format_quote Originally Posted by
nunu
thank you so so so so so very much! you have answered my questions, alhamdulillah! may Allah bless the two of you :D
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I believe you answered the first part for yourself when you wrote:
format_quote Originally Posted by
nunu
I've read hadiths saying that crying excessively is a sign that I'm being unappreciative of what Allah has given to me. However I don't feel that way, .
people who are unappreciative are unappreciative regardless of their condition and circumstance!
Normal grief & bereavement is a natural process that should lead to healing and acceptance and if anything it should also make you closer to Allah swt, for who is a better companion in your hour of need?...
you need to understand pls, that it is important when you read ahadith to look at the narrations, and [circumstances behind the prophetic statement] and the commentary. This is why a layman cannot just go to the hadith and try to figure things out themselves, they need to consult with scholars who have done the research. It is a science like any other..
a headache for some people is cured with an aspirin, for others they need a plasma exchange, because the etiology is completely different, you might suffer migraines, someone else suffers from TTP and the thrombotic microangiopathy is causing their headache. so it isn't a one size fits all, and that should be the take home message as a general rule..
I do hope you feel better insha'Allah, I certainly know what it is like to lose loved ones, and the only secret I can think of is to take it one day at a time and not try to force yourself into a state of mind where you are not comfortable being..
and Allah swt knows best
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