Originally Posted by AnonymousGender
I think I know exactly what you mean!
Our Ummah is connected because of what's in our hearts and when we're alone we take time to develop what's in our hearts. We spend our personal time contemplating this Dunya, thinking of the Hereafter...etc. We create bonds because it a Muslim's duty to visit our brothers/sister when they are sick, when they are not feeling good, to support them, to help them learn...etc.
Investing time with people is a long term investment that has long term rewards. It may make sense to think "if I prayed I can help increase my imaan instead just hanging with Muslims that just seem to be gettin' along at the moment" but you invest time in relationships so when the going does
get tough for our fellow brother/sisters, well you can help! It is a way of increasing your imaan because you learn to patiently love (for the sake of Allah) and wait for your Ummah.
But of course, life is about balance. Personal time is needed, sometimes you want to focus on your own prayer in a place where you feel comfortable.
Or you could be shy. Don't worry. It is a blessing!
I know I am very shy. I find the courage to speak because I think if I need to speak then it needs to be about Islam and something beneficial, I feel an obligation to make sure Islam is talked about and Allah (swt) is Glorified through the use of our tongues. But my shyness also prevents me from saying anything impulsive to others I might regret.
In the end, the feeling of being part of this Ummah is something you yourself need to confirm in your own mind and heart. Allah (swt) has Blessed His Slaves. We enjoin in good and forbid in evil through multiple forms of worship! And Allah (swt) has Blessed you surely to be part of this special group! You just need to see that. That's what really bonds us together. Of course, the most fulfilling and blessed bond is that between your Lord. We all put that bond over any bond, but the Ummah is full of the love for the sake of Allah. Being with people who have strong bond with the One and Only God will only help not hurt you. So don't feel shy, sad or reluctant. Truly, you and all our Ummah fellows are of the greatest group!