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sanah
07-29-2009, 03:05 AM
salam brothers and sisters,

i have a question. i am stuck in this situation and would really appreciate some advice.

i like this guy and he likes me back. we both want to get married BUT the problem is, although we are both muslims, we are from two different sects in Islam. this is creating many problems as neither of our families agree. the thing is, i really like him and he really likes me too and we would really like to spend our lives together.

im so confused.

any suggestions on how to go about solving this problem would be wonderful.

thankyou.
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ژاله
07-29-2009, 07:07 AM
could you please tell,if this doesnt sound rude to you,that which are these two sects?
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sanah
07-29-2009, 09:42 AM
format_quote Originally Posted by Malaak
could you please tell,if this doesnt sound rude to you,that which are these two sects?
sunni and ahmadii
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ژاله
07-29-2009, 09:44 AM
who is ahmadi sis?you or him?i am not messing seriously.i just want to make sure what i say to your post is relevant
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aadil77
07-29-2009, 09:45 AM
Sis to be honest that would be a problem, ahmadi are not considered muslim by the majority, they beleive in another prophet after our rasul
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sanah
07-29-2009, 09:54 AM
hes ahmaddi.

he says that they don't beleive in another rasul. they beleive in the reformer. he did not bring a new shariah, rather he reinforced what the prophet (PBUH) taught mankind.
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sanah
07-29-2009, 09:56 AM
also, i don't see how other sects need to consider ahmadiis as muslims for them to be muslims. if he says hes muslim, who are we to tell him hes not? i dont understand.
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S_87
07-29-2009, 10:07 AM
format_quote Originally Posted by sanah
also, i don't see how other sects need to consider ahmadiis as muslims for them to be muslims. if he says hes muslim, who are we to tell him hes not? i dont understand.
if a person says they are muslim but commit outright kufr can we still call them muslim?


on qadianis:

Definition:


Qadianiyyah is a movement that started in 1900 CE as a plot by the British colonialists in the Indian subcontinent, with the aim of diverting Muslims away from their religion and from the obligation of jihaad in particular, so that they would not oppose colonialism in the name of Islam. The mouthpiece of this movement is the magazine Majallat Al-Adyaan (Magazine if Religions) which was published in English.

Foundation and prominent personalities:

Mirza Ghulam Ahmad al-Qadiani (1839-1908 CE) was the main tool by means of which Qadianiyyah was founded. He was born in the village of Qadian, in the Punjab, in India, in 1839 CE. He came from a family that was well known for having betrayed its religion and country, so Ghulam Ahmad grew up loyal and obedient to the colonialists in every sense. Thus he was chosen for the role of a so-called prophet, so that the Muslims would gather around him and he would distract them from waging jihaad against the English colonialists. The British government did lots of favours for them, so they were loyal to the British. Ghulam Ahmad was known among his followers to be unstable, with a lot of health problems and dependent on drugs.

Among those who confronted him and his evil da’wah was Shaykh Abu’l-Wafa’ Thana’ al-Amritsari, the leader of Jama’iyyat Ahl al-Hadeeth fi ‘Umoom al-Hind (The All-India Society of Ahl al-Hadeeth). The Shaykh debated with him and refuted his arguments, revealing his ulterior motives and Kufr and the deviation of his way. When Ghulam Ahmad did not come to his senses, Shaykh Abu’l-Wafa’ challenged him to come together and invoke the curse of Allaah, such that the one who was lying would die in the lifetime of the one who was telling the truth. Only a few days passed before Mirza Ghulam Ahmad al-Qadiani died, in 1908 CE, leaving behind more than fifty books, pamphlets and articles, among the most important of which are: Izaalat al-Awhaam (Dispelling illusions), I’jaaz Ahmadi (Ahmadi miracles), Baraaheen Ahmadiyyah (Ahmadi proofs), Anwaar al-Islam (Lights of Islam), I’jaaz al-Maseeh (Miracles of the Messiah), al-Tableegh (Conveying (the message))and Tajalliyyaat Ilaahiyyah (Divine manifestations).

Noor al-Deen (Nuruddin): the first Khaleefah of the Qadianis. The British put the crown of Khilaafah on his head, so the disciples (of Ghulam Ahmad) followed him. Among his books is: Fasl al-Khitaab (Definitive statement).

