How to deal with family/friends leaving you out?

[AnonymousPoster]

I'm very close to my girl cousins, we spend so much time together, always always go to meals and events with eachother, and i even spent last night with them at a restaurant, but i've just found out all of them have gone for a day out today, and didn't tell me at all. I'm really confused and hurt. I've asked outright, if there was any reason i wasn't invited, not with anger, just a short text asking that.

I can't think of a valid reason they could justify not telling me, so i am feeling quite hurt. Tonight we're going to gather and just relax at one of the cousin's house, this was arranged yesterday in advance..but now i don't feel like going because i've found out this.

Am i sinning by reacting this way - being hurt and then not attending another event because of it, and effectively showing them how hurt i am?

[AlbanianMuslim]

DO NOT react my dear!
Ive been through the same thing for YEARS.

I had a group of friends, and a cousin of mine who has always excluded me from whatever she could, became friends with my friends and then slowly took them away one by one and convinced them to exclude me too.

It hurt, but once i started to realize that Allah swt does not let things happen to you that you cannot handle and also, He allows certain things to happen to you so that you are tested and learn from the experience.
Do not ask them again. Im telling you sis, FIGHT the urge to text them. Its Shaitan trying to make you cause a bigger rift, trying to make you go head first into a conflict.
Dont fall for it.


They love you im sure, sometimes people just want to spend time with certain people. Its not because they dont like you, the probably love you! But human beings are strange sometimes. Sometimes i want to hang out with specific friends, and other times i dont want to hang out with anyone!


Hang in there sweetheart! If anything, how about you plan some days out with other friends you have every once in a while?
Broaden who youre friends with, so that when you are excluded, you have someone to call to spend time with.

[- IqRa -]

Chill out...

[IbnAbdulHakim]

lol i can understand what u mean

if i eva got left out of anything with friends/family i call STRAIGHT away and ask "WAT THE???" and i always get a clear and understandable answer :p



but im the one who makes the plans most of the times so i dont get left out much lol



its ok, dont stress assalamu alaikum

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[Nσσя'υℓ Jαииαн]

At leastttt they go out with you. I'm always left out but hey im used to it O.o
Dont fret it sis..if u wana know why, just ask :)

[GuestFellow]

Ah..

Your lucky that you have family members to keep your company. I'm always alone >_>

Really nothing to get upset about. Be grateful.

Tonight we're going to gather and just relax at one of the cousin's house, this was arranged yesterday in advance..but now i don't feel like going because i've found out this.

Just go to their house and have fun.

[Ummu Sufyaan]

:sl:

I'm very close to my girl cousins, we spend so much time together, always always go to meals and events with eachother, and i even spent last night with them at a restaurant, but i've just found out all of them have gone for a day out today, and didn't tell me at all. I'm really confused and hurt. I've asked outright, if there was any reason i wasn't invited, not with anger, just a short text asking that.

I can't think of a valid reason they could justify not telling me, so i am feeling quite hurt.

maybe they were planning a surprise for you :D

Also sis, i don't mean to be insensitive or anything, but sometimes people-no matter how close you may be with them and likewise them with you-they may just feel they may need time away from you...so yeah they may have needed their space and felt too shy/embarrassed to tell you :)

Tonight we're going to gather and just relax at one of the cousin's house, this was arranged yesterday in advance..but now i don't feel like going because i've found out this.

just go sis ...u may just make things worse :)