do you fear death?

[anonymous]

not the actual lfe after death itself, but the the actual dying and beogn under the dirt, etc. does that scare you? do you wonder about how you will die and when? does it scare you what lies int eh hereafter for you?

see, i have these fears ad i think about death alot. not death itself but how and what will cause my death. i dont know why, but these are the strange things that cross my mind every so often. please dont think that im anyone holy. im not. +o( and this is where the prob is. you'd think taht this fear would motivate me to work more and work towards my aakhirah. but it doesn't imsad im just stuck. i have so much ibaadah i want to achieve, i want to reach the stars whilst im in this short dunya. i really and truly want to stand out but i dont seem to be using my enthusiasm towards something good.

also my sinning is troubling me. again, dont think im anyone holy cuz im far from that +o( i think what is stopping me from doing good, is my sinning. i go through so many trials, and i this enthusiam i have doesnt seem to be getting anywhere but i think "yeah i deserve it i commit such and such sin, why arent i surpised that this is happeing to me. no wonder why im not getting anywhere my heart is too dark and it doesn't deserve the good of working towards Islam?" these are the thoughts that go through my mind. am i being to negative?

what does it mean when you dream about death? i had one the other morning and it was a bit of a wake up call.

these are just some of my thought....pls pray -if anything you get from this thread- pls pray that i have a good dead. PLEASE:cry:

[muslimsister1]

:sl:

Hope ur in gud health, i understand where your coming from cuz i think the same, latley it has been a lot as there has been a incident where i live, house fire where husband has passed away and wife and kids are criticaly in hosp, wife and kids do not know that he has passed away and his funeral has taken place as well. im trying to better myself as much as i can, its hard but keep doing zikr and pray ur namaz's, Allah knows your fears, talk to Allah and he will show you the right path Inshallah. I fear the hear after, the azab of the grave and whether i will be able to ans the 3 question we will be asked, jst gta keep praying, take care.

[Alphadude]

i dont fear death i fear whats gona happen after i die and its normal having dreams about death dreams are always a way around try praying and reading Quran it will help you get out of these feelings i had the same problem some time ago know i feel fine

[cat eyes]

i had a dream about my death it was a couple of months ago now and i saw myself wrapped up in the white cloth and i saw the after life where the bad people go until judgement day it was so freaky and the ginn were everywhere :phew i could see them plain and clear. Alhamdulilah look we have a chance to repent for our sins and be better muslims these are all warnings from Allah

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[czgibson]

Greetings,

I fear a painful death, but as for the state of being dead itself, I find that no more worrying than contemplating the state I was in before I was born.

Peace

[Afg]

I had a dream about death too. And i think it is scary after you die. Like in the grave, you are how many feet under the ground. Alone, dark. And you have to answer those three questions. It might look simple, but actually it will be very difficult, that is why you have to have a very strong faith.

Don't be afraid. And if you think too much about death, then also remember that we can die any time. So we should always be prepared, it may be hard but just try.

Think it like this, because you don't know when is your death, try to prepare now. This should give you some energy :) And don't be too negative if you think you are. It is better to find ways to lead a better life before it is too late.

[Hamza Asadullah]

not the actual lfe after death itself, but the the actual dying and beogn under the dirt, etc. does that scare you? do you wonder about how you will die and when? does it scare you what lies int eh hereafter for you?

see, i have these fears ad i think about death alot. not death itself but how and what will cause my death. i dont know why, but these are the strange things that cross my mind every so often. please dont think that im anyone holy. im not. +o( and this is where the prob is. you'd think taht this fear would motivate me to work more and work towards my aakhirah. but it doesn't imsad im just stuck. i have so much ibaadah i want to achieve, i want to reach the stars whilst im in this short dunya. i really and truly want to stand out but i dont seem to be using my enthusiasm towards something good.

also my sinning is troubling me. again, dont think im anyone holy cuz im far from that +o( i think what is stopping me from doing good, is my sinning. i go through so many trials, and i this enthusiam i have doesnt seem to be getting anywhere but i think "yeah i deserve it i commit such and such sin, why arent i surpised that this is happeing to me. no wonder why im not getting anywhere my heart is too dark and it doesn't deserve the good of working towards Islam?" these are the thoughts that go through my mind. am i being to negative?

what does it mean when you dream about death? i had one the other morning and it was a bit of a wake up call.

these are just some of my thought....pls pray -if anything you get from this thread- pls pray that i have a good dead. PLEASE:cry:

Asalaamu Alaikum wr wb, My dear Brother the problem that you have is a problem that a lot of us go through in our lives. Imaan (Faith) goes out of our body as quick as water goes out from a bottle of water when you tip it over.

