My will to live is weak

[Zubu]

I'm a sophomore in high school and can't believe how bad my life has changed in the past few years. Basketball used to be my life, and for my whole life I thought I was actually good at this game. But in 8th grade it became apparent I was a nobody, and I didn't want to do anything, so I quit everything I used to do, basketball, soccer, tennis, everything. Can you imagine your whole life thinking you're a somebody but in the end you're really nothing? My grades are no good in school, I don't do any sports, I have no special talents like music or anything. What makes it worse is that my older brother is literally better than me in everything, in sports, smarts, and everyone expected me to be better than him. He even got a 40 on the MCAT, when I struggle to just get one A in a class. He's also a good muslim, he will go to heaven after having a great life on this earth, when I know my destiny is in hell for all my sins. I'm so stupid I can't even speak a word the native language my parents speak, even though my brother can speak it fluently. My parents now doubt I will go anywhere with my life. I used to be pretty popular in middle school, but since then everyone has left me. I didn't even do anything wrong. I'm so lonesome in school I find myself roaming the hallways alone all day. I fell in love with this one girl, and even though I know I'm not supposed to, I can't help it. We used to talk a lot and I even bought her some jewelry, but one day she just stopped talking to me, and now everyday she ignores me every time she sees me. I didn't do anything wrong, she just started doing this to me one day, just like everyone else. Though inside I can't blame her because I know that I'm a loser nobody, there's nothing special about me. I feel as if Allah just wants me to be lonely. I put my head on the mat everyday and pray hoping God is listening, but it's like He has wants me to live everyday in struggle and loneliness. I just want to run to marijuana to free me from my problems temporarily, and I wonder if I'd be better off dead. Now no one loves me, and all I do now is listen to Tupac because it makes me feel a little bit less lonely. At the end of the day I think I have been cursed to live a miserable life on this planet and then face an eternity in hell. I don't care if anybody reads this post or not, I just wanted to get my feelings out somehow. Maybe I'll have blown my head off by the time someone reads this.

[Tara x]

Salam
Bro dont think like that my heart goes out to you but you must never think that Allah wants you to live a miserable life....
iv done something in the past which has nerly showed me death and it isnt nice trust me iv felt the same way as ur feelin but it will get better Inshallah...
you are a somebody put all effort into Islam.....
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dnt do anything silly ....

[AntiKarateKid]

I remember I was like that for about four years then Allah blessed me with a life turnaround.


No soul is burdened beyond what it can take. Since you are going through so much, Allah must believe that you are strong enough to endure this. So persevere and put every ounce of trust in Allah. Easier said than done I know but still you must.

For truly with hardship comes ease; truly with hardship comes ease. (Surat al-Inshirah: 5-6)


... Whoever has fear of God - He will give him a way out and provide for him from where he does not expect. Whoever puts his trust in God - He will be enough for him... (Surat at-Talaq: 2-3)

[roohani.doctor]

OMG please don't do anything stupid. You are not a loser! You are not a nobody!

A lot of us have been in situations similar to yours and sometimes I know life gets hard and you don't have the will to live. We have all been through that. Life was never meant to be a piece of cake. I've been through almost everything you said and I know exactly how you feel. I also know that I DID get through it and though I never thought I'd actually be remotely happy, I'm at a place in my life where I can actually laugh and feel like I'm worth something.

Listen, please have the strength to hope and love YOURSELF. That is the first step. You have to believe in yourself. The world does not dictate you, you dictate yourself. YOU are the one who matters. Even if no one seems to be by your side and no one seems to care, YOU have to be the one to start caring first.

Please don't take offence or anything, but you don't seem to hold much value to yourself. You talk as if you are worth nothing. Once you start thinking that way, people start distancing themselves. I've noticed this a lot. I see randoms looking depressed and sad and lonely and they always seem to be sending out 'don't approach me, I hate myself' vibes. Well, sometimes I do approach them and talk to them (I'm kinda weird) and you know what I find? That these people are not much different from myself and they remind me so much about how I used to be. And they are always so interesting to talk to!
They've just formed this illusion that every body is out to get them and that no one will ever like them. You have to realise that you have to make an effort for people to notice you. You said you were a good basketball player but that you quit. You were the one who was putting distance between yourself and the others.

