How do i....

[AnonymousPoster]

Increase the love between my husband and I?

[ahmed_indian]

1. keep praying to Allah

2. study about rights and duties in Islamic marriage

3. become his servant and he'll become yours.

[AnonymousPoster]

1. Always try to please Allah swt.

On the authority of `A`ishah (may Allah be pleased with her) it is reported
that Allah's Messenger (saas ) said:

"Whoever seeks Allah's Pleasure at the expense of men's displeasure, will
win Allah's Pleasure and Allah (swt ) will cause men to be pleased with him.
And whoever seeks to please men at the expense of Allah's Displeasure, will
win the Displeasure of Allah (swt ) and Allah (swt ) will cause men to be
displeased with him." (Narrated by Ibn Hibban in his Saheeh)

2. Way to a man's heart is through his mouth.
Cook good food that pleases him.

[Ummu Sufyaan]

:sl:
from what i was listening to from lecture last week:
eye contact when you speak to one another
increasing your deeds
skin contact
preserving marital secrets


also got this from the lecture:
try to understand each others mentality...for a brother, realize that your wives are emotional/feelers etc...so buy her a nice red rose...words/compliments will win her over..

for a sis realize that your husbands are logical/thinkers: his way of expressing his love is diff to yours...his way is by his renting you a house, financially providing for you, etc

so by understanding each others mentalities, you understand one another better, and hence your love for one another (inshallah) will be strong

compliments and being careful of saying something that may hurt the other without you realizing it...


from me:
go for a weekend away or something...
try to be interested in and do the things he does...

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[Sahabiyaat]

3. become his servant and he'll become yours.

lets just hope this was a joke :)

moving on!

im not married but i think ; listening to him is good, by which i mean if he asks you to dress in a certain way or do things a certain way, even if u may not be too pleased to do it, do it for him to show your obedience, and ur willingnes to please him

leave a note under his pillow saying i love you. :D

[FatimaAsSideqah]

:sl:

Love and cherish your husband as a companionable and gracious gift of divine mercy. But do not fasten your love to him physical beauty, which swiftly fades. This can be achieved by showing affection and amity to the husband and by infusing the home atmosphere with feelings of love, joy and kindness. You should provide him with ways of enjoying your beauty and satisfy his desires and prevent him the temptation of throwing himself into the traps of forbidden desires.

Insha'Allah. it will helpful for you.

[nebula]

Im not marrried but if i was id love it if my wife baked me a cake lol :D, try cooking him his favourite meal, tell him how much you he means to you and vice versa and do dua to Allah to keep love between your hearts inshallah! Oh yeah and Pray together :D that would be nice.

[أبو سليمان عمر]

Du’aa’. There is nothing that Allaah cannot do on earth or in heaven, Patience, tell him you love him dress in the cloth he likes , meet him with a smile on face,Beautify and perfume yourself, oh and tell him good news and delay any bad news until he has rested , have food ready and on time :) most men love that You shouldn't be depressed because your husband is poor or works in a simple job Allah is Al Razaq, support him when he is down hmm if you mistake apologize if he does what until he cools down to talk about it.. many other things dont pop into head at moment when they do ill add more :D
"Rabbana aatina fi'd dunya hasana wa fi'l aakhirati hasana wa qina `adhab an-nar." [O Lord! Grant us good in this life, and good in the next, and save us from the torment of the Fire]
Ameen Thumma Ameen

[Snowflake]

adding on...