My Brother Allah’s mercy, compassion and forgiveness are all encompassing and his mercy is one of his most important and significant qualities of the almighty in the Qur’an, as well as in the saying and teachings of Prophet Muhammad (Pbuh).

In a Hadith Qudsi Allah states: "My mercy prevails over My wrath."

The Prophet also once said:

Allah, the Almighty, says: Whosoever does a good deed, will have (reward) ten times like it and I add more; and whosoever does an evil, will have the punishment like it or I will forgive (him); and whosoever approaches Me by one span, I will approach him by one cubit; and whosoever approaches Me by one cubit, I approach him by one fathom, and whosoever comes to Me walking, I go to him running; and whosoever meets Me with an earth-load of sins without associating anything with Me, I meet him with forgiveness like that. (Sahih Muslim)

Approximately 113 chapters of the Holy Qur’an begin with: "In the name of Allah the Most-Compassionate; the Most-Merciful". This is a constant reminder to all who read the Qur’an of the great mercy, compassion and forgiveness of almighty Allah.

My Brother if we don’t keep consistent with our deen then it is inevitable that our imaan will decrease. If we don’t let go of our love for this world and worldly things then how can our imaan remain high?


My Brother we should thank Allah so much everyday because firstly out of BILLIONS of people that he's created he chose US and gave US imaan! He didn’t have to, he could of created us non believers and he could have created us in ANY time period in history like in the dark ages or in the medieval times or some other terrible time period but he created us in a relatively safe environment in one of the richest countries in the world with luxury, food on a plate, anything we want and all we have to do is look at the unfortunate people who have NOTHING and we will truly realise how lucky we really are and that Allah has given us EVERYTHING! Many times I have been to my native Pakistan and seen the poor there and I just feel SO lucky sister that what Allah has given us compared to these people. I saw a paralysed guy ROLLING around on the streets because he couldn’t walk or afford a wheel chair.


My Brother the amount of poverty that people are experiencing in this world and the position Allah has put us in we should constantly be in prostration to him! We are SO SO lucky my Brother and we still complain about this and that but we should be ever thankful to Allah night and day!

We take for granted what he has given us! He could have created us paralysed or with a terrible debilitating disease but no my Brother he has given us health, wealth and best of all imaan!

Please everyday contemplate these things and you will ALWAYS be so so appreciative of Allah because my Brother SO SO many people are suffering the most terrible hardships yet we are living in luxury!

Look at our poor brothers and sisters in war torn countries and those who are being oppressed by their governments who don’t even allow them to practise their deen yet where we are our governments do allow us to practise our deen properly without any problems.

Even though we sin day in and day out our almighty creator still provides for us, nourishes us, sustains us and gives us EVERYTHING we need EVERYDAY OF OUR LIVES!

My Brother we are so lucky if ONLY we knew. Even after our imaan goes down Allah is still trying to guide us. A

All we have to Brother is to make a little effort for EVERYTHING Allah's given us and that is still so hard for us to do!

He gave us life,health,working limbs when there are people who have limbs missing or deformed and he has given us EVERY SINGLE THING and yet we still struggle to thank him and pray to him for a few minutes a day. Even if we were to spend eternity imagining the favours Allahs done for us we would NEVER be able to!

My Brother happiness and contentment of the heart ONLY lies with Allah! Whether we gain this happiness and true contentment really depends on how obedient we are to Allah's commandments!

Remember everything that is good comes from Allah and everything bad that happens comes from us and our own doings! Allah tests his creations in MANY different ways!

He may test us in any aspect of our lives! He says in the Qur'an as well that do you think that you will not be tested? What is the point and purpose of life if we are not to be tried and tested by Allah! Allah just wants to see how we will react when were tested! Will we go closer to shaythan or closer to Allah? Why should we let shaythan win? For Allah tests a person so that he may bring them closer to him! Who were tested the most? The prophets! Do you know why? Because they were the best of all creation! So the more Allah tests us the more he wants us to be closer to him because Allah is with the ones who are patient! Subhanallah

It is shaythan who wants us to become closer to him and will we let him? He ONLY wants our destruction! He's trying to keep us away from our deen by trying to distract us with deceptins of this world but will we let him? It is shaythan who wants to make us lose faith in Allah and trying to make us give up hope and get depressed and confused! It is shaythan who wants to see our destruction! Will we let him do this to us and win? Will we let him jeopardise our imaan and bring us to destruction?

