Dower query?

[AnonymousPoster]

:sl:

Its important. I would appreciate replies from people who are students of the quran and sunnah.The query is regarding Dower (mehr).

And give the women (on marriage) their dower as a free gift; but if they, of their own good pleasure, remit any part of it to you, Takeit and enjoy it with right good cheer. verse #4, chapter #4)

As its stated in the quran, that the women should be given the dower when they are married.

But if a woman wishes she can exempt her man, not to gift her, out of her own free will (either part of it or whole).

Have i understood this wrong?

The reason why i am askin this is, becoz almost all the lectures that i am listening to related to marriage, say dower is compulsory. Yes, i do agree with that. But if a sister, with her own choice, doesnot want the dower, even though its written in the marriage contract. Will that be ok islamically?

Jazakumullah khair everyone.

:w:

[alcurad]

I'm not aware that it could be canceled, it doesn't really have a set amount though, so it could just be of symbolic-ie. very little-value. as in he doesn't need to pay much at all, given that both are ok with it and so on.

[AnonymousPoster]

:sl:

Found this on islam qa

Similarly, if the wife foregoes any part of the mahr, the husband is permitted to take it, as Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning): “… but if they, of their own good pleasure, remit any part of it, take it, and enjoy it without fear of any harm (as Allaah has made it lawful).” [al-Nisaa’ 4:4]
And Allaah knows best.

http://www.islam-qa.com/en/ref/2378