1. Comb his hair/beard (sometimes)
2. After washing his clothes, perfume then before hanging up ready for him
3. Offer to remove his shoes/socks when he comes in shattered from work and give him a bowl of hot water to soak his tired tooties in. Offer tea etc.
4. Serve him nice food on time.
5. Draw a flowery border on a sheet of paper, address it to him with sweet words
6. If he likes having a hot soak, fill the bath (add bubble bath or relaxing essential oils, have his towel/bathrobe ready etc and light candles and place around bathroom to create a soft relaxing ambience (no electric lights). Give him a chilled drink to enjoy while he soaks.
7. Give him plenty of hugs and cuddles etc.
8. Make him feel you really missed him when he comes home. Smile, hug etc..
9. Listen to what he says attentively without interrupting him then say what you have you. If you disagree with anything, keep your tone neutral, not angry etc.
10. Honour him and show him your love by respecting his family and being like a daughter to them.
11. Never waste his money.
12. Keep yourself beautified for him. (A pain I know but men like seeing beauty).
13. Arrange a surprise outing.
14. Now and then, create romantic atmosphere in bedroom with candles, flowers and esp. rose petals on bed.
15. Give him massage with scented oils.
16. Keep telling him you love him so much. (That's right brain-wash him) LOL!
17. Be steadfast in your deen. Make lots of duaa to Allah for his health, barakah in his earnings, his deen and akhirah and ask Allah to bless your marriage and make it pleasing to Him.
18. Don't ever let pride hold you back from showing your love.
19. Appreciate him as a gift and blessing from Allah. And thank Allah as much as you can. Allah loves those who thank Him and will increase His mercy and blessings on you both.
20. Be happy. Allah has given you an opportunity to please your husband and therefore please Him through it.

Hubbies and hubbies-to-be... I hope that's also made you think how you can also keep your wives happy. InshaAllah.


wa salam.

[burdenofbeing]

nice tips SoJ.
I personally would find some of them tacky and unnecessarily complicated. probably because you are reflecting some of them ;)

In fact, and I'm totally honest, I don't know any guy who would like his hair combed. One of the main differences between men and women for some reason. :D

to AnonymousGender (though I guess it's not that anonymous anymore...)

First of all, as evident in your question, the best course is to increase the love between each other. Not his love for you. That was a nice phrasing.

My manly tips to increase his love:

Main tip: We are children. We don't grow up. Act accordingly.

- Play games together. I can't stress this enough. And try to win!

- Breakfast. Delicious, delicious breakfast.

- Ask his help for things he will most probably do. Get him jars to open, ask him to help with small chores. If he is in a good mood, ask him to cook for you. Always compliment his awesomeness. This will also get him to appreciate what you do even more.

- Keep a balance in your affection. Don't show too much, and never too little.

- Women naturally have an ability to imitate their man's taste&hobbies. Nurture that ability. We love teaching and telling what we do, especially if you are interested. And it's cute to see you struggle. hehe.

- When you want something, tell him. Seriously, don't give obvious tips. Just tell it.

- Don't ask for things you know he won't do. Important.

- Beauty never hurts.

That's about it I guess.

[Ummu Sufyaan]

:sl:

- Women naturally have an ability to imitate their man's taste&hobbies.

we do? first ive heard of it :hiding: ...

[burdenofbeing]

that's because it's so natural. :D

seriously though, o__o
they somehow start liking the music their man listens to, movies he likes and etc. I've seen many examples of it. Generally they seem oblivious to the fact that they are imitating.

[Raudha]

nice tips SoJ.
I personally would find some of them tacky and unnecessarily complicated. probably because you are reflecting some of them ;)

In fact, and I'm totally honest, I don't know any guy who would like his hair combed. One of the main differences between men and women for some reason. :D

to AnonymousGender (though I guess it's not that anonymous anymore...)

First of all, as evident in your question, the best course is to increase the love between each other. Not his love for you. That was a nice phrasing.

My manly tips to increase his love:

Main tip: We are children. We don't grow up. Act accordingly.

- Play games together. I can't stress this enough. And try to win!

- Breakfast. Delicious, delicious breakfast.

- Ask his help for things he will most probably do. Get him jars to open, ask him to help with small chores. If he is in a good mood, ask him to cook for you. Always compliment his awesomeness. This will also get him to appreciate what you do even more.

- Keep a balance in your affection. Don't show too much, and never too little.