Muhammad Ali and Khojah Kamaal al-Deen: the two leaders of the Lahore Qadianis. They are the ones who gave the final shape to the movement. The former produced a distorted translation into English of the Qur’aan. His other works include: Haqeeqat al-Ikhtilaaf (The reality of differences), al-Nubuwwah fi’l-Islam (Prophethood in Islam) and al-Deen al-Islami (The Islamic religion). As for Khojah Kamaal al-Deen, he wrote a book called al-Mathal al-A’laa fi’l-Anbiya’ (The highest example of the Prophets), and other books. This Lahore group of Ahmadis are those who think of Ghulam Ahmad as a Mujaddid (renewer or reviver of Islam) only, but both groups are viewed as a single movement because odd ideas that are not seen in the one will surely be found in the other.

Muhammad Ali: the leader of the Lahore Qadianis. He was one of those who gave the final shape to Qadianiyyah, a colonialist spy and the person in charge of the magazine which was the voice of the Qadianiyyah. He also produced a distorted translation into English of the Qur’aan. Among his works are Haqeeqat al-Ikhtilaaf (The reality of differences), and al-Nubuwwah fi’l-Islam (Prophethood in Islam), as stated above.

Muhammad Saadiq, the mufti of the Qadianiyyah. His works include: Khatim al-Nabiyyeen The seal of the Prophets).

Basheer Ahmad ibn Ghulam. His works include: Seerat al-Mahdi (the life of the Mahdi) and Kalimat al-Fasl (Decisive word).

Mahmood Ahmad ibn Ghulam, his second Khaleefah. Among his works are: Anwaar al-Khilaafah (Lights of the caliphate), Tuhfat al-Mulook and Haqeeqat al-Nubuwwah (The reality of prophethood).

The appointment of the Qadiani Zafar-Allaah Khan as the first Foreign Minister of Pakistan had a major effect in supporting this deviant sect, as he gave them a large area in the province of the Punjab to be their world headquarters, which they named Rabwah (high ground) as in the aayah (interpretation of the meaning): “… And We gave them refuge on high ground (rabwah), a place of rest, security and flowing streams.” [al-Mu’minoon 23:50].



Their thought and beliefs

Ghulam Ahmad began his activities as an Islamic daa’iyah (caller to Islam) so that he could gather followers around him, then he claimed to be a mujaddid inspired by Allaah. Then he took a further step and claimed to be the Awaited Mahdi and the Promised Messiah. Then he claimed to be a Prophet and that his prophethood was higher than that of Muhammad (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him).

The Qadianis believe that Allaah fasts, prays, sleeps, wakes up, writes, makes mistakes and has intercourse – exalted be Allaah far above all that they say.

The Qadiani believes that his god is English because he speaks to him in English.

The Qadianis believe that Prophethood did not end with Muhammad (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him), but that it is ongoing, and that Allaah sends a messenger when there is a need, and that Ghulam Ahmad is the best of all the Prophets.

They believe that Jibreel used to come down to Ghulam Ahmad and that he used to bring revelation to him, and that his inspirations are like the Qur’aan.

They say that there is no Qur’aan other than what the “Promised Messiah” (Ghulam Ahmad) brought, and no hadeeth except what is in accordance with his teachings, and no Prophet except under the leadership of Ghulam Ahmad.

They believe that their book was revealed. Its name is al-Kitaab al-Mubeen and it is different from the Holy Qur’aan.

They believe that they are followers of a new and independent religion and an independent Sharee’ah, and that the friends of Ghulam are like the Sahaabah.

They believe that Qadian is like Madeenah and Makkah, if not better than them, and that its land is sacred. It is their Qiblah and the place they make hajj to.

They called for the abolition of jihaad and blind obedience to the British government because, as they claimed, the British were “those in authority” as stated in the Qur’aan.

In their view every Muslim is a Kaafir unless he becomes a Qadiani, and everyone who married a non-Qadiani is also a kaafir.

They allow alcohol, opium, drugs and intoxicants.

Intellectual and ideological roots

The westernizing movement of Sir Sayyid Ahmad Khan paved the way for the emergence of the Qadianiyyah, because it had already spread deviant ideas.

The British made the most of this opportunity so they started the Qadiani movement and chose a man from a family that had a history of being agents of the colonialists.

In 1953 CE, there was a popular revolution in Pakistan which demanded the removal of Zafar-Allaah Khan from the position of Foreign Minister and that the Qadiani sect should be regarded as a non-Muslim minority. In this uprising around ten thousand Muslims were martyred, and they succeeded in having the Qadiani minister removed from office.

In Rabee’ al-Awwal 1394 AH (April 1974), a major conference was held by the Muslim World League in Makkah, which was attended by representatives of Muslim organizations from around the world. This conference announced that this sect is Kaafir and is beyond the pale of Islam, and told Muslims to resist its dangers and not to cooperate with the Qadianis or bury their dead in Muslim graveyards.