My Brother Allah has not asked us for much in this life compared to what he's got on offer for us in the hereafter! Allah has just asked us for full obedience to him for a short amount of time (70 years to the most) and in return for this he has promised us ETERENITY of bliss!


Is that not the most amazing offer one can EVER imagine or comprehend? On top of that Allah has given us everything we need, life, shelter, wealth, food, clothing I can go on and on on the favours of Allah FOREVER!

Allah just wants the best for us and he shows us in the Qur'an that righteousness is the path to success in this world and the next!

This life for us can end at ANY second brother as we have seen for ourselves people dying around us and we know how temporary life is and if we waste our lives further then we will surely regret it on Qiyamat because we will ask Allah for one more chance but it will be too late because Allah will say have i not given you enough chances in this world to change? We would regret it FOREVER if we were to die at this point of our lives because were not even prepared for the hereafter what will we show? What have we got to show to Allah for what we have done with our lives so far? NOTHING!

My Brother my dear friend died this Ramadan and and he was only 28 years of age. My Brother how do we know that ANY second we can go to!

If we CONSTANTLY remind ourselves of death then we will NEVER slack in our deen because we would know that the angel of death may take us ANY second!

We get SOO many chances from Allah everyday but yet again and again we don't take those chances and one time we might not get anymore! So it’s best for us to change now and strive to abide by the commandments of Allah and go closer to him because he is our beloved creator and he knows what’s best for us we don't!

We don't know how much time we have left so we should NOT dwell on our past or bad experiences etc because it will do us no good!

Being depressed or down about life and losing hope and faith will NEVER benefit us but cause our doom!

If we think to ourselves that life is too short to be down or lose hope and faith and that i should spend most of my time working for the next life then this is the best way to live our lives because what is the point of investing time and efforts in this world when those efforts are for something that is temporary and could end at ANYTIME!

Why not spend our time and efforts on the hereafter which is for ETERNITY and any investment we put into the hereafter will benefit us forever and we will wreak the rewards for eternity!

We all have done mistakes in our life that we wish we can get a time machine and do things differently! We wish we could go back and change things so that things could have been different but what is the point of thinking this way? We are wasting even more time thinking this way when we could be using the precious time that we have in doing things better now and the future because that’s what really counts!

Let’s move on and NOT think and dwell about the past because our life experiences make us who we are and make us wiser people!

Sometimes in life we have to learn the hard way because the hard way is the best way to learn at times and we have to just accept what’s happened and move on because life goes on but we don't know for how long! We have to realise how precious time is!

Death will NEVER be moved forward it will happen at EXACTLY the time it is appointed for and this is something that should really make us realise that we can really DIE AT ANY TIME and ANY second!

Once we get the closest to Allah then we will desire death for it will release us from this prison for this world is a prison for the believer and heaven for the non believer! Death will bring us closer to meeting Allah and we should desire meeting Allah more than ANYTHING! But my brother the state were in right now we don;t want death because we have prepared NOTHING for the hereafter! NOW is the time my brother we have NO tomorrow! Lets prepare NOW and get the closest to Allah and ask him to give us a painless death!

So lets forget the past now and move on and do the BEST we can now and the future in pleasing Allah and trying to be the closest to him and repenting our past sins because if we repent with full sincerity with the intention of NEVER doing it again then Allah almighty will forgive us inshallah that’s how merciful he is!


We can work our WHOLE lives 24/7 and build a wonderful life for ourselves here and then the next day we die before we can even enjoy the fruits of our hard labour! What was the point of all that investment just in this world when it can end at ANYTIME!

Let’s ONLY invest the very minimum into this world lets invest as much as we can to the next world which is our final and ultimate destination!

The Prophet (saw) says to that we should treat this life as if it were just on a journey! This life is not a very long stop until our final abode which is the hereafter!


When investors are looking to invest in a business venture do they look for short term gains or long term? Obviously long term my sister and that’s what we should be looking for because the cleverest person is the one who makes arrangements for the hereafter and not only in this world!

That’s not to say that we shouldn’t have our share in this world of course we should but we should invest most of our time in the next life which is for ETERNITY!

If we don't then we will regret it forever because on the day of judgement when were standing infornt of Allah we will ask him to give us another chance and put us back on earth so that we may do things better and never transgress but Allah will say i gave u MANY chances and you did not come towards me now you can go towards Hell!

