Originally Posted by anonymous
First of all, make du'a to Allah to give you a husband who you love and stay interested in, and he does to you too, and that your heart is content with that relationship.
Second, try to keep up with the method of lowering the gaze. Lowering the gaze will make the issue more beautified, i.e. of wanting to be married. And ask the most necessary of questions instead of the details, and that might make the idea more in a form of suspense for you.
Third, try to find a guy who will suit you. So if you don't find it appealing for a guy to always be 'after you' or whose too 'clingy' - then go for someone who is less like this. Someone whose on 'your level' of maturity in this concept.
If you find one who is suitable and fulfills the conditions to what you think you require, then make istikharah, discuss with family and stick with him. And then work your way forward in marriage with him. Because once you get married, you already have alot of issues keeping your mind preoccupied, and as time progresses - alot of newer things keep coming up and you move on from these types of thoughts.. simply because you have to with the changes in life.
These changes in life keep you distracted from thoughts like that, and a relationship with a guy who you agreed with can become stronger during this time period, whereas it can't really be like that before during engagement.
Basically, you gota make the move and jump to see the future - otherwise you won't get anywhere and you'll stay in the same situation without any way out - and your life always on pause.
When women reach a certain age, guys start giving up on them too, especially if a girl has a reputation for rejection. There comes a time when the guys give up, and the woman is the one at loss the most.