The Majlis al-Ummah in Pakistan (the central parliament) debated with the Qadiani leader Mirza Naasir Ahmad, and he was refuted by Shaykh Mufti Mahmood (may Allaah have mercy on him). The debate went on for nearly thirty hours but Naasir Ahmad was unable to give answers and the Kufr of this group was exposed, so the Majlis issued a statement that the Qadianis should be regarded as a non-Muslim minority.

Among the factors that make Mirza Ghulam Ahmad an obvious Kaafir are the following:


His claim to be a Prophet

His abolition of the duty of jihaad, to serve the interests of the colonialists.

His saying that people should no longer go on Hajj to Makkah, and his substitution of Qadian as the place of pilgrimage.
His anthropomorphism or likening Allaah to human beings.

His belief in the transmigration of souls and incarnation.

His attributing a son to Allaah and his claim to be the son of God.

His denying that Prophethood ended with Muhammad (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) and his regarding the door of Prophethood to be open to “any Tom, Dick or Harry”.

The Qadianis have strong ties with Israel. Israel has opened centres and schools for them, and helped them to publish a magazine which is their mouthpiece, to print books and publications for distribution worldwide.

The fact that they are influenced by Judaism, Christianity and al-Baatiniyyah is clear from their beliefs and practices, even though they claim to be Muslims.

Their spread and positions of influence

Most of the Qadianis nowadays live in India and Pakistan, with a few in Israel and the Arab world. They are trying, with the help of the colonialists, to obtain sensitive positions in all the places where they live.

The Qadianis are very active in Africa and in some western countries. In Africa they have more than 5,000 teachers and dai’yahs working full-time to call people to Qadianiyyah. Their wide-spread activity proves that they have the support of the colonialists.

The British government is also supporting this movement and making it easy for their followers to get positions in world governments, corporate administration and consulates. Some of them are also high-ranking officers in the secret services.

In calling people to their beliefs, the Qadianis use all kinds of methods, especially educational means, because they are highly-educated and there are many scientists, engineers and doctors in their ranks. In Britain there is a satellite TV channel called Islamic TV which is run by the Qadianis.

From the above, it is clear that:

Qadianiyyah is a misguided group, which is not part of Islam at all. Its beliefs are completely contradictory to Islam, so Muslims should beware of their activities, since the ‘Ulama’ (scholars) of Islam have stated that they are Kaafirs.

For more information see: Al-Qadianiyyah by Ihsaan Ilaahi Zaheer.

(Translator’s note: this book is available in English under the title “Qadiyaniat: an analytical survey” by Ehsan Elahi Zaheer)

Reference: Al-Mawsoo’ah al-Muyassarah fi’l-Adyaan al-Madhaahib wa’l-Ahzaab al-Mu’aasirah by Dr. Maani’ Hammad al-Juhani, 1/419-423

The following statement was published by the Islamic Fiqh Council (Majma’ al-Fiqh al-Islami):

After discussing the question put to the Islamic Fiqh Council in Capetown, South Africa, concerning the ruling on the Qadianis and their off-shoot which is known as Lahoriyyah, and whether they should be counted as Muslims or not, and whether a non-Muslim is qualified to examine an issue of this nature:

In the light of research and documents presented to the members of the council concerning Mirza Ghulam Ahmad al-Qadiani, who emerged in India in the last century and to whom is attributed the Qadiani and Lahori movements, and after pondering the information presented on these two groups, and after confirming that Mirza Ghulam Ahmad claimed to be a prophet who received revelation, a claim which is documented in his own writings and speeches, some of which he claimed to have received as revelation, a claim which he propagated all his life and asked people to believe in, just as it is also well-known that he denied many other things which are proven to be essential elements of the religion of Islam

in the light of the above, the Council issued the following statement:

Firstly: the claims of Mirza Ghulam Ahmad to be a prophet or a messenger and to receive revelation are clearly a rejection of proven and essential elements of Islam, which unequivocally states that Prophethood ended with Muhammad (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) and that no revelation will come to anyone after him. This claim made by Mirza Ghulam Ahmad makes him and anyone who agrees with him an apostate who is beyond the pale of Islam. As for the Lahoriyyah, they are like the Qadianiyyah: the same ruling of apostasy applies to them despite the fact that they described Mirza Ghulam Ahmad as a shadow and manifestation of our Prophet Muhammad (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him).