We would NOT be able to handle a single second in the hell fire my sister, we cannot even imagine how terrifying this will be so we should do our best in this life to seek protection from it and make our good deeds balance as heavy as possible!

Sometimes i find it very hard to imagine when i think of the concept of FOREVER! It’s hard to imagine something that will last forever! That it will never cease but will go on and on! It’s not hard to think of temporary because most of the things around us goes through a cycle of life and then ceases to exist!

We see people die all around us we see things ending etc But the concept of forever is unimaginable because nothing in this life is forever! We cannot imagine there hereafter that is why u may find it difficult to comprehend but if we believe in the hereafter then of course we must believe in the full descriptions of heaven and hell!

The disbelievers have nothing to live for! They go through life ONLY living for this and are confused and unaware of the hereafter that they will have to answer to Allah and that a terrible punishment may be coming to them!

Allah guides who he wants and he says in the Qur'an that if he wanted to he would guide all of mankind but that would go against the whole point of this creation and testing mankind! Allah knows best who is worthy of having faith and guidance! But it is truly a sad life for those who have no purpose in this life! They live just for this world! This is their paradise! This is their bliss!


One of the main reasons why we lack in imaan brother is also due to a lack of knowledge of Islam!

Knowledge always makes things clearer to us! If we constantly gain knowledge of Islam and especially the akhirah and at the same time contemplate and ponder over it then my sister our imaan will remain strong because we know what is to come.

My Brother our enemy shaythan wats our destruction and he will stop at NOTHING until we desire this world and live for this life but my sister this life is SO SO short that we cannot imagine.

A hadith to the nearest meaning says that when we will be in the akhirah we will be asked "How long were you on the earth for?" We will say " Only for a few hours" because the comparison of this world to the akhirah is NOTHING! So when we are in this next world this world will seem like a few hours!

My Brother we will regret every second we wasted! In the akhirah we will wish that we went back to the earth and done things better but this is our chance! My Brother we can't waste our one chance we have in this world!

What is this dunya but an illussion and a deception? Allah says this in the Qur'an that this life is like a veil over your eyes its a deception! We have to wake up Brother and keep reminding ourselves EVERYday of our purpose!

My Brother Allah loves us 70 times more than a mother loves its baby! How much love has our almighty got for us! He looks after us, sustains us and cherishes us but what do we do? We run after this world! We are truly sad and we will be the losers on Qiyamat unless we change NOW!

My Brother Ramadan left us 2 months ago but as long as we have life and our soul is in us then the doors of mercy are open for us and Allah can forgive us but we need to make the changes in our own heads and we need to make sincere vows to Allah that we will ONLY go towards him and we will ONLY put everything into the Akhirah to please him!

We need to only live for this world as much as we can survive comfortably but everything we do for this world we should also make the intention of doing it for Allah's pleasure so that we can survive in this world!

Also my brother you need to ALWAYS keep reminding yourself that there is NOT a second to waste being down or depressed about anything and that we can go out of this world at ANY SECOND so we have to spend EVERY valuable second pleasing Allah and filling up our good deed accounts. If we keep constantly reminding ourselves of this then we will constantly busy ourselves with Zikr and we will have no time for being down or depressed.

We need to keep thinking that EVERYTHING that happens happens because of the will of Allah so whatever will happen will happen anyway so there is NO point of us being worried about it or down or depressed about it. We need to keep reminding ourselves that this world is only for a very short whgile and as our beloved Rasulallah (Saw) said we should think that we are just passers by in this world and travellers ready for our ETERNAL destination in the hereafter. That is our final abode and rsting place and that is all we should desire and work towards. We should only work towards this world as much as we can survive comfortably.

It is shaythan who wants to confuse us and slow down our progress. He wants to mess our heads up and try and give us distractions but my brother lets not EVER let shaythan distract us away from pleasing Allah and worshipping him!

We should keep reminding ourselves that shaythan just wants to decieve us and make us down and depressed so we can waste time and not fill up our good deed accounts and he wants to prevent us from pleasing Allah so we should realise that he is trying to do this and work EVEN harder to please Allah and think to ourselves

This life is our ONLY chance to please Allah and gain as many good deeds as we can so that we can build our eternity in the next world. We can't build our eternity once were dead so we HAVE to do as much as we can to please Allah and increase our good deeds now that we are alive before death overtakes us and death can overtake us at ANY second!

You need to try and find good pious local brothers who are working for the akhirah. You can find these at your local Masjid im sure. You are who your friends are and if your friends are those who desire this world then you need to get away from them and go towards those who are working for the akhirah!