- Women naturally have an ability to imitate their man's taste&hobbies. Nurture that ability. We love teaching and telling what we do, especially if you are interested. And it's cute to see you struggle. hehe.

- When you want something, tell him. Seriously, don't give obvious tips. Just tell it.

- Don't ask for things you know he won't do. Important.

- Beauty never hurts.

That's about it I guess.

Wonderful advice brother..I'm sure it will be helpful to all the sisters :)

[ahmed_indian]

adding on...

1. Comb his hair/beard (sometimes)
2. After washing his clothes, perfume then before hanging up ready for him
3. Offer to remove his shoes/socks when he comes in shattered from work and give him a bowl of hot water to soak his tired tooties in. Offer tea etc.
4. Serve him nice food on time.
5. Draw a flowery border on a sheet of paper, address it to him with sweet words
6. If he likes having a hot soak, fill the bath (add bubble bath or relaxing essential oils, have his towel/bathrobe ready etc and light candles and place around bathroom to create a soft relaxing ambience (no electric lights). Give him a chilled drink to enjoy while he soaks.
7. Give him plenty of hugs and cuddles etc.
8. Make him feel you really missed him when he comes home. Smile, hug etc..
9. Listen to what he says attentively without interrupting him then say what you have you. If you disagree with anything, keep your tone neutral, not angry etc.
10. Honour him and show him your love by respecting his family and being like a daughter to them.
11. Never waste his money.
12. Keep yourself beautified for him. (A pain I know but men like seeing beauty).
13. Arrange a surprise outing.
14. Now and then, create romantic atmosphere in bedroom with candles, flowers and esp. rose petals on bed.
15. Give him massage with scented oils.
16. Keep telling him you love him so much. (That's right brain-wash him) LOL!
17. Be steadfast in your deen. Make lots of duaa to Allah for his health, barakah in his earnings, his deen and akhirah and ask Allah to bless your marriage and make it pleasing to Him.
18. Don't ever let pride hold you back from showing your love.
19. Appreciate him as a gift and blessing from Allah. And thank Allah as much as you can. Allah loves those who thank Him and will increase His mercy and blessings on you both.
20. Be happy. Allah has given you an opportunity to please your husband and therefore please Him through it.

Hubbies and hubbies-to-be... I hope that's also made you think how you can also keep your wives happy. InshaAllah.


wa salam.

i think i will give this note to my wife-to-be.:D

do u have another list for us: 'how to please our wives'?

[أبو سليمان عمر]

i think i will give this note to my wife-to-be.:D

do u have another list for us: 'how to please our wives'?

the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “And treat women with kindness, and treat women with kindness.” Narrated by al-Bukhaari, 5186; Muslim, 1468.

And he (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “The best of you is the one who is best to his womenfolk, and I am the best of you to my womenfolk.” Narrated by al-Tirmidhi, 3895; classed as saheeh by al-Albaani in Saheeh al-Jaami’, 3314.

And the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “The best of you is the one who is best to his wife, and I am the best of you to my wives.” Narrated by al-Tirmidhi (3895) and Ibn Maajah (1977); classed as saheeh by al-Albaani in Saheeh al-Tirmidhi.

[Snowflake]

burdenofbeing;1127096]nice tips SoJ.
I personally would find some of them tacky and unnecessarily complicated. probably because you are reflecting some of them ;)

Thank you. Something is only as tacky as you think it to be, lol! And no, not everything I mentioned is from own experience but rather my ex-hubbies ideas. But I agree if some of these things are done everyday they would become complicated and dull. I think everyone knows when is the best time to do something special.

In fact, and I'm totally honest, I don't know any guy who would like his hair combed. One of the main differences between men and women for some reason. :D

Hehe not everyday. I'm sure both spouses would find this overboard. But yeh my mum used to put oil in my dads hair and comb it. It made him feel like a king, i think :D

- Play games together. I can't stress this enough. And try to win!

No way! This makes me feel so old! I'm hopeless at games and I hope I find a hubby who is equally useless. Wii sports is fun though.

- Keep a balance in your affection. Don't show too much, and never too little

.
I disagree. This may work for some. But if a hubby has low self-esteem he needs the extra affection.

- Women naturally have an ability to imitate their man's taste&hobbies. Nurture that ability. We love teaching and telling what we do, especially if you are interested. And it's cute to see you struggle. hehe.

- When you want something, tell him. Seriously, don't give obvious tips. Just tell it.

- Don't ask for things you know he won't do. Important.

- Beauty never hurts.

That's about it I guess.

Interesting. But why not ask him to do things he won't do? What if you can't do them yourself?

i think i will give this note to my wife-to-be.:D

do u have another list for us: 'how to please our wives'?

LOL! Here's one bro who likes those tips! You go bro! May Allah grant you a wife like that. Ameen :D

[burdenofbeing]

Thank you. Something is only as tacky as you think it to be, lol! And no, not everything I mentioned is from own experience but rather my ex-hubbies ideas. But I agree if some of these things are done everyday they would become complicated and dull. I think everyone knows when is the best time to do something special.

well, of course I wouldn't know about your husband, but candlelight, oil massage, rose petals, really do sound like what women want. and I know they want them.

No way! This makes me feel so old! I'm hopeless at games and I hope I find a hubby who is equally useless. Wii sports is fun though.

not all games have to be computer games. also, playing games with your partner, is sunnah.

I disagree. This may work for some. But if a hubby has low self-esteem he needs the extra affection.

IMO balance is always key. humans get used to things easily. smothering someone with affection have lots of negative effects.

for example, we men like to hunt. it's in our blood. considering how us muslim men don't go around flirting with women, that need has to be sustained with our women.

fluctuating affection keeps things fresh. at least one should think of it as contrasting, outlining.

for a hubby with low self esteem, I think it's even a worse idea. you make him overly dependant, and enable his lack of confidence. I know this for a fact. It's still possible that I'm misunderstanding the complete picture. Nonetheless, my advice is IMO, much more generally applicable.

Interesting. But why not ask him to do things he won't do? What if you can't do them yourself?

it depends on the thing that you want done of course.
if it HAS to be done, it has to be done.
What I mean is, saying "no" or "we can't" or "not yet" over and over for the same things get tiring, and it's painful each time.


Though, I admit, circumstances may be too different for these to be applicable to everyone. I always get amazed by how different and painful pakistani relations are, for example.

[Snowflake]

[QUOTE]

well, of course I wouldn't know about your husband, but candlelight, oil massage, rose petals, really do sound like what women want. and I know they want them.

Correction: ex-husband! :offended:

OK, but if a wife makes the effort in doing those things, would it mean something to the husband? Maybe not the actual things but her efforts and thoughts? Would it make the hubby feel more loved?

not all games have to be computer games. also, playing games with your partner, is sunnah.

Yeh agreed. But I can see how popular computer games are with brothers. It's scary! Makes me feel I'm lacking.

IMO balance is always key. humans get used to things easily. smothering someone with affection have lots of negative effects.

for example, we men like to hunt. it's in our blood. considering how us muslim men don't go around flirting with women, that need has to be sustained with our women.

fluctuating affection keeps things fresh. at least one should think of it as contrasting, outlining.

for a hubby with low self esteem, I think it's even a worse idea. you make him overly dependant, and enable his lack of confidence. I know this for a fact. It's still possible that I'm misunderstanding the complete picture. Nonetheless, my advice is IMO, much more generally applicable.

In the practical sense, a husband and wife don't get much time with each other. For instance he is out at work all day. In between, salah, cooking cleaning and taking care of kids, there's not much time to show affection. So what I meant was that when you do show affection, it should not be 'cool' but to the extent that your spouse knows you love them and it makes them happy.

it depends on the thing that you want done of course.
if it HAS to be done, it has to be done.
What I mean is, saying "no" or "we can't" or "not yet" over and over for the same things get tiring, and it's painful each time.

Of course things have to be prioritized. Things like getting the washing machine fixed are urgent and if a hubby keep saying 'later', ' when i'm free' then it gets painful for the wife to keeps saying it too. So if hubbies dont want the pain of being nagged, then they should do whats to be done. *you listening husbands/to-be* :mad:

Though, I admit, circumstances may be too different for these to be applicable to everyone. I always get amazed by how different and painful pakistani relations are, for example.

I agree with your first sentence but what do you mean by pakistani relations being painful? I'd be interested to know.

[Ummu Sufyaan]

:sl:

Of course things have to be prioritized. Things like getting the washing machine fixed are urgent and if a hubby keep saying 'later', ' when i'm free' then it gets painful for the wife to keeps saying it too. So if hubbies dont want the pain of being nagged, then they should do whats to be done. *you listening husbands/to-be*

ditto :rolleyes:

[burdenofbeing]

well if the machine is not working you have your hands! my mother didn't have a washing machine you ungrateful woman!

:P

About pakistan.. well, it's all these stories I heard from both pakistani people and people familiar with them. Things about in-laws, tyrant parents, incredible shyness of both parties, severe undereducation about sex and all that. One example I remember very clearly was about a couple who couldn't have sex for 3 years because both were afraid to make the first move..

[Sahabiyaat]

I always get amazed by how different and painful pakistani relations are, for example.

<_< thanks

well if the machine is not working you have your hands! my mother didn't have a washing machine you ungrateful woman!

:P ..

:offended:imsad:cry::'(

About pakistan.. well, it's all these stories I heard from both pakistani people and people familiar with them. Things about in-laws, tyrant parents, incredible shyness of both parties, severe undereducation about sex and all that. One example I remember very clearly was about a couple who couldn't have sex for 3 years because both were afraid to make the first move..

oh my lord

and the rest of the points.....i thought everyone went thru all of that...:offended: are you telling me Allah only chose pakistanis to suffer in these matters:><:

[Zahida]

:sl:LOL!!!!!!!!!!!!!! You kids make me laugh!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Seriously though sis every person has different needs and wants .It is very hard to please one another all the time. Just try your best and if your best isn't good enough well then i would start to get stroppy!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Good luck!!!!!!!!!!!!

:bump1::w:

[Snowflake]

=burdenofbeing;1127820]well if the machine is not working you have your hands! my mother didn't have a washing machine you ungrateful woman!

:P

Cheeky so and so! Like all mothers of her time, including mine didn't miss what they never had! :rollseyes

And although I can't remember but I'm sure mothers probably dressed their children in the same clothes for days lool. But anyway, check this out so you get my point. My washing machine broke down once. Exxy, twiddled a few knobs and declared it irrepairable. I went out payed over 300 quid for a new washing machine which too didnt work when the man installed it. Then he realised the outlet pipe was blocked. There'd been nothing wrong with my old machine at all which the scrapman nicked while it sat outside for a relative to take. Bah!!! :'( If exxy had got some more knowledgable to check the problem I wouldn't had been left with a burning hole in my pocket. :raging:

About pakistan.. well, it's all these stories I heard from both pakistani people and people familiar with them. Things about in-laws, tyrant parents, incredible shyness of both parties, severe undereducation about sex and all that. One example I remember very clearly was about a couple who couldn't have sex for 3 years because both were afraid to make the first move..

^o)

That is soooooooooo....

True!!! :-[:X

However, it doesn't mean that ALL pakistani families are like that, but I guess compared to other cultures pakistanis do have more of these issues. imsad

I find the last bit silly though cuz that can happen in any eastern culture where these things aren't discussed openly. And just because it happened to one pakistani couple, you can't consider that the norm when it comes to pakistanis in general.

[Ummu Sufyaan]

:sl:

well if the machine is not working you have your hands! my mother didn't have a washing machine you ungrateful woman!

that wasnt cool ^o)

why am i going to use my hands when there are other options open :$

[Al-Hanbali]

Marital Arts by Hesham al-Awadi -------> http://www.jimas.org/mp3/conf0613.mp3 (brilliant talk!)

[Snowflake]

^Oh I read that as martial arts first! Jzk Allah, will listen to it.


Edit: laterz......

OMG amazing lecture mashaAllah! :ooh::thumbs_up:D


Peoplez you must listen to it inshaAllah :peace:

[burdenofbeing]

However, it doesn't mean that ALL pakistani families are like that, but I guess compared to other cultures pakistanis do have more of these issues. imsad

I find the last bit silly though cuz that can happen in any eastern culture where these things aren't discussed openly. And just because it happened to one pakistani couple, you can't consider that the norm when it comes to pakistanis in general.

oh, so I'm guessing you are pakistani as well. of course you would know better, I was just giving example, and all I've told was based on what I've heard from interested parties.

Also, I didn't say pakistanis don't have sex until 4th year. :| that was just the example that immediately sprung to my mind. to explain my point.

jeez. :P

[Ibn Abi Ahmed]

:sl:

Here you go..a marriage cheat sheet for the sisters:

http://muslimbestlife.com/blog/?p=829

[Ibn Abi Ahmed]

Oh how can i forget this! 60+ ways to keep your husband's love:

http://forums.almaghrib.org/showthread.php?t=28916

[Ibn Abi Ahmed]

i think i will give this note to my wife-to-be.:D

do u have another list for us: 'how to please our wives'?

60+ ways to please your wife:

http://forums.almaghrib.org/showthread.php?t=28917

:D

[ahmed_indian]

60+ ways to please your wife:

http://forums.almaghrib.org/showthread.php?t=28917

:D

jazaak Alla khair a lot bro

[Sahabiyaat]

60+ ways to please your wife:

http://forums.almaghrib.org/showthread.php?t=28917

:D

A good read :)

Women dont needs diamonds and rubies, just a smile will be a treasure, and indeed women are pleased by the slightest affectionate gestures, for e.g. a sister i know recently told me how she hadnt seen her husband all day and was driving somewhere when she saw him driving past her and he flashed his lights at her, and when she was relating this to us, she was giggling and was so happy and even said, 'im so happy he did that'....can u believe it, im sure her husband will never know how happy he made her by something he would think insignificant, but to her, it made her day.

So never think that something you do will be insignificant or go unnoticed.

[Zahida]

:sl::D How sweet............................ that made me smile!:w::)

A good read :)

Women dont needs diamonds and rubies, just a smile will be a treasure, and indeed women are pleased by the slightest affectionate gestures, for e.g. a sister i know recently told me how she hadnt seen her husband all day and was driving somewhere when she saw him driving past her and he flashed his lights at her, and when she was relating this to us, she was giggling and was so happy and even said, 'im so happy he did that'....can u believe it, im sure her husband will never know how happy he made her by something he would think insignificant, but to her, it made her day.

So never think that something you do will be insignificant or go unnoticed.

[Intisar]

:sl:

Here you go..a marriage cheat sheet for the sisters:

http://muslimbestlife.com/blog/?p=829

:w: That was funny mashaAllaah.

I think the ''cheat sheet'' has a lot of truth to it. InshaAllaah the op reads, as it has a lot of benefit. :)

The most important thing is being considerate of each other's feelings and actually giving some effort into doing things that you might not necessarily like but your spouse does. Sometimes you even grow to like those things as a result.

[Cabdullahi]

adding on...