Secondly: it is not appropriate for a non-Muslim court or judge to give a ruling on who is a Muslim and who is an apostate, especially when this goes against the consensus of the scholars and organizations of the Muslim Ummah. Rulings of this nature are not acceptable unless they are issued by a Muslim scholar who knows all the requirements for being considered a Muslim, who knows when a person may be deemed to have overstepped the mark and become an apostate, who understands the realities of Islam and kufr, and who has comprehensive knowledge of what is stated in the Qur’aan, Sunnah and scholarly consensus. The ruling of a court of that nature is invalid. And Allaah knows best.
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- IqRa -
07-29-2009, 10:22 AM
No offence sister, but how can you even think about getting married to someone, whose deen is not correct? I’m so surprised.
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convert
07-29-2009, 11:43 AM
ahmadis are kafir, if you married him it would be zina.
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aadil77
07-29-2009, 12:28 PM
format_quote Originally Posted by sanah
hes ahmaddi.

he says that they don't beleive in another rasul. they beleive in the reformer. he did not bring a new shariah, rather he reinforced what the prophet (PBUH) taught mankind.
yes they claim that but they try to hush up the true words of their 'reformer' who has claimed the most ridiculus things such as prophethood etc.

btw the 'reformer' died on a toilet
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Banu_Hashim
07-29-2009, 12:41 PM
Ahmadis are a bit weird... They don't follow what the mainstream Islam teaches and therefore aren't considered Muslim by the majority. Me, personally, i'm not too sure about them.

You might like each other now sis, but look at the deen of the person. How are your children going to be brought up? I don't want to assume I know the situation, because I don't. But lust can blind us to what's really important. Just a reminder...
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sanah
07-29-2009, 12:41 PM
format_quote Originally Posted by T.I.A
No offence sister, but how can you even think about getting married to someone, whose deen is not correct? I’m so surprised.
he is a good person with a good heart. he calls himself a muslim then who am i to tell him he's not? he's not too religious but he beleives in the basic things such as 5 prayers and the holy Qur'an etc.

i am also the same, not too religious and do not judge people on their religion. i respect different peoples different beliefs and he is a good person which is what matters to me. im not concerned about the nitty gritty details.
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sanah
07-29-2009, 12:44 PM
format_quote Originally Posted by Banu_Hashim
Ahmadis are a bit weird... They don't follow what the mainstream Islam teaches and therefore aren't considered Muslim by the majority. Me, personally, i'm not too sure about them.

You might like each other now sis, but look at the deen of the person. How are your children going to be brought up? I don't want to assume I know the situation, because I don't. But lust can blind us to what's really important. Just a reminder...
its actually not lust. we aren't 'dating' or anything. we just study together and he likes me and told me. i like him too because i know he's a good person with a good heart and i know that because we have been studying together for over a year now.
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sanah
07-29-2009, 12:46 PM
format_quote Originally Posted by aadil77
yes they claim that but they try to hush up the true words of their 'reformer' who has claimed the most ridiculus things such as prophethood etc.

btw the 'reformer' died on a toilet
they are actually quite open about it. you won't know that until you get to know them. like i know his family quite well, they are fine with us being friends but as far as marriage is concerned, they will not agree.

they always talk to me about their beleifs and always have answers to questions i have, and they make a lot of sense. so far, all my questions have been answered by them. so to me, they haven't really hushed up anything.. :\
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Banu_Hashim
07-29-2009, 12:47 PM
'Studying together' can be subconscious dating. Allahu Alim. Whatever happens will happen.
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sanah
07-29-2009, 12:48 PM
format_quote Originally Posted by convert
ahmadis are kafir, if you married him it would be zina.
how can you claim such a thing? if someone says they are muslim, how can you tell them they're not? isn't that not allowed in islam..?

sorry i dont mean to be rude, im just very confused and want answers.
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sanah
07-29-2009, 12:49 PM
format_quote Originally Posted by Banu_Hashim
'Studying together' can be subconscious dating. Allahu Alim. Whatever happens will happen.
how does that work..? so every guy i study with, im subconsciously dating? :S
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convert
07-29-2009, 12:50 PM
format_quote Originally Posted by sanah
how can you claim such a thing? if someone says they are muslim, how can you tell them they're not? isn't that not allowed in islam..?

