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anonymous
Hello and Salam
Im a young muslim male and ive fallen for a muslim girl, she also likes me but the thing is we cannot marry each other for atleast 3 years due to many reasons..., i started talking to her online, we shared pictures etc and now i completely crossed my limit and spoke to her over the phone. I used to pray 5 times a day but since i started talking to this girl i havent prayed properly. I want to stop talking to her because ive completely messed up myself and i want to stop right now. I know how love marriages always have a low chance of working out especially ones over the internet, and i know how talking to this girl is haraam because we even flirt etc... it gets really bad somtimes..., i want to stop talking to this girl but how should i do it should i just stop completely because this would hurt her and depress her. Please help me i want to stop this haraam i am commiting because i feel too guility now.
Would asking Allah for help be bad for this situation?
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No one is this world is unforgettable, unforgivable and irreplacable.
You will hurt her now, yes. But you will save her hereafter. Besides, she will forget, forgive and replace you just as you will, her. She will thank and respect you for it one day.
Think about how hurt your soul is getting trying to carry this haram and her haq you are burdening yourself with. In the hereafter, she will blame you for all the haram you are doing today...and you will blame her. Think about how sympathetically angry your creator is getting.
It is never too deep a relationship. It is never too late. There is no point which renders the relationship impossible to break or temporarily pause. 'After this point' doesn't exist.
You are feeling the right things. Stick some shoes on those feelings and take them for a walk down the right path.
Ask Allah to give you the strength to do this.
Stop it before you are stopped. Take heed of the signs and feelings because as time progresses, He may not bother anymore.
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