Confused!!! What is SABR?

[Ali_008]

:sl: Brothers and Sisters

I'm going through a rough phase in my personal life again (some of you might recall what I'm talking about). I want something badly, I can't tolerate the fact that its not going to be mine and there's hardly any chance that I'll get it even if I give my best shot. It already looks enough excruciating, extreme, impossible, insufferable, insupportable, unbearable, undesirable, unendurable to me but I know Allah does not burden a soul greater than it can bear. I know that all this happening to me was with Allah's will, he wanted me to have this time but I've no clue what to do now. I want to have Sabr and not just patience (I've read that Sabr has a much wider meaning than patience). My focus has shifted from Dhikr/Zikr to this problem. I'm just burning within, can't even cry (no tears, don't know why). I have my exams as well. I'm trying to stay calm but my head doesn't. I haven't done anything so far but I feel I'm not putting up with Sabr. Tell me what to do? :hmm:

[Ummu Sufyaan]

wa alaykum us-Salaam
just solider on. life stinks, we are only here for a short while and *inshallah* there is a better aakhirah in store for us. just be patient even if you feel like you are about to explode and put up with your hardship for the sake of Allah! <---stick that in your head and really believe it...try to be as mentally tranquil as you can by believing that whatever has/will happen is due to qadr and therefore you cant do anything so don't tire and exhaust yourself over something that isnt in your hands.

the secrets of patience
http://www.islamicboard.com/manners-...-patience.html

how hardship is turned into ease
http://www.islamicboard.com/manners-...into-ease.html