wa alaykum us-Salaam
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But she still decides to stick with him because "she loves him too much". So she decides to meet him secretly in person, by herself, no mahram no anything. I wanted to go with her, she refused, she leaves the house when no ones home to see the man.
isn't your dad around? an uncle? are you her older brother? you need to get a man involved--->men fear men and so do women...
be careful about the way you go about it, cos if you confront her, she could back lash and just run to him, which is what you want to avoid...
I caught them two alone together once and what I saw disgusted me. I told the man not to come near my sister. He obviously did not listen and continues to see her secretly.
have you given dawah to her? tried telling her how islamically wrong it is? have you told her of the stories of "love" that have turned nasty...even to then extent of Zina :(
I'm afraid if I tell my parents, they will go crazy and start a huge fight and god knows what. I tried to reason with my sister, she tells me "its my life, you have no right to tell me what to do"
tell your parents anyway, especially if you feel that would stop her...that and the fact they might be angry with you if you didnt...
Should she marry this man? We don't know much about him except he lied to my sis about his age....so he could be lying about other things right? like whether he's really a muslim? Plus there's the 20 yrs age difference....I doubt my parents would accept this.
NO! he sounds sleezy and dishonest...does she know how this guy really is? if he lied about his age, what else has he lied about? ask her how much she really knows about him? has she done background checks?
Any thoughts, advice on this situation?
How do I deal with my sister, or do I just tell my parents everything? I dont think my sis plans to tell them at all....which I dont get why since she's so serious about this man....I told her I'd tell them instead, she threatens me saying she'll run away if I do, and that I should "stop caring".
maybe try getting the police involved...maybe your parents can stop him from coming around or something through them....?
Really, may this be a lesson to all sisters, especially teens. It hurts reading or hearing about a sister being taken advantage of. Guard yourselves well, don't "fall in love" too easily. Some guys can be incredibly sleazy and can make a girl fall in love with them through words and romantic crap SO easily. Making a woman feel a certain way with such devices is child's play. Don't fall victim to such things. Girl is all in love and the guy's just having fun passing the time till the next girl hits his sights.
Ditto!!! :thumbs_up