battle of good looking and none good looking

[Alphadude]

:sl:
sister and brothers

i have some questions for sisters and brothers can join 2

there have been lots of topics relating to this but in some way this is deferent
when it comes to getting married every man wants a good looking wife and a the girl wants a good looking husband and afcourse a good muslim please answer but with truth so my question is when getting married what do you look for in a husband please allah made every human in deferent way some good looking and some not good looking but allah gave them defferent gifts or talents the good looking guy would be asking allah if he had that or the none good looking would be asking allah why he made me like this i have seen alot around when some 1 is geting married there parents say i will find a good person tall good looking blah blah blah lol so what about the none good looking guys some are shy some are ugly some loners but they could be the good husband then the good looking one :p so why still most want to get married to good looking guys out there and the not so good looking remains ohh and in some cultures u cant do anything its the parents who will find a husband for u or a wife the husband can be a not good looking and the wife could be good looking but in 21 century things are a bit defferent so please put some light into this post and comment as much as info as u can .

may allah bring togheter those who are ment to be ameen
:D

[Alphadude]

hmmm no one replys imsad never mind

[Salahudeen]

lol I reply, I look for shyness around non mehram men, personally attractive to me doesn't matter if on the wedding day every 1 says " urgh why's he marrying her for she ain't all that"

as long as she's all that in my eyes :) I don't mind. you have to understand attraction is relative to each individual, what you may think is ugly I think is beautifull.

what i think is beautifull you may think is ugly, and this is from the blessings of Allah that attraction is relative to an individual.

can you imagine if we all liked the same kind of girl none of us would get married but fortunately we have our own preferences.

she also has to be praticing the deen and it would be good if she ninja kicked me in the head when I didn't get up for fajar :) lol

some 1 who improves your deen.


Also you mentioned shy and being a loner did you mean shyness in a man to be a bad thing or just something you don't find attractive personally??

shyness is very good brother, I heard a sheikh say once,

"the prophet saw was shy like a virgin girl before she got married" but if you don't find that attractive in a man that's your preference.

Shy people tend to be soft also :)

[Alphadude]

lol I reply, I look for shyness around non mehram men, personally attractive to me doesn't matter if on the wedding day every 1 says " urgh why's he marrying her for she ain't all that"

as long as she's all that in my eyes :) I don't mind. you have to understand attraction is relative to each individual, what you may think is ugly I think is beautifull.

what i think is beautifull you may think is ugly, and this is from the blessings of Allah that attraction is relative to an individual.

can you imagine if we all liked the same kind of girl none of us would get married but fortunately we have our own preferences.

she also has to be praticing the deen and it would be good if she ninja kicked me in the head when I didn't get up for fajar :) lol

some 1 who improves your deen.


Also you mentioned shy and being a loner did you mean shyness in a man to be a bad thing or just something you don't find attractive personally??

shyness is very good brother, I heard a sheikh say once,

"the prophet saw was shy like a virgin girl before she got married" but if you don't find that attractive in a man that's your preference.

Shy people tend to be soft also :)

hmmm good advice are you a brother or sister bcoz u said the above line in red lol

and yes im shy and have been a shy from as long as i remember :p and ya i kinda like being shy and not being shy lol

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[Salahudeen]

no I'm a brother lol, but I look for that in a women to by shy around men who aren't her relations.

[Alphadude]

no I'm a brother lol, but I look for that in a women to by shy around men who aren't her relations.

sorry got confused by your answer lol

[Woodrow]

Oddly what is considered good looking or not good looking is very much culture dictated. we may not realize it but each of us is "Taught" as to what constitutes beauty or homeliness. A beautiful girl or handsome man can be seen as being very ugly in another culture and vice versa.

To discovr beauty and to be beautiful or handsome ourselves we need to eliminate any stereotypes and strive to be what Allaah(swt) made us to be and develop an inner noor that all can see and that will be what is truly good looking, not what our peers think is good looking.

[Alphadude]

Oddly what is considered good looking or not good looking is very much culture dictated. we may not realize it but each of us is "Taught" as to what constitutes beauty or homeliness. A beautiful girl or handsome man can be seen as being very ugly in another culture and vice versa.

To discovr beauty and to be beautiful or handsome ourselves we need to eliminate any stereotypes and strive to be what Allaah(swt) made us to be and develop an inner noor that all can see and that will be what is truly good looking, not what our peers think is good looking.

thanks granpa

but i have seen and heard and many places im sure i mentioned this in my post above but still im not realy realy good looking but i will say average but most poeple say ohh i aint good looking blah blah blah blah but i see myself as a good person clean at heart and most good looking poeple i see the dont have what i have and im proud of that but some people dont see that as u mentioned that its the culture indeed it is but it remains to this if every 1 chooses good looking what happens to the not so good looking guys out there or womens but in 21 century every 1 is deferent saying ohh im he or she must be tall or good looking i dont know i see it this way or it is this way?