The first step is opening up and letting people know how you feel. Don't keep everything inside cuz you are just gonna break some day.

You are Allah's creation. You are a human being. You are a wonderful person. You are unique. You are a basket ball player. You are somebody's son. You are someone's brother. You are a person who loves sports. You are YOU. And you owe it to yourself to be happy.

Also, another thing I'd like to say, music -in my experience- has always brought me down. I loved listening to it cuz at the time I used to think that it was so helping and soothing and omg all the lyrics were EXACTLY how I was feeling and what I was going through...but after years of listening to the same thing ... I realised it hadn't really changed anything in MY life. I hadn't moved from my circle of 'life sucks' one inch. Instead I was actually closer to losing my mind because that's what music does to you. It does NOT help one bit and manages to push you over the edge. It almost did to me. So a higher and much more difficult road is to stop listening to something that serves no point. Instead, maybe you could listen to nasheeds?

I've rambled on and on but all I really wanted to say was, have faith in Allah and yourself. Love yourself. Believe in yourself. Don't compare yourself to others. You have NOT been cursed and you are NOT meant to be in hell for eternity. And please don't do anything risky. It wont solve anything.

I know you think you are alone and nobody cares but I care : ) Seriously, we all care here.

May Allah ease your troubles and may He guide you and bless you.
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[Tara x]

Salamz
Zubu i hpe u are okay
Allah is always with you as we all are here if u need to talk..... :)

[Eric H]

Greetings and peace be with you Zubu

Please come back and say hello, people are worrying about you here, how are you today,

In the spirit of praying for an inner peace that surpasses all understanding,

Eric

[sshussain]

In Shaa Allah this will help:

One of the means of treating them is mentioned in the saheeh hadeeth from Ibn Mas’ood (may Allaah be pleased with him): “There is no-one who is afflicted by distress and grief, and says: ‘Allaahumma inni ‘abduka ibn ‘abdika ibn amatija naasyati bi yadika, maada fiyya hukmuka, ‘adlun fiyya qadaa’uka. As’aluka bi kulli ismin huwa laka sammayta bihi nafsaka aw anzaltahu fi kitaabika aw ‘allamtahu ahadan min khalqika aw ista’tharta bihi fi ‘ilm il-ghayb ‘indaka an taj’al al-Qur’aana rabee’ qalbi wa noor sadri wa jalaa’ huzni wa dhihaab hammi (O Allaah, I am Your slave, son of Your slave, son of Your maidservant; my forelock is in Your hand, Your command over me is forever executed and Your decree over me is just. I ask You by every name belonging to You which You have named Yourself with, or revealed in Your Book, or You taught to any of Your creation, or You have preserved in the knowledge of the Unseen with You, that You make the Qur’aan the life of my heart and the light of my breast, and a departure for my sorrow and a release for my anxiety),’ but Allaah will take away his distress and grief, and replace it with joy.” This is one of the remedies prescribed in sharee’ah.

One can also say “Laa ilaaha illa Anta, subhaanaka inni kuntu min al-zaalimeen (none has the right to be worshipped but You (O Allaah), Glorified (and Exalted) be You [above all that (evil) they associate with You]! Truly, I have been of the wrongdoers)” [al-Anbiya 21:87 – interpretation of the meaning].

Whoever wants to know more than that should refer to what the scholars have written about dhikr, such as al-Waabil al-Sayyib by Ibn al-Qayyim; al-Kalim al-Tayyib by Shaykh al-Islam Ibn Tayimiyah; al-Adhkaar by al-Nawawi; Zaad al-Ma’aad by Ibn al-Qayyim.

[Ansariyah]

Brother pls don't harm urself. Allah loves u, he gave u life, u sinned? so..who doesn't? We all have our flaws, no one is perfect. It's a human trait to sin, that's how u learn from ur mistakes. Try not to compare urself so much to ur brother, u are 2 different people.