sorry i dont mean to be rude, im just very confused and want answers.
easily. they redefined khatm to suit their desires. no prophet after Muhammad (saw) ("laa nabi b'aadi"). mirza ghulam ahmad was a liar and by following him, it takes them out of islam. they are kafir.
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Banu_Hashim
07-29-2009, 12:51 PM
All I'm saying is, one on one studying with mixed genders isn't exactly Islamic ettiquette.
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sanah
07-29-2009, 12:52 PM
format_quote Originally Posted by Banu_Hashim
All I'm saying is, one on one studying with mixed genders isn't exactly Islamic ettiquette.
we don't one on one study. we study together in class or in study groups.
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Banu_Hashim
07-29-2009, 12:55 PM
OK. That's fine. The way you wrote it, it sounded like it was one on one.
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sanah
07-29-2009, 12:55 PM
format_quote Originally Posted by convert
easily. they redefined khatm to suit their desires. no prophet after Muhammad (saw) ("laa nabi b'aadi"). mirza ghulam ahmad was a liar and by following him, it takes them out of islam. they are kafir.
everyone has their own opinion, but i think its rude if you tell someone they're kafir.
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convert
07-29-2009, 12:58 PM
format_quote Originally Posted by sanah
everyone has their own opinion, but i think its rude if you tell someone they're kafir.
sister, it may be rude but it is true. i can show you all the proofs you need. they are 100% kafir and if you enter into any relationship with him and he does not reject ahmadiyyat and accept islam, you will be committing zina.
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sanah
07-29-2009, 01:01 PM
format_quote Originally Posted by convert
sister, it may be rude but it is true. i can show you all the proofs you need. they are 100% kafir and if you enter into any relationship with him and he does not reject ahmadiyyat and accept islam, you will be committing zina.
but i don't understand WHY other people have the right to call them kafir. doesn't it say in islam that you don't have the right to call other people kafirs if they recite the kalima. im sorry i don't mean to be defensive or anything but i just need answers.
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convert
07-29-2009, 01:05 PM
format_quote Originally Posted by sanah
but i don't understand WHY other people have the right to call them kafir. doesn't it say in islam that you don't have the right to call other people kafirs if they recite the kalima. im sorry i don't mean to be defensive or anything but i just need answers.
you can call a kafir a kafir. shaytan recites the kalima, does he not?

listen, if you don't believe Muhammad(saw) was the last messenger and prophet and you take guidance from others than him, you are a kafir.
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aadil77
07-29-2009, 01:06 PM
format_quote Originally Posted by sanah
everyone has their own opinion, but i think its rude if you tell someone they're kafir.
Everyone understands that but this is clear cut by the majority of scholars, they are not considered muslim.

It looks to me you don't take islam seriously otherwise you'd be very worried about a future with an ahmadi. If your children grow up as ahmadis then you're gonna be liable. You should be marrying a person for their deen, what blessings are you going to have in a marriage where you consider someone being an ahmadi as just a 'nitty gritty detail'?
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sanah
07-29-2009, 01:08 PM
format_quote Originally Posted by convert
you can call a kafir a kafir. shaytan recites the kalima, does he not?

listen, if you don't believe Muhammad(saw) was the last messenger and prophet and you take guidance from others than him, you are a kafir.
but he says they beleive that the prophet muhammad (pbuh) was the last prophet to bring a new shariah.

they do not beleive that mirza ghulam ahmad was a prophet, rather a reformer of the prophet muhammad (pbuh) as he did not bring a new shariah law.
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convert
07-29-2009, 01:10 PM
format_quote Originally Posted by sanah
but he says they beleive that the prophet muhammad (pbuh) was the last prophet to bring a new shariah.

they do not beleive that mirza ghulam ahmad was a prophet, rather a reformer of the prophet muhammad (pbuh) as he did not bring a new shariah law.
of course he will say that, he is trying to defend his kufr.

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Banu_Hashim
07-29-2009, 01:11 PM
format_quote Originally Posted by sanah
but he says they beleive that the prophet muhammad (pbuh) was the last prophet to bring a new shariah.

they do not beleive that mirza ghulam ahmad was a prophet, rather a reformer of the prophet muhammad (pbuh) as he did not bring a new shariah law.
They believe that mirza ghulam ahmad was given divine revelation. This is quite frankly, rubbish.
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sanah
07-29-2009, 01:12 PM
format_quote Originally Posted by aadil77
Everyone understands that but this is clear cut by the majority of scholars, they are not considered muslim.

It looks to me you don't take islam seriously otherwise you'd be very worried about a future with an ahmadi. If your children grow up as ahmadis then you're gonna be liable. You should be marrying a person for their deen, what blessings are you going to have in a marriage where you consider someone being an ahmadi as just a 'nitty gritty detail'?
ill be honest with you, i grew up in a western society so i am not the best muslim out there. i do try though.

i like this guy a lot, and it does not concern me if hes ahmaddi as he is a good person at heart. i dont mean to sound childish or blinded by love but its just how it is. he is actually a good person.

our basic beleifs are the same. the beleif in one god, beleiving in the angels, the holy books, the prophets etc.
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aadil77
07-29-2009, 01:12 PM
format_quote Originally Posted by sanah
he is a good person with a good heart. he calls himself a muslim then who am i to tell him he's not? he's not too religious but he beleives in the basic things such as 5 prayers and the holy Qur'an etc.
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Are these supposed to be wow factors? Of course he's meant to believe in praying these are the basics of islam.