You are who your friends are and if your friends are those who desire this world then you need to get away from them and go towards those who are working for the akhirah!

My Brother in order to attain khushu (imaging we can see Allah when praying or doing good deeds) we need to clear our minds of all thoughts and focus SOLELY on Allah! We need to gain more sincerety in our hearts and clean out from our hearts the love of this dunya!

This can be attained but its not an over night process, but my sister our imaan can constantly remain strong and high if we contantly glorify Allah throughout the day and remember him no matter what we do!

We should imagine him watching us glorify him and think of him and we should do lots of duas throughout the day and gain a close relationship with Allah!

We should read much of the Qur'an and its meanings and contemplate and ponder over its meanings. We should try and spend a little time each day trying to memorise bits of the Qur'an and even make intention that we want to memorise all of it because W e will get our reward depending on our intention!

We should try and learn and implement as MANY Sunnahs of our beloved Rasulallah (Saw) as possible who is our role model and we should learn the masnoon duas and implement them EVERYDAY in our lives!

We should learn the life story and the seerah of our beloved Rasul (Saw) and learn about every aspect of his most amazing life! This will surely soften our hearts!

We should learn about the stories of the pious predecessors and the hero's of islam and take them as our heros because they are the true heros of this world!

We should constantly remind ourselves of death and read about it all the time my brother and read about what will happen to us after death in the grave and in the hereafter!

We should learn about our possible rewards in Jannah and our demise in Jahannam if we fail and die without imaan May Allah save us all!

We should try and gain a thirst for knowledge my Brother because it is said that the ones with knowledge and the ones without knowledge is like the distance from here to the star that you can see shining and learning knowledge of Islam will opens up our eyes wider than they currently are.

We need to acquire a taste and a desire to gain knowledge and try our best to act upon it and implement it in our daily lives and share it with others! My brother we need to try and gain the closeness to Allah by reading MANY nafil salah's.

My brother we need to try and constantly occupy ourselves with the Zikr of Allah and glorify him day and night!

Allah says in the Qur'an "Remember Allah abundantly, in order that you become successful"
Quran (Surah 8: Verse 45)

"Only in the remembrance of Allah (swt) will your heart find peace" Quran (Surah 13: Verse 28)

"Those men and women who engage much in Allah's praise. for them Allah has prepared forgiveness and a Great Reward"
Quran (Surah 33: Verse 35)

"When any group of men remember Allah, angels surround them and mercy covers them, tranquility descends upon them, and Allah mentions them to those who are with Him." (Muslim)

We also know that remembering Allah is of the greatest deed:

"The rememebrence of Allah (swt) is the greatest (deed)"
Quran (Surah 29: Verse 45)

and of the the worst things we can do is not to remember Allah:

"Satan has mastered them and caused them to forget the Remembrance of Allah. Those are satan's party; and satan's party shall assuredly be the losers"
Quran (Surah 58: Verse 19)

"Whosoever turns away from the Remembrance of Allah, He will hurl him into a stern punishment".
Quran (Surah 72: Verse 17)

"Whosoever turns away from My remembrance, his life will be made tight and narrow on the Day of Resurrection We shall raise him blind"
Quran (Surah 20: Verse 124)

Allah tells us to remember him no matter what we do whether that be lying or sitting down:

"They are the most wise who remember Allah, standing sitting and lying down"
Quran (Surah 4: Verse 190)

We should remember Allah no matter what we are doing and we should ALWAYS try to keep our tongues moist with his rememberance and glorification.

Here are some VERY quick, easy and rewarding ways of earning good deeds everyday especially easy zikr's:

http://www.sunniforum.com/forum/showthread.php?t=50628


In the morning when waking up for tahajjud even if its 20 mins before start of Fajr and then wait until Fajr and pray that and then do ibaadah until ishraaq(Sunrise) and then pray that Salah and then the breakfast salah(Salaatul Duhaa) and then pray Zuhr with all the sunnah and Nafil and same with Asr and make some time to do ibaadah until Maghrib and read the nafils after that (Salaatul Awabeen) and read isha and all the sunnah and nafil and do zikr throughout the day, So my Brother if we do all of these things then were are implementing Islam FULLY in our lives and we will be SO SO close to Allah and feel the best feeling in our hearts that we can EVER imagine! We will feel the sweetness of imaan!Oh what a beautiful feeling it is! My Brother we should try and cry to Allah everyday on our duas and feel him close to us in our hearts!