If ur life is so bad, how bad is life for the lil Kid in gaza whos parents lay in a pool of blood? The lil orphan in a 3rd world country who will die out of thirst n hunger?

..........say Alhamdulilah.

"..Be mindful of Allah, you will find Him before you. Get to know Allah in prosperity and He will know you in adversity. Know that what has passed you by was not going to befall you; and that what has befallen you was not going to pass you by. And know that victory comes with patience, relief with affliction, and ease with hardship."
hadeeth.

May Allah protect u ameen!

[miss red]

Hellooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo?
i hope you'r good where are you?
try to take things in a positive way that will make a change
yes prayer, call god to help you but that isn't solution alon god orderd us to do than with working on solving proplems with reasons (asbab) so look at the good things in you, you sure have some and again you sure have some, if you don't know thim try to find thim out even get help from specialist on that and to help out cause your so depressed.

Try to find out why people are geting away? and fix the wrong.
But for a start go to specialist or doctor to get red of depress

finaly you are teenager and it's hard time alot in it are super sad, so do'nt think you the one

I hope that help and let us hear from pal.

[coddles76]

Zubu,
I don't mean to be harsh but you'll be much worse off if you take your own life, MUCH worse off!
Allah SWT has given us a free will and a free will to choose whats right and whats wrong, but he has also given us the tools to succeed in life and these tools are the Quran and Sunnah. If you utilise these tools you'll be able to deal with in situation that comes your way. There will be times of great tests and tribulations but patience is your key and Allah SWT will always test us to see which of us are grateful and patient. Saying that Allah SWT has made this situation is not a good start. Pick yourself up and start sounding like a man and take control of your life, take control and start tackling your issues head on then ask ALLAh SWT for help and he will SURELY help you.
Stand up, put your head up, shoulder back and start telling yourself you can do it!!!!

[*Innocent GaL*]

I'm a sophomore in high school and can't believe how bad my life has changed in the past few years. Basketball used to be my life, and for my whole life I thought I was actually good at this game. But in 8th grade it became apparent I was a nobody, and I didn't want to do anything, so I quit everything I used to do, basketball, soccer, tennis, everything. Can you imagine your whole life thinking you're a somebody but in the end you're really nothing? My grades are no good in school, I don't do any sports, I have no special talents like music or anything. What makes it worse is that my older brother is literally better than me in everything, in sports, smarts, and everyone expected me to be better than him. He even got a 40 on the MCAT, when I struggle to just get one A in a class. He's also a good muslim, he will go to heaven after having a great life on this earth, when I know my destiny is in hell for all my sins. I'm so stupid I can't even speak a word the native language my parents speak, even though my brother can speak it fluently. My parents now doubt I will go anywhere with my life. I used to be pretty popular in middle school, but since then everyone has left me. I didn't even do anything wrong. I'm so lonesome in school I find myself roaming the hallways alone all day. I fell in love with this one girl, and even though I know I'm not supposed to, I can't help it. We used to talk a lot and I even bought her some jewelry, but one day she just stopped talking to me, and now everyday she ignores me every time she sees me. I didn't do anything wrong, she just started doing this to me one day, just like everyone else. Though inside I can't blame her because I know that I'm a loser nobody, there's nothing special about me. I feel as if Allah just wants me to be lonely. I put my head on the mat everyday and pray hoping God is listening, but it's like He has wants me to live everyday in struggle and loneliness. I just want to run to marijuana to free me from my problems temporarily, and I wonder if I'd be better off dead. Now no one loves me, and all I do now is listen to Tupac because it makes me feel a little bit less lonely. At the end of the day I think I have been cursed to live a miserable life on this planet and then face an eternity in hell. I don't care if anybody reads this post or not, I just wanted to get my feelings out somehow. Maybe I'll have blown my head off by the time someone reads this.