Did you know that ahmadis also eat haram meat?

Sis I think you should start practising and marry a good practising sunni muslim, majority about 80% of muslims are sunni. That way islam will be present in your marriage and it will be blessed, if you go down this path you're gonna have a messed up marriage and life. Consider your deen before you make such decisions.
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sanah
07-29-2009, 01:14 PM
format_quote Originally Posted by Banu_Hashim
They believe that mirza ghulam ahmad was given divine revelation. This is quite frankly, rubbish.
but if he was sent down for the reformation of man kind, by god, then how else is god supposed to speak to him/ help him etc.?
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convert
07-29-2009, 01:15 PM
format_quote Originally Posted by sanah
ill be honest with you, i grew up in a western society so i am not the best muslim out there. i do try though.

i like this guy a lot, and it does not concern me if hes ahmaddi as he is a good person at heart. i dont mean to sound childish or blinded by love but its just how it is. he is actually a good person.

our basic beleifs are the same. the beleif in one god, beleiving in the angels, the holy books, the prophets etc.
this is the danger of freemixing and allowing yourself to get feelings for someone in a haraam manner. he can be a good person all he wants but he is not muslim and Allah told us that muslimahs can only marry muslims.
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sanah
07-29-2009, 01:16 PM
format_quote Originally Posted by aadil77
Are these supposed to be wow factors? Of course he's meant to believe in praying these are the basics of islam.

Did you know that ahmadis also eat haram meat?

Sis I think you should start practising and marry a good practising sunni muslim, majority about 80% of muslims are sunni. That way islam will be present in your marriage and it will be blessed, if you go down this path you're gonna have a messed up marriage and life. Consider your deen before you make such decisions.
from what i know, him and his family buy their meat from a halal shop. there is an afghan shop here, the only halal shop in the whole city, its quite far too, but they go there especially to buy their meat.
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sanah
07-29-2009, 01:18 PM
format_quote Originally Posted by convert
this is the danger of freemixing and allowing yourself to get feelings for someone in a haraam manner. he can be a good person all he wants but he is not muslim and Allah told us that muslimahs can only marry muslims.
but im at uni, how else am i supposed to study without 'free mixing'?

and having feelings for someone is inevitable. you cant help it.

he says and beleives he is a muslim though. that's what im trying to get at.. he SAYS that he is. i cant tell him hes not.
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aadil77
07-29-2009, 01:19 PM
format_quote Originally Posted by sanah
ill be honest with you, i grew up in a western society so i am not the best muslim out there. i do try though.
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Thought so. Most of us here are from this 'western' society you speak of, its not hard and it doesnt look like you're even trying.

i like this guy a lot, and it does not concern me if hes ahmaddi as he is a good person at heart. i dont mean to sound childish or blinded by love but its just how it is. he is actually a good person.
On qiyamah is Allah going to accept you marrying him because he was a 'good person' but not even muslim? you get plenty of people like yourself coming on here so blinded that they overlook a huge part of their life which is deen, that shows its just a bit of lust.

our basic beleifs are the same. the beleif in one god, beleiving in the angels, the holy books, the prophets etc
SubhanAllah, Is that all islam is to you? and is there more than one holy book?
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Banu_Hashim
07-29-2009, 01:19 PM
format_quote Originally Posted by sanah
but if he was sent down for the reformation of man kind
But he wasn't. Rasulullah (saws) was the seal of the prophets, the Qur'an is the last guidance for mankind before Yawn-al-Qiyamah and that's all there is to it. Please watch those videos convert posted for an in depth discussion, and you'll see it's Allah who guides the Muslims to the truth, which is Islam and not the Ahmadiyya sect.
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sanah
07-29-2009, 01:24 PM
format_quote Originally Posted by aadil77
Thought so. Most of us here are from this 'western' society you speak of, its not hard and it doesnt look like you're even trying.



On qiyamah is Allah going to accept you marrying him because he was a 'good person' but not even muslim? you get plenty of people like yourself coming on here so blinded that they overlook a huge part of their life which is deen, that shows its just a bit of lust.