Please click on the link for a more detailed explanation of the many Nafil Salah which we can pray everyday so we can be the closest to Allah!

VERY Rewarding Nafl Salaahs we can Pray Everyday

http://www.sunniforum.com/forum/showthread.php?t=49289

We should cry over our sins and cry to him for guidance and help in our lives and ask of him for EVERYTHING we want, especially in this last portion of the night where duas are more readily accepted. Just like a mother runs to its baby when its crying then will Allah not swiftly attend to us when we cry to him in dua? We should have hope of his mercy after sincere repentence and make intention not to repeat the sin again but if we do then we should continue to ask for repentance my Brother because Allah is most merciful and his mercy overcomes his wrath! Allah gets angry at those who don't ask of him!

We should ALWAYS make dua for our parents and all of the Muslims. If we make dua for EVERY Muslim then we will get the reward of EVERY Muslim. So thats BILLIONS of good deeds evrytime we pray for everyone! We need to make a habit of doing this!

We should from now on have FULL hope in him and him ONLY! We should have FULL reliance in him and accept the fact that if he tests us then he is wanting us to be the closest to him and we should bare the test with patience! He ONLY tests those he wants closest to him!

My Brother can you feel in your heart how much you desire to be the closest to Allah? It is because Allah is wanting you to be the closest to him and he is wanting you to desire the next world and not this world which is PATHETIC my Brother and NOTHING but deception and a waste! This life is a proto-type of the akhirah.

My Brother lets get the hunger for good deeds and making Allah the happiest.

My Brother people spend their whole lives looking for peace and contentment in their hearts and ALL the worldly goods and money have NEVER given them that! Allah says that ONLY with my rememebance will hearts find contentment! So my Brother we have to CONSTANTLY remember him and glorify him!

We need to constantly keep our lips moist from his glorification. Keep a tasbih near to you in your hands ALWAYS because a tasbih is the best reminder for one to do zikr. I find that a metal clicking tasbih is really good and practical to carry ANYWHERE.

My Brother Allah is watching us in our prayers and EVERYTHING that we do so we need to imagine he is watching us because he ACTUALLY is! What an amazing feel that he is watching us pray and glorify him!


Let’s make the best of every second we have now and NOT waste it anymore! Let’s learn as much as we can about our beautiful way of life because it is truly amazing and has perfect wisdom in it!

Once we become closest to Allah we will feel more amazing than we have EVER imagined because Allah says that you will NOT find contentment and true happiness in money or anything else but you will ONLY find true contentment and happiness in me and NOTHING else!

So my Brother this is our chance to aim HIGH and gain the HIGHEST positions in paradise! Allah wants you to come closer to him so grab this opportunity and lets keep ourselves strong against the whispers from shaythan who wants our destruction by distracting us with worthless time wasting that will NEVER benefit us but cause our doom!

Allah is beauty itself for he is perfection and the almight master of the universe and we are is lowly slaves who are insignificant like a speck of dust!

We should make the intention NOW that we will change our lives FOREVER and we go FULLY towards Allah and make our sole purpose and aim in this life to make him the happiest and shun this world which is deception and a jannah for the non believers for this is their temporary bliss and our bliss will be FOREVER in Jannah inshallah.

Life is so uncertain and we can be taken ANY second my dear Brother ands when it is gone then we can't do anything more to please Allah and add to our good deed accounts. We need Allah, he doesn’t need us so lets trive to go towards him FULLY!

We should desire to be the closest to Allah and Allah wants us to be the closest to him because he loves us MUCH MORE THAN WE CAN EVER IMAGINE!

So lets show him how much we love him with action and lets glorify him and thank him day and night because he loves those who thank him constantly and are appreciative of him SO SO much!

Let us make changes to ourselves NOW because we may not live tomorrow! Let's re-evaluate ourselves and realise that we only have ONE purpose and our destination is in the hereafter for our stay in this world is so so short.

Let us spend each day FULL of worship and obedience to him and a life where we will spend it making him the happiest and he will fulfill our needs and give us peace and contentment in our hearts which is the best feeling anyone can EVER imagine!

Please ask me anything you want im here for you as your brother!

My Brother i hope these very useful and beneficial links may help you:

25 Ways to Deal with Stress and Anxiety VERY GOOD THREAD

http://www.sunniforum.com/forum/showthread.php?t=43179

10 Steps to Increasing our Iman(Faith)

http://www.sunniforum.com/forum/showthread.php?t=40459

