format_quote Originally Posted by
doorster
What is actually forbidden in Islam is that a person refers to him/herself as the son or daughter of someone other than the real biological father.
That is how I have understood it too. JazakAllah kheyr bro...
People do not get confused when you change your lastname after marrying, that's really an odd thing to state. When they want to know who your father is, or mother, you state their names. Rather would it be more odd of a thing if you say you are married but your wife/husband has another lastname. But then again, it has become more common to keep your own name aswell, which means both ways goes (changing and keeping) in many places, it isn't against the customs. And it is not haram. You are not denying your lineage, just as it is not obligatory to have a "Muslim" name (as soom mean, Arabic) 'cause as long as it has a good meaning, it doesn't make you less of a Muslim.
When you change it is often to just feel you two are a family now, 'cause the kids get the fathers name in many cases, so Mum having another lastname would feel odd to some...
Again, it is not haram as long as you are not denyingyour lineage.
Sister, can you explain further, how can you not have your father's lastname? Or is it your mother's?