[PIE][BANANA]Salaam Bro,[/BANANA]
im also a sophomore in High School, and dont give up HOPE! high school IS full of peer pressures n stuff and u'll feel tense n stressed like almost ALL the time.. but thats normal i think. Just do ur best in everything and thats all that matters right? also, im pretty sure praying would help, put ur heart like FULLY into it and u'll feel calmer... also, parents are a great help to talk to, im serious. u may not believe this but parents can b ur rlly close friends and solve most of ur problems, i know frm prior experience.... go to ur parents, cuz they wont let their child down im pretty sure...

basically wat im tryin to say is dont give up hope cuz if u do, then evrything will just crash down. rely n go to ppl u feel safe n close to...


hope this helps at all.

[S]Wasalaam[/S]
*Innocent GaL*[/PIE]

[Amat Allah]

I hope u r ok brother may Allah fill ur heart with happiness faith his rememberance and satisfaction my dear brother and ease ur life and reward u with the highest levels of paradise with out being reckoning Ameeeeeeeeeen

brother u r so special and really important to us please come back we r u family here and we will try our best to give u help and support after Allah inshaa Allah ok??

come among ur brothers and sisters and btw u r not alone Allah is watching u my dear and waiting for u to return to him and the most important to trust him laa ilaha illa Allah...

and who doesn`t sin in this world my dear no one everyone in this world is sining even with out knowing and Allah is always with us wating for us to repent and ask him for his mercy and forgiveness ...

didn`t Allah say:

[53] Say: "O 'Ibâdî (My slaves) who have transgressed against themselves (by committing evil deeds and sins)! Despair not of the Mercy of Allâh: verily, Allâh forgives all sins. Truly He is Oft-Forgiving, Most Merciful."Az Zomar

then what r u waiting for my dear brother ?? run to ur creator run to the most Compassionate the most Merciful run to Allah with repentance and he will accept u inshaa Allah coz he promised those who repent sincerely to be forgiven and all their bad deeds will be erased and they will be rewarded with so much ,All Glory and Praise be to Allah...

On the authority of Anas (radiAllaahu anhu) who said : I heard the Messenger of Allaah (sallAllaahu alayhi wa sallam) say : Allaah the Almighty has said : O Son of Aadam, as long as you invoke Me and ask of Me, I shall forgive you for what you have done, and I shall not mind. O Son of Aadam, were your sins to reach the clouds of the sky and you then asked forgiveness from Me, I would forgive you. O Son of Aadam, were you to come to Me with sins nearly as great as the Earth, and were you then to face Me, ascribing no partner to Me, I would bring you forgiveness nearly as great as it [too]. It was related by at-Tirmidhee, who said that it was a Hasan hadeeth.

Abu Musa Al-Ash`ari (May Allah be pleased with him) reported: The Prophet (PBUH) said: "Allah, the Exalted, will continue to stretch out His Hand in the night so that the sinners of the day may repent, and continue to stretch His Hand in the daytime so that the sinners of the night may repent, until the sun rises from the west".[Muslim].

“And verily, I am indeed forgiving to him who repents, believes (in My Oneness, and associates none in worship with Me) and does righteous good deeds, and then remains constant in doing them (till his death)”[Ta-Ha 20:82]

“And He it is Who accepts repentance from His slaves, and forgives sins, and He knows what you do”[al-Shoora 42:25]

see Allah is merciful to us and he is always there for us always with us ,we just need to return to him thats it ...I am really sure that you will be an amazing good man my brother and you will shine like the sun to light the way for the others...Ya Rabb Ameeeeeeen


u r not a nobody u r someone soo precious my dear who we love respect and want him to live happy and satisfied and want him to be in the highest levels of paradise Ameeeeen ^^

and never look at the others abilities coz u have an amazing great abilities that they don`t have coz each one of us Allah created him with something speacial the others do not have...try to discover ur self and trust me u will find wonders mashaa Allah...

