaking asking it anyway? If you have an ounce of logic in your head or at least caught a glimpse of the title, you probably have realized by now that this article is about proms and boycotting them of sorts. The question “As a Muslim, can I go to prom?” usually gets asked about oh, let’s say 5000 times a week or something. Most imams and local sheikhs have developed a standardized reply. They sound like this:
Confused Muslim student: Sheikh, can I go to my school’s prom?
Sheikh: No.
Confused Muslim student: But-
Sheikh: Proms are Haram.
Confused Muslim student: But-
Sheikh: If you go you’ll be Haram
Confused Muslim student: But-
Sheikh: Don’t be Haram.
Confused Muslim student: But-
Sheikh: Shut up. Go pray two nafl.
I’m not here to give you a scholarly opinion. That’s not my job. I’m here to tell you why proms are for people who don’t really have much spunk in their lives which is why you shouldn’t go. If you have an ounce of coolness in you you’d boycott your prom just as I did.
“But Hamzah, isn’t like the prom the most amazing thing ever? Oh my gyad it’s like the kewlest thing ever invented.”
Yes… I’m sure its “kewl”. But it’s only cool for morons who have nothing else to do in their lives. Observe the following chart: it lists the most important events in a non-Muslim’s entire life.

Proms are the pinnacle of a Western person’s life. Exactly what’s so amazing about it? Hell I don’t even know. You still see the same people after and the world is EXACTLY the same. Proms aren’t magical. And if they were then it’d be super Haram because black magic is a no-no.
“But I just want to go to the prom or post-prom party and hang out with my friends LOL”
Yeah I’m sure you will. You’re just gonna be sitting in the corner on a crappy wooden chair while twiddling your thumbs and thinking to yourself, “Man this is so much fun. I’m glad I spent $300 on a suit/dress that’s getting wrinkled right now. I’m not here to impress anyone anyway but I’m sure people will think I’m cool, despite not being able to drink, dance, smoke, swear, wear shorts above the knees and all those other Haram activities.”
If you go, friends will indirectly pressure you. What happens if they offer beer?

Or when you get macked on?

Or when something else Haram arises?

So the question is… what ISN’T Haram at the prom? Hardly anything. Proms suck. And you will suck for attending.
What can you do instead? Go out with your friends and have a good time. Anything with your buddies is more fun than the craptacular prom. It’s cheaper too. All your friends going to prom? Then hang out with your mom. Moms are hilariously cool.
“But Hamzah, all my friends pressure me to go. I HATE PEER PRESSURE. *screams*”
This one is easy. Do what I did… play off the whole “I’m-too-good-for-this-lame-prom” bit.
“Yo Hamzah, you buy your tickets yet?”
“Tickets for what?”
“PROM! OBVIOUSLY.”
“Nah man. I’m busy.”
“TOO BUSY? WHA-”
“I know. I’m the man. Maybe next time?”
Making yourself look busy makes you appear cool and “above-the-system.” If they make fun of you, then you can make fun of them for spending $400 or more on a night they probably won’t remember because they’ll get hammered.
We’re too good for proms. Spend your time doing something cooler. I hear Jenga is amazing."


http://maniacmuslim.com/2005/06/15/boycott-the-prom/

[IbnAbdulHakim]

^ LOL that article was beyond brilliant

[Ansariyah]

sis dont listen to anybody, do what u want. thats what I do. Dont be part of any crowd be yourself. You know tht u dnt want to go, so dont go. Who cares.

ur friends can do what they want.

[AvarAllahNoor]

Prom, more american drivel! - It's a new craze, which shouldn't even be in British culture! What happened to the school disco? teachers making fools of themselves (not drunk) Those where the days...

[Güven]

I hate proms , never went there They went dancing and I was chilling home watching movies instead with a bag of chips and a glass of coke in my hand
....Now thats party!:coolious:


:w:

[IbnAbdulHakim]

I hate proms , never went there They went dancing and I was chilling home watching movies instead with a bag of chips and a glass of coke in my hand
....Now thats party!:coolious:


:w:

your SO cool :ooh:



i was doing something which i cant remember because i neva even gave prom any thought :D

[qassy!]

proms? girls, music!

[BlackMamba]

Well what could a Muslim really even do at prom? Like all I can see happening is a good muslim falling into shaitans traps and doing something that he will regret for possibly the rest of his life. Nothing good can happen from going.

[north_malaysian]

there is no such thing as prom in my secondary school! :D

Maybe because it's:

1) Religious school
2) All-boys school...

We only had 2 grand dinners every year (before Eid Al Fitr holiday, and at the end of the year)

and i think like 99.9% of the public schools nationwide dont have proms too...maybe only the international schools in Malaysia have proms...

[aminahjaan]

Lol why WOULD you go? Sorry, but you're asking can I go as if we're your parents. We can't tell you that you can't go, but I advise not to. What's the point?
We have a prom here in Arizona just for girls. It's for Muslim girls who graduated. We all get in dresses and celebrate and stuff. If you're a guy invite your guy muslim friends watch a movie, hit up the big screen, chill. Or spend time with your family. Prom is so retarded! hahahaha, all the people do is dance and then rent hotel rooms for the "after party", lol I'm sure you're not into that. Besides its money, getting the tux, the girl/boy (yes you have to have a date), the limo. It's expensive.

So chill, if your classmates think you're a loser for not going to prom then I'm sorry that's just a weird school. My brother didn't go to prom but he's still tight. Don't say that not going is social suicide. Prom is OVERRATED. Especially if you don't have a date to spend it with.