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What i mean is get a job, Buy a house and basically live your life. In the future..i don't see me doing any of the 2 things Ive mentioned. Thats what kills me
Selam aleykum
Do you perhaps mean that you don't have an urge, desire to do these things? If that is what you meant, you shouldn't worry about it to much. Trough life, people go trough different psychological stages. Everybody knows about the stages in growing up to adulthood, but it doesn't stop there, there are stages after that to. However, just like in the first stages of growing up, each person takes his own time. If you're still don't have this desire, then don't worry about it, it will come later.
In all fairness, I don't think this is your problem. I think it's not that you lack the goal to have/do these things, but rather that you lack a goal in general. It is important for every human being to always have long term and short term goals. Without it life becomes a difficult strain. And if you have no goals in this dunia, then I say to you mashaAllah! focus on the akhira! :thumbs_up
Edit: I hadn't read your last post when I replied the previous. Having read it now, I must say it sounds all to familiar. Be carefull not to strain yourself in religion, as that might eventually turn you away from it. Learn the wisdom behind the rules, so that following them comes easy, and not hard. And make sure you have a halal way of unwinding every once in a while. Seek out some brothers with a good imaan to support your own imaan. Being part of the ummah makes following Islam allot easier. I also ad to find this out the hard way, since I'm not the type of person that easily makes contact with new people. But trust me this is really important.