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Assalam - O - Alaikum,
I am writing this question after much tiredness, confusion and depression. Alhamdolilah i am a Muslim, in soul and mind, i am blessed with strong faith and true teachings of Islam. Although i have a long way to be able to call myself a Momin; but to my capacity and knowledge i try to follow the path of the righteous, i pray and practice my religion to my best possible efforts.
I know whatever befall upon us is to test us, to ensure we are on the right path and last but not the least to keep us believing Allah is there to help and guide us…or may be its just a punishment. But these few months had been very tough on me.....i lost my mother in a matter of weeks, the one person who truly understood me and helped and shaped me to whatever i am today. Composing myself and moving on was very difficult, but yet with Allah's blessings i did. Then my life took a sharp turn and my family decided to get me married to somebody, everything was going very smoothly, istikharas were all ok, the family and the person were also very good. Although initially it was difficult for me to accept this sudden and speedy pace of the matter but i surrendered; hoping this is nothing but a sure sign from Allah….as to how to move on and start a new chapter in my life.
And then out of blue complications took over and the whole thing was called off....at a time when i was really starting to feel content and realized although it came to me quite late but surely He has blessed me.
Today, i am just standing nowhere, i don’t understand why??? I am still with strong faith that Allah protected me from something that i am unaware of, he saved me.....I am still unmarried and waiting for the one he has chosen for me. But i guess in the end i am just a human, ....flesh and blood.... i am a bit shaky, i want a signal, i don’t wanna end up going to fortune tellers and other such nonsense....but yes i am getting restless. I wanna cry for no reason, i want to know is Allah angry, did i do something wrong, am i so bad???? I wanna be strong, i wanna move on.....i just want to forget, but now i am too afraid....too afraid to even imagine what if it happens again, what if it happens again, what if i fall for the wrong person, and if everything is destined to happen then why do we even try?? Why are we so restless? Please help me, is there any dua or prayer i need to make to let my heart be at peace. Please guide me…
Jazakalah Khair!
In Shaa Allah, this dua helped me a lot in my tough times and still helping me.
One of the means of treating them is mentioned in the saheeh hadeeth from Ibn Mas’ood (may Allaah be pleased with him): “There is no-one who is afflicted by distress and grief, and says: ‘Allaahumma inni ‘abduka ibn ‘abdika ibn amatija naasyati bi yadika, maada fiyya hukmuka, ‘adlun fiyya qadaa’uka. As’aluka bi kulli ismin huwa laka sammayta bihi nafsaka aw anzaltahu fi kitaabika aw ‘allamtahu ahadan min khalqika aw ista’tharta bihi fi ‘ilm il-ghayb ‘indaka an taj’al al-Qur’aana rabee’ qalbi wa noor sadri wa jalaa’ huzni wa dhihaab hammi (O Allaah, I am Your slave, son of Your slave, son of Your maidservant; my forelock is in Your hand, Your command over me is forever executed and Your decree over me is just. I ask You by every name belonging to You which You have named Yourself with, or revealed in Your Book, or You taught to any of Your creation, or You have preserved in the knowledge of the Unseen with You, that You make the Qur’aan the life of my heart and the light of my breast, and a departure for my sorrow and a release for my anxiety),’ but Allaah will take away his distress and grief, and replace it with joy.” This is one of the remedies prescribed in sharee’ah.
One can also say “Laa ilaaha illa Anta, subhaanaka inni kuntu min al-zaalimeen (none has the right to be worshipped but You (O Allaah), Glorified (and Exalted) be You [above all that (evil) they associate with You]! Truly, I have been of the wrongdoers)” [al-Anbiya 21:87 – interpretation of the meaning].
Whoever wants to know more than that should refer to what the scholars have written about dhikr, such as al-Waabil al-Sayyib by Ibn al-Qayyim; al-Kalim al-Tayyib by Shaykh al-Islam Ibn Tayimiyah; al-Adhkaar by al-Nawawi; Zaad al-Ma’aad by Ibn al-Qayyim.