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Jazak'Allah kheir to everyone who took the time to answer. I am not exaggerating when I say every post has truly helped me. It makes such a difference knowing there are your muslim brothers and sisters who understands you.
One simple clarification though... It was not a matter of me being madly in love with him and him telling me he loves me too, but was lying. No. I would never have accepted any relationship of that sort, and he knows that. Yet, there was something which I believe was true and I believed him to be righteous, not perfect, but a
good man. love is not a word i nmy vocabulary, I do not say "I loved him", because I didn't, I simply cared for him greatly and believed in this person. I was almost comically wrong.I doubt in the truth of his words now. I am constantly replaying events in my head, unable to focus in uni, or in anything else I do as a matter a fact.
Insh'Allah,
Insh'Allah I will never go through this again.
I rather be cynical and untrustworthy of all than put my trust in another person again. I've had enough.
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Alpha Dude
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I feel really sorry for you sis. I don't have any adice in regards to how you could feel at ease again, but I just want to add more emphasis on the fact that sisters need to be on their guards at ALL TIMES!
Seriously, I couldn't say that enough at all. I honestly find it hard to read threads that talk about a sister's honour having been violated through no fault of her own, but it makes me angry in cases where the violation could have been avoided if the sister in question were to have behaved as she SHOULD have behaved.
Sorry, this is NOT being judgemental at all. I'm saying this out of care for our sisters and this is a message to all sisters (because it hurts hearing of something bad happen to them), not just the OP: STOP BEING SO NAIVE. You all NEED to be on your guards at all times. Don't leave it until you get 'hurt' and 'learn' a lesson.
I'd say this repeatedly a thousand times, especially to those who are in their teens and believe that they are madly and deeply in 'love' (unmarried, of course) with what they think is THE most bestest, perfect and amazing guy in the world (cos undoubtedly, you will find ANYBODY that makes you feel good about yourself to be the most amazing). The shaytan will come at you with the most deceptive of devices and you will find it hard to resist or even believe that you're being taken advantage of, so it is imperative that you don't drop guard at all costs. Protect your chastity, no matter what!
Thank you. You are right one hundred percent. Your words have truly struck me, jazak'Allah kheir brother.
There was no offense taken from your words since they were all fair;although,one small comment, as I have mentioned earlier... I was not one of those teens in love...absolutly not, I have matured and been through much more than what girls my age have been through, and that has made me strong. Although, when suffering numerable blows, one after the other, you start to feel weak...and feeling weak, I have let my guard down, hoping to find peace. And have been hurt even more...yet it was my fault, the blame is also on me, and this is what pains me the most.
Wa alaikum asalaam.
Think of this as a lesson learned. Be thankful that you didn't do anything very wrong alhumdulillah. You let your guard down, you probably did some things you shouldn't have, you made a mistake. Okay. Now, learn from it and move on. Ask Allah to forgive you because that is the most important thing. It is good that you feel guilty and disapointed. That shows you know it was wrong... and inshallah it won't happen again. Be strong and be careful
jazak'Allah kheir sister you seemed to have understood me the most, it truly eased my heart to know that some one in this world knows where I am coming from...for I cannot tell my loved ones here...they care for me too much and would be deeply disturbed by this. Jazak'Allah kheir once more,
know that the time you have taken this answer my post has eased the heart of a person in pain...
:sl: Little one so sorry that you have had to go through this but i suppose this is a lesson for you in ther future. You are not the one in the wrong for believing this person, this person has wronged you by lying to you also this person has wronged himself by lying to you because as you said Allah knows everything................... be at ease little one but be careful........:sunny::w:
Thank you for your kind, wise words...Allah(swt) will judge this person and I will empty my heart to Allah(swt),in the end, only God may truly help me... Jazak'Allah kheir for being so comprehensive and
kind...