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AntiKarateKid
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The incident leaves me fuming at the thugs who killed him but reaching out to my bro feels strangely awkward whereas my friends regard me as warm and caring. What should I tell myself and him?
You find it easier to reach out to your friends because you are used to being around them when they are in trouble or whatnot (you know how to deal with it because you have had more experience) - but I doubt you've had nearly that much experience with your brother (like most people) because he's hardly ever been in such situations (so you've not had the experience of helping him throughout).
It's not uncommon to feel such way and is part of our invincibility complex (where basically we think we are invincible until someone dies or gets hurt really bad [heart attack etc] - it shocks us back into reality and makes us realise we are not invincible at all. When that happens to someone close, we just don't know how to deal with it; we don't have the experience or knowlege)
Comfort your brother when you can but don't force it on him (don't go hugging him every 10 seconds, he's trying to get through it too). Ask him how he is feeling and if he does anything silly, then don't be too harsh on him (i.e use kiddy gloves for a while).
My condolonces to all those who have suffered as a result of this incident. May Allah make it easy for you all.