[Humbler_359]

:sl:
sister and brothers

i have some questions for sisters and brothers can join 2

there have been lots of topics relating to this but in some way this is deferent
when it comes to getting married every man wants a good looking wife and a the girl wants a good looking husband and afcourse a good muslim please answer but with truth so my question is when getting married what do you look for in a husband please allah made every human in deferent way some good looking and some not good looking but allah gave them defferent gifts or talents the good looking guy would be asking allah if he had that or the none good looking would be asking allah why he made me like this i have seen alot around when some 1 is geting married there parents say i will find a good person tall good looking blah blah blah lol so what about the none good looking guys some are shy some are ugly some loners but they could be the good husband then the good looking one :p so why still most want to get married to good looking guys out there and the not so good looking remains ohh and in some cultures u cant do anything its the parents who will find a husband for u or a wife the husband can be a not good looking and the wife could be good looking but in 21 century things are a bit defferent so please put some light into this post and comment as much as info as u can .

may allah bring togheter those who are ment to be ameen
:D

Greeting Bro Khalid,

I want to remind you, could you please put capital letter in Allah, not allah. You know Allah (SWT) is our Creator, it is always honor His name. Hope you could improve it. :statisfie

[Alphadude]

Greeting Bro Khalid,

I want to remind you, could you please put capital letter in Allah, not allah. You know Allah (SWT) is our Creator, it is always honor His name. Hope you could improve it. :statisfie

sorry brother sorry for that if u think im not honoring Allah by not puting capital letter but this is just a writing but still i will keep in mind

[Woodrow]

thanks granpa

but i have seen and heard and many places im sure i mentioned this in my post above but still im not realy realy good looking but i will say average but most poeple say ohh i aint good looking blah blah blah blah but i see myself as a good person clean at heart and most good looking poeple i see the dont have what i have and im proud of that but some people dont see that as u mentioned that its the culture indeed it is but it remains to this if every 1 chooses good looking what happens to the not so good looking guys out there or womens but in 21 century every 1 is deferent saying ohh im he or she must be tall or good looking i dont know i see it this way or it is this way?

but it remains to this if every 1 chooses good looking what happens to the not so good looking guys out there

They get the truly beautiful women who know how to appreciate the genuine good looking men.

I have always been basically quite non-attractive. Yet I never had any problem in finding a wife. My first two wives are long deceased and I am now married for the third time. All 3 of my wives were good looking and very loving, each in their own unique way.

If a homely guy who could not have been born this ugly (I must have been fed ugly pills) has had no problem finding a lovely caring wife, I believe anybody can if they are honest, sincere and caring.

[Snowflake]

If a homely guy who could not have been born this ugly (I must have been fed ugly pills) has had no problem finding a lovely caring wife, I believe anybody can if they are honest, sincere and caring.

lol, very true mashaAllah.

Would I sound weird if I say there can be something attractive about ugly guys? :embarrass

[Alphadude]

They get the truly beautiful women who know how to appreciate the genuine good looking men.

I have always been basically quite non-attractive. Yet I never had any problem in finding a wife. My first two wives are long deceased and I am now married for the third time. All 3 of my wives were good looking and very loving, each in their own unique way.

If a homely guy who could not have been born this ugly (I must have been fed ugly pills) has had no problem finding a lovely caring wife, I believe anybody can if they are honest, sincere and caring.

thanks thats is true granpa. Allah has setup everything for every 1 and what ever is ment to be it will ment to be.
and your comments are very very helpfull that it answers all my questions at once lol i think this will be the end of this thread hehe

[Alphadude]

lol, very true mashaAllah.

Would I sound weird if I say there can be something attractive about ugly guys? :embarrass

not wouldnt sound weird why would u think that lol and whats that something attractive about ugly guys?

[Muhaba]

I agree with brother Woodrow. The most beautiful ppl are the ones who are religious and have knowledge of Islam, like scholars of Islam or even true sincere students of Islam, someone who will one day become a scholar of Islam, an imam, a hafiz of Quraan who not only knows Quraan by heart but understands it fully. I think if everyone were like that, the world would be truly beautiful!

[convert]

If a homely guy who could not have been born this ugly (I must have been fed ugly pills) has had no problem finding a lovely caring wife, I believe anybody can if they are honest, sincere and caring.

HAH some of us have given up hope on ever getting married. much better things to do with my time than get insulted and harbor ill feelings towards muslims during "the courting process"

at any rate, take it from a guy that used to date around before i became muslim: the "gorgeous" girls are the ones that give you the most problems. stay away from them like the plague.

the prophet (saw) advised marriage to pious people and that is what we should do.

[IslamicRevival]

Beauty Is In The Eye Of The Beholder :)

[Woodrow]

not wouldnt sound weird why would u think that lol and whats that something attractive about ugly guys?

Honesty, no false promises, integrity and sensitivity towards the feelings of others to name a few things to begin with.

Girls if you want a marriage with a husband who will be the lust object of every girl you know,find a gorgeous handsome husband. If you want a sincere loyal husband who will place Allaah(swt) first and be grateful for finding you, pick a sincere plain looking one.

