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format_quote Originally Posted by
idk
my parents never let me out even though ALL my friends are muslim hijabis n theyre good people who try to convince me to wear hijab...
come to dat, my parents dont even let me out alone!
First of let me say that you are not the first nor the last one who feels this. I don't know you're age nor I want to but it is very normal to feel this way between the ages of 15-20.
You feel as if you're parents don't want nothing good for you or you know better about life than you're parents. I felt this way when I was younger. It's normal.
format_quote Originally Posted by
idk
I feel suffocated and now i wanna do anything to go against them...they give me no money even though they owe me 75 pounds so i do things like sneak into the swimming pool at the leisure centre (ladies only day) and i would honestly, rather go back to foster care than live with them - i feel like dying.
Two points here I would like to make:
(1) Can you listen to yourself? Taking things such as '75 pounds' to account.
Whatever the amount is in the end they are your parents and these things, though minor, would amount to something that will destroy relationships with you're family rather than bridging them.
(2) What I have understood in you're post (and correct me if I'm wrong here) you were in a foster house before going back to you're biological parents right? If so then that explains a lot! How? You're parents are delighted for you're comeback and to show you there love (and that's the way it goes with parents I suppose) they become more protective than they usually are.
format_quote Originally Posted by
idk
My dad's always wishing for me to be cursed or for my life to end and things and the little respect i had for him has gone - he is my father but it is impossible in human nature to respect someone who treats you like dirt - he also said he doesn't want me to be his daughter and genuinely he talks to me with a disgusted tone and cannot bear to look at me sometimes...so he just sends me out the room for no reason!
Again same as above, he is far to protective of you than he usually is due to the time you were not there in his life.
We as the children tend to overreact on things our parents do. Heck I still do that from time to time :-[ But nevertheless you have to understand in Islam they have a right onto you as you have yours onto them so long as you live in the same roof. When you live with your husband then the rights shift from the parents to the husband.
Also Islam emphasizes on family more than anything in this earth.
format_quote Originally Posted by
idk
on top of all this he says Allah is on his side - so now i dont even have Allah with me. He says he is religious but doesnt even act it...
As brother Alpha Dude said is actually correct. He's wise!
This said I have to say that I am no psychologist so take my words with a pinch of salt if you want to. And Allah knows best.