assalamu alaykum
Firstly, it important to understand that what Allah prohibits and permits is due totally to His wisdom and knowledge of His slaves. And this also applies to who He punishes and for what reasons.
Secondly, I suggest that you abandon anyone/anything who causes you to have doubts in your faith :)
But when i look around me i guess some questions just play on my head like do the non believers really deserve such punishments
To put it straight and forward, yes because we don’t know what the hearts harbor, only Allah does. Subhanallah they have a whole life to live and repent they have a whole life to adhere to the warnings and punishments But THEY choose to ignore that. THEY choose to worship other than Allah, despite what he has bestowed upon them of blessings.
Compare it to your parents. How many times do you get told off and warned from your parents not to do something, but when you go ahead and do it anyway, and in the end they pull your ear for not listening lol :p because they have warned you and yet you’ve gone against them! If this is your parents, than what about allah!
some of them are really really good people i am friends with non muslims and they are wonderful the things they do doesnt come across bad but when anmuslim person does the same thing it looks bad why is that
Lol because we both have different standards and ideas, I guess :D
Also how come talikng to the oosite sex is so wrong even if the people are jus your friends.
If you can control your eyes, your manner of speech, etc than you cannot control your heart. Of course everyone has clean intentions when talking to the opposite gender, well most people would, however sometimes things happen which we dont like and cannot control, such as developing feelings for the other person. You just have to look around you to realize that so many people have fallen into this trap, and so many get hurt because of it. Its better to keep the doors closed than to open them and force them shut, as someone else mentioned here.
How come something seem so minor but in islam its looked as a really big sin.
And again this is where allahs wisdom comes in. what we see as minor, islam sees as major. What we need to do, is instead of looking at something from our own perspectives, we need to look at it from the Islamic perspective. That way, inshallah we will understand its proper status and see why its seen as something major.
And even if we don’t understand it from anislamic perspective, at the very least but our responsibitly should be that we trust that Allah prohibist and permits for us sccording to his knowledge and that Just because we connot see the wisdom behind it, it dosnt mena that there isn’t any. :)