SubhanAllah, Is that all islam is to you? and is there more than one holy book?
if i wasn't trying, i wouldn't be on here.

well what im saying is, and im not too fond of it either, but im not the best muslim out there. my parents have been working full time ever since i was young so i was never taught anything.. i grew up with all white people, mostly christians.. so what i do know about islam is what i've looked up for myself and did my own research on.. and THIS is why i dont know much about it, hence im here because i would like to get to know it better.

no im sorry, theres only one holy book, that was a typo. i apologize for that.
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- IqRa -
07-29-2009, 01:26 PM
...Speak to your parents. If they agree with the marriage, get him to come to your house and approah your parents to ask for your hand in marriage. If they say no, leave it, and mvoe on.
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aadil77
07-29-2009, 01:27 PM
format_quote Originally Posted by sanah
but if he was sent down for the reformation of man kind, by god, then how else is god supposed to speak to him/ help him etc.?
Ok looks like you're falling for these lies, this mirza ghulam was a cripple, he was soo cursed that he'd have to crap more than 20 times a days

you can see the kufr all over his face



his lies will earn him alot of something on the day of judgement
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sanah
07-29-2009, 01:28 PM
format_quote Originally Posted by aadil77
Ok looks like you're falling for these lies, this mirza ghulam was a cripple, he was soo cursed that he'd have to crap more than 20 times a days

you can see the kufr all over his face



his lies will earn him alot of something on the day of judgement
im sorry, but how do you see kufr on someones face?
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aadil77
07-29-2009, 01:29 PM
sis just give it up, do live near middlesborough by the way? its full of them, where this movement mostly started
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sanah
07-29-2009, 01:31 PM
format_quote Originally Posted by aadil77
sis just give it up, do live near middlesborough by the way? its full of them, where this movement mostly started
lol i have no idea where middlesborough is.

apparently though, they're all over the world.
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aadil77
07-29-2009, 01:34 PM
format_quote Originally Posted by sanah
lol i have no idea where middlesborough is.

apparently though, they're all over the world.
they're not all over the world, their kufr has only spread in a hand full of countries mostly, india, pakistan, bangladesh etc

I doubt their population is even in the millions
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sanah
07-29-2009, 01:39 PM
format_quote Originally Posted by aadil77
they're not all over the world, their kufr has only spread in a hand full of countries mostly, india, pakistan, bangladesh etc

I doubt their population is even in the millions
theres a big community in the UK, in the USA and Canada as well. (from what ive found doing my research)

their population is in millions, i think someone was saying around 22 million. i will find out the exact figure for you though.
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aadil77
07-29-2009, 01:54 PM
format_quote Originally Posted by sanah
theres a big community in the UK, in the USA and Canada as well. (from what ive found doing my research)

their population is in millions, i think someone was saying around 22 million. i will find out the exact figure for you though.
Compared to more than 1800 million muslims, its nothing, but even then most of their population is in the jahil countries I've already mentioned

Sis you came here for islamic advice, we gave it to you now its up to you if you want to rebel against Allah and do it your own way or stick to the islamic way. If you do decide to go for the haraam option then remember Allah can and probably will screw you over at anytime, don't expect an all happy days marriage. I've seen the most unfortunate deaths in ahmadi/qadiani families, keep it mind.
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sanah
07-29-2009, 02:26 PM
^ im sorry but what does 'jahil' mean?

and thankyou for your advice. i'll try my best to adhere to to islam and its principles as much as possible.

thankyou
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Banu_Hashim
07-29-2009, 02:28 PM
jahil means ignorant.

I hope that Allah helps you and keeps you strong in following the correct path. Ameen.
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- IqRa -
07-29-2009, 02:37 PM
Sis you came here for islamic advice, we gave it to you now its up to you if you want to rebel against Allah and do it your own way or stick to the islamic way. If you do decide to go for the haraam option then remember Allah can and probably will screw you over at anytime, don't expect an all happy days marriage. I've seen the most unfortunate deaths in ahmadi/qadiani families, keep it mind.
Snap.
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Faye
07-29-2009, 02:38 PM
Sister, you keep on saying that he is good at heart and he calls himself a Muslim.

But many of the Christians I know are, at least to all discernible appearances good at heart. If one of them chose to call himself Muslim, without changing any of his beliefs or practices, it does not make him a Muslim. And, Muslim women are forbidden to marry kafir men
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crayon
07-29-2009, 06:27 PM
My dear, you say you want answers, people have given you the answer, again and again. He is not considered a muslim, so any marriage contract you have with him is considered invalid. The fact that you don't like this answer doesn't negate that it's there. What it seems like is you having a set opinion in your head, and coming here for our approval. Whatever we say will not convince you if your mind is already made up. The decision is up you now, no one can force you to do anything, it's your choice whether to to marry him or let him go. My post may sound harsh, but it's the truth.
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sarajulldin
07-29-2009, 07:47 PM
Sis your parents would not say no without a good reason, ask them, if there say no, ask them why and im sure there'll explain it all, probally whats already been said on here
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rk9414
07-30-2009, 03:46 AM
Daleel concerning Ahmadiyya and marrying them

http://islamqa.com/en/ref/45525/mirza
http://islamqa.com/en/ref/4060/mirza
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Muhaba
07-30-2009, 10:02 AM
the truth is that a lot of ahmadis who marry sunni women then go on to marry ahmad women and destroy the lives of the sunni women. not to mention all the children being raised as ahmadis. a lot of sunni wives of ahmadis end up on sleeping pills cuz they can't sleep. do you want a life like that? stay away from ahmadis. they are kuffaar and they have no good intentions toward real muslims.
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Ali_008
07-30-2009, 10:41 AM
:sl:
A great thread, I wanted to know about Ahmadis and got very useful info here. Jazakallah Khair All.