Of my two deceased wives, the one who looked like a glamor queen (Actually she looked so much like a famous actress people used to stop us and ask her for her autograph) caused me the most pain while the one who resembled a bowling ball (She used to joke and say "I am in shape, round is a shape") brought me much happiness and 25+ years of laughter and good healthy fun times.

Don't get me wrong I loved both of them deeply. Just as I love Aabidah deeply each is or has been a blessing for me and exactly who I needed in my life at the correct times I needed them.

[Snowflake]

not wouldnt sound weird why would u think that lol and whats that something attractive about ugly guys?

:embarrass

I'm not sure what it is but there was a man who asked someone I knew if I was married and I remember thinking of him as being sort of ugly-attractive at the same time. If that makes sense?

[Alphadude]

Honesty, no false promises, integrity and sensitivity towards the feelings of others to name a few things to begin with.

Girls if you want a marriage with a husband who will be the lust object of every girl you know,find a gorgeous handsome husband. If you want a sincere loyal husband who will place Allaah(swt) first and be grateful for finding you, pick a sincere plain looking one.

Of my two deceased wives, the one who looked like a glamor queen (Actually she looked so much like a famous actress people used to stop us and ask her for her autograph) caused me the most pain while the one who resembled a bowling ball (She used to joke and say "I am in shape, round is a shape") brought me much happiness and 25+ years of laughter and good healthy fun times.

Don't get me wrong I loved both of them deeply. Just as I love Aabidah deeply each is or has been a blessing for me and exactly who I needed in my life at the correct times I needed them.

mashallah the greatest advice i ever heard and saw may allah grant you all happiness and laughter and good health granpa for this beautiful advice

[Rebel]

Girls if you want a marriage with a husband who will be the lust object of every girl you know,find a gorgeous handsome husband.

Does that make him a bad guy

? I mean, it's not exactly his fault he was born handsome

Handsome men can make "sincere loyal husbands who will place Allaah(swt) first and be grateful for finding you" too, y'know...

Anyway, like they say, beauty is in the eye of the beholder...

[- IqRa -]

Everyone has a different choice.

[S_87]

:sl:

good looking in everyones books are different so Allah knows. Some people may think a man without a beard is good looking, others a man with a beard is good looking. some like a woman fully made up others prefer natural.

seriously what is 'good looking'

[Snowflake]

^True sis. Also tastes change too. So what we might've found appealing before might not be anymore. So what we find good-looking is more than what our eyes can see. It's a preference that's based on a lot of things inside you, i.e. thoughts, emotions and visualisations etc

[Woodrow]

Does that make him a bad guy http://smg.photobucket.com/albums/v3...adi/candle.gif? I mean, it's not exactly his fault he was born handsome http://smg.photobucket.com/albums/v3...adi/scared.gif

Handsome men can make "sincere loyal husbands who will place Allaah(swt) first and be grateful for finding you" too, y'know...

Anyway, like they say, beauty is in the eye of the beholder...

That is true:

Handsome men can make "sincere loyal husbands who will place Allaah(swt) first and be grateful for finding you" too, y'know...

It is possible for physically good looking people to also have lasting inner beauty. But our bodies are just a shell that houses our inner self and it is the inner self that needs to be seen. Some times it can be difficult to see past the outer shell if a person has physical beauty. While in a plain looking person it often is what we see without being distracted by the outer shell.

[cat eyes]

this has always been a weird subject for me and something that can't get my head around.. i always believed hansom men to be hansom but thats about it they had nothing to show on the inside.. they were a bit cold hearted and not much practising there deen and things like this so that was a turn off then those men who did not look like bollywood actors:giggling: they were really beautiful on the inside and that attracts the believing women obviously but then did you notice sisters you start to see another side to them then? when they get you hooked on them, they get an ego and start playing all sorts of games...

so i guess the conclusion is after all weather your good looking or not.. it don't really matter. its the getting to know the person is whats important. my 21years on earth, this is what i learn't anyway that you fall in love with somebodies heart at the end of it all. don't judge somebody by its cover! so no i would totally not care for looks. every type of looks to me is deceiving

[Cabdullahi]

:embarrass

I'm not sure what it is but there was a man who asked someone I knew if I was married and I remember thinking of him as being sort of ugly-attractive at the same time. If that makes sense?

get outta here!.......would you like a cup of hot and cold tea and with that perhaps small and big chocolate donut?

...i think women tend to be more flexible when it boils down to handsomeness,however the male is more of casanova...he wants the best in town but not all men are like this......those who indulge in chick-chase will never be satisfied those who do opposite will

to prioritise ''looks'' and neglect piousness will cause a broken heart......nobody wants that and certainly not me

[Humbler_359]

Greeting brothers and sisters,

There is no point discussing here fighting over the issues of appearances imsad:cry:. It is up to individual to decide. There is no solve here. There is no happy ending here. :cry:

Let's close this useless thread please, moderators?

Hope you agreed....

May Allah guide us to the straight path, Ameen!

[Woodrow]

:sl:

Agreed :threadclo: