just testing the waters a little bit:
1. Is it speaking specifically about husbands and wives, or is it including the wife as well as female mahrems?
I'll go for this one since one does mostly spend on ladies of one's own household (unless countinng sadaqah but that does not make one the governor of the recipient of that sadaqah)
“Men are the protectors and maintainers of women, because Allah has made one of them to excel the other, and because they spend (to support them) from their means.
Therefore the righteous women are devoutly obedient (to Allah), and guard in the husband's absence what Allah orders them to guard (e.g. their chastity, their husband's property, etc..). Regarding the woman who is guilty of lewd, or indecent behaviour, admonish her (if she continues in this indecency then), stop sharing her bed (if she still continues doing this lewd behaviour, then), [set forth for her the clear meaning of either straighten up or else we are finished and when she returns to proper behaviour take up sharing the bed with her again], but if she returns in obedience (to proper behaviour and conduct) then seek not against them means (of annoyance). Surely, Allah is Ever Most High, Most Great.”
: there is a difference in yours and our interpretation which I just noticed
you say: ...Women are devoutly obedient (to Allah and to their husbands
We say:.... women are devoutly obedient (to Allah),
so I'd better scarper
before a fatwa is issued against me
you say: (and last) beat them (lightly, if it is useful)
we say: set forth for her the clear meaning of either straighten up or else we are finished for good