we are all love u care about u and wish u the best ^^


praise be to Allah and peace and blessings of Allah be upon the last of the prophets and messangers Muhammad
(salla Allaho Alyhi wa sallam)

may Allah guide you ,love you ,fill your heart with happiness ,satisfaction,warmth,love ,peace and the most important of his rememberance and may Allah protect you from all harms,sins,shaitan and hellfire and make you pass the seraat as an eye blink to enter the highest levels of paradise with out being reckoning with Rasool Allah (salla Allaho Alyhi Wa Sallam )and his Sahaba( may Allah be pleased with them) to see Allah`s Al Mighty face and to sit with his prophets and angels Alyhom asalam eating from the fruit of Jannat Al ferdaws..the same Duaa for all jins and mankind...

praise be to Allah and peace and blessings of Allah be upon the last of the prophets and messangers Muhammad
(salla Allaho Alyhi wa sallam)

Ameeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeen

read this my brother..inshaa Allah...

http://www.witness-pioneer.org/vil/hadeeth/riyad/00/chap002.htm

http://www.islaam.net/main/display.php?id=204&category=24

take care of ur self ^^

[Thinker]

What makes it worse is that my older brother is literally better than me in everything, in sports, smarts, and everyone expected me to be better than him. He even got a 40 on the MCAT, when I struggle to just get one A in a class..

I have two sons, it soon became clear as they started school and I helped them with their homework that one was brighter than the other and this was reflected, throughout their school years, in exam results right up to the end of their pre-university level education. The older boy (less bright) failed to get grades sufficiently good enough to get a University place. That boy today has a Porche parked outside his own house and earns more money than his wife who is a successful lawyer. The younger (more intelligent) boy is also successful but not as successful as his older brother. How did this come about? It was a tortoise and hare story. The older boy doggedly dragged himself forward through pre-Uni entrance courses and through University and onto a good career which has rewarded his hard work and determination. For the younger boy things were not happening fast enough, he dropped out of Uni and after failing at a few ventures is now struggling up the greasy pole of life behind his brother.

The moral of the story is that ‘A’ grades are great to have but not having them doesn’t automatically mean failure.

[Layla454]

Brother, please don't do anything silly. You have a lot to live for, even if you think otherwise. No matter how hard your life is right now, remember that someone else's life is much worse.

[Zahida]

:sl: Zubu. I felt really sad when i read your post and have sympathy for you, but little one ALL the people who have replied are genuinely concerned for you and given you so much good advice, please learn from it...............

I would just like to point out as a mother that if my son/daughter did anything like what you are thinking would destroy me and little one my kids are my life!!! It would destroy me.....

Take time out and think about all the people who are around you and those who love you including your family/parents...... Please do not punish them.....by doing anything silly or selfish........... You can turn your life around. I know you can.....

We are all here for you anytime you need to talk and good listeners............

If anything bad happened to you i for one and everybody who has taken the time to talk to you would be very very hurt!!!!

Take care..............:w::bump1:

[Tony]

Peace Zubu, Allah the All Knowing has written your path and your strength will flow from your hardships. The despair you feel and isolation IS BECAUSE YOUR DIFFERENT, you are a Muslim, you are saved, you have Allah on your side. Tupacs dead and gone, youre still here and Allah is shaping you, thank Allah for loving you so much he has seen fit to use you for some greater purpose than being someones boyfriend or team captain. Chin up bro you think you are nothing but you are Allahs slave, it doesnt get any better, put effort into prayers and let the noise of those prayers drown out shayatans whispering. Subhan Allah, may Allah guide and protect you bro

[جوري]

Maybe admin can see if he left an email address when signing up for this forum and contact him directly.. Young men especially when depressed are impulsive and I do fear he made good on his last intention.

can someone try to contact him pls if this is possible?

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[Zahida]

:sl: That is a good idea It is our farz to look out for this young man especially as he has extended his hand obviously in the need of help. Ameen............:w::smile:

Maybe admin can see if he left an email address when signing up for this forum and contact him directly.. Young men especially when depressed are impulsive and I do fear he made good on his last intention.

can someone try to contact him pls if this is possible?

:w:

[جوري]

baraka Allah feeki ukhty..
I hope they will let us know insha'Allah if they have contacted him and that he is ok insha'Allah.. or I hope he is reading this and feeling the kinship of his ummah..imsad

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