Now sister, apart from the Ahmadi thing there's this thing called Love and its so strong that people devote each others' lives for it to one another. When you are in love, even if your beloved makes a mistake, you overlook it regardless whether its rare or regular. Most marriages that are set by the bride and groom themselves end up in divorce and there's the unneccessary drama that people bring upon themselves of heart-break (absolutely shattering). So firstly getting married on your instinct without any regard to the deen will be a big mistake and later you won't be able to do anything but regret (Allah forbid).

So come to terms with the fact, you being a believer of one God and his LAST messenger Muhammad (SallAllahu Alayhi Wasallam) cannot marry him. If he wants to marry you, ask him to give up his creed and start learning under a sunni sheikh. Alhamdulillah, Allah guided your parents to say no to this and you to seek guidance for this issue.
May Allah guide you and him to the path of Muhammad :saws:
:w:
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Muslim Woman
07-30-2009, 04:45 PM
:sl:
format_quote Originally Posted by sanah
hes ahmaddi.

he says that they don't beleive in another rasul. they beleive in the reformer..
Do they beleive this reformer got revealation from Allah ? If yes , then it contradicts holy Quran as Muhammed (pbuh) is the last messenger and no new revealation will come to anyone else.

Pl. learn more about them and ask Allah to guide you .
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Salahudeen
07-30-2009, 06:29 PM
format_quote Originally Posted by sanah
but if he was sent down for the reformation of man kind, by god, then how else is god supposed to speak to him/ help him etc.?
woah woah woah did he tell you this??? If so then this is not correct sister, to believe that this Mirza guy was sent down by god for the reformation of man isn't right. DO NOT BE FOOLED BY THIS

Was not the prophet pbuh sent down to reform mankind also aswell as many other things??? does this mean he wasn't classed as a messenger of God???

it sounds like all he's doing is replacing the word "messenger" with reformer to trick you.

If someone is sent by God then is he not a messenger from God to the peoplee HUH?????? whether it be to reform the people or whatever reason he is sent he is still classified as a messenger from god isn't he???

because he's sent from God!!!!!!

it's so clear this is kufr, sister to believe another man is sent from God after the final prophet is KUFUR. except if that man is Isa or the mahdi. and mirza was none of those.

so even if they believe he was sent as a reformer from god that still means they believe he was a messenger of god doesn't it???

Your parents are wise alhamdulilah for not letting you marry this man. You are still youthful and unexperienced with men.

Your not the first girl who's been taken in by a guy who it's haraam for her to marry, hence Islam doesn't allow free mixing.

I understand you do not have much islamic knowledge but isn't that all the more reason to believe us when we say we know what we're talking about and it's haraam to marry him.
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Muslim Woman
07-31-2009, 12:37 AM
:sl:

format_quote Originally Posted by squiggle
.... to believe that this Mirza guy was sent down by god for the reformation of man isn't right. DO NOT BE FOOLED BY THIS.......
it sounds like all he's doing is replacing the word "messenger" with reformer to trick you..
Exactly :exhausted
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Nσσя'υℓ Jαииαн
07-31-2009, 03:58 AM
:sl: sister.

Whether he says reformer/messenger isn't the issue. Prophet Muhammad(saw) was the seal for this deen and no one is meant to come with anything. Allah(swt) says in the Qur'aan that he has perfected this deen for us. So what's the deal with Ghulam Ahmed coming as a reformer? Would Allah(swt) not have mentioned something as HUGE as this? Think about it. If he was such a reformer and here to bring people to the final message brought the Prophet Muhammad(saw), then he wouldn't have had such a lousy and filthy life. Read on his life and you'll realize it's not reformer worthy.

I suggest you do not get caught up in his nonsense. If you are truly concerned about your deen, you will think about it InshaAllah. Ultimately the decision is on you, but we tell you cuz we care and would rather not see you make such a mistake. If possible, you may try and give him information on Islam the right way or even bring him here.

May Allah(swt) guide us all and keep you safe from harm sister, Ameen.

:w:
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