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anonymous
hello there,
this is my first time posting because im in a awkward situation.
im 20 years old and have had a gf for the past 4 years. before the bashing occurs or what not for having one i know what people have to say but i couldn't marry someone unless i truly know them. the only problem i have now is well she's a christian convert, her father is muslim ( he married a white lady who was christian). now honestly, to me i'd love for her to be muslim but will i go to hell for marrying her? because im planning on getting engaged with her in a few months after she finishes school.
Hey,
Hell? Stop thinking about whether or not you will go to hell.
To me, marriage is about practicality. Will she be able to cater for you? At the end of the day, you should be marrying someone who will take you closer to Allah. But I am not to judge. So you love her...nice. Well, in islam, you are allowed to marry a non-muslim woman as long as she is willing to embrace islam soon. So nah, you won't go to hell.
However...if you guys dnt live a good exemplory islamic life and your kids grow up questioning islam..and god...then guess what...Allah is gonna give you a harsh question/answer session in the next life. Think of the repercussions your extended and immediate family and ur own faith will experience from this. for example...ur kids will become closer to their christian cousins than their muslim cousins..they will be confused little buggers...what then? force islam onto them?
For your sake, I hope she converts and you guys can provide a clean, clear-cut islamic lifestyle for them to take in and embrace.
peace.