1. Comb his hair/beard (sometimes)
2. After washing his clothes, perfume then before hanging up ready for him
3. Offer to remove his shoes/socks when he comes in shattered from work and give him a bowl of hot water to soak his tired tooties in. Offer tea etc.
4. Serve him nice food on time.
5. Draw a flowery border on a sheet of paper, address it to him with sweet words
6. If he likes having a hot soak, fill the bath (add bubble bath or relaxing essential oils, have his towel/bathrobe ready etc and light candles and place around bathroom to create a soft relaxing ambience (no electric lights). Give him a chilled drink to enjoy while he soaks.
7. Give him plenty of hugs and cuddles etc.
8. Make him feel you really missed him when he comes home. Smile, hug etc..
9. Listen to what he says attentively without interrupting him then say what you have you. If you disagree with anything, keep your tone neutral, not angry etc.
10. Honour him and show him your love by respecting his family and being like a daughter to them.
11. Never waste his money.
12. Keep yourself beautified for him. (A pain I know but men like seeing beauty).
13. Arrange a surprise outing.
14. Now and then, create romantic atmosphere in bedroom with candles, flowers and esp. rose petals on bed.
15. Give him massage with scented oils.
16. Keep telling him you love him so much. (That's right brain-wash him) LOL!
17. Be steadfast in your deen. Make lots of duaa to Allah for his health, barakah in his earnings, his deen and akhirah and ask Allah to bless your marriage and make it pleasing to Him.
18. Don't ever let pride hold you back from showing your love.
19. Appreciate him as a gift and blessing from Allah. And thank Allah as much as you can. Allah loves those who thank Him and will increase His mercy and blessings on you both.
20. Be happy. Allah has given you an opportunity to please your husband and therefore please Him through it.

Hubbies and hubbies-to-be... I hope that's also made you think how you can also keep your wives happy. InshaAllah.


wa salam.

waw::......this must be Cloud Cuckoo Land

[Snowflake]

^ you think that's impossible? :muddlehea

[Ummu Sufyaan]

:sl:
@thread starter, walk together to the masjid :D

[saba muslimah]

Dear AnonymusGender
First Make Wadhu... Read "SubhanAllah E WalHumdoLiLahe WaLLa ILaha IllalA Ho Wa ALLAHO AKber" as much as you can...!!

May ALLAH give his blessing upon u & ur family. Aaameeeeeeennn

[Thinker]

To ask this question, the lady starting this thread is obviously in despair at her failure to get the appropriate love and care from her husband. It is unfortunate (at the least) that some of those posters, offering her advice, haven’t asked themselves whether they are qualified and the potential damage they might do before their arrogant fingers hit the keyboard.

[Sahabiyaat]

why are you automatically assuming she has a problem?
We all thought she was asking for advice, as that is how the question is worded?, if she had a problem, she should have said!

[Ummu Sufyaan]

To ask this question, the lady starting this thread is obviously in despair at her failure to get the appropriate love and care from her husband. It is unfortunate (at the least) that some of those posters, offering her advice, haven’t asked themselves whether they are qualified and the potential damage they might do before their arrogant fingers hit the keyboard.

Lord above! can you get anymore dramatic.

since when do you need to be qualified to give advice? from the posts i have read, everyone here have mentioned legitimate ways on how to increase love between the spouses.

[IbnAbdulHakim]

spend time together and look good for each other.


that should do the trick :D


inshAllah


Assalamu Alaikum

[Ansariyah]

Be good to him, in every way!

My mother always says, Love is like a flower it shud be nourished, watered wit Rahma. Sticking around through the tough times..u know the drill, n InshaAllah it'll blossom.:hiding:

[Ummu Sufyaan]

:sl:
drink chai and star gaze together :p

oh and say your salaams to one another when meeting/parting :thumbs_up

[crayon]

:sl:
drink chai and star gaze together :p

Yess.:statisfie:thumbs_up

Tiny things go a long way, just random gestures of love and kindness work wonders. Be creative!

Give him a small personalized gift on no special occasion.
Write him a note and hide it in his pocket or briefcase when he goes to work.
Invite him out on dinner date at a place he likes! It doesn't always have to be the guy who does that.
When he's stressed out, help him relax, and smile and laugh.
Learn something new together. Either something islam related, such as going to an islamic class together, or memorizing a certain surah of Quran, or something else, like taking a pottery class, or try your hand at gardening.
And last but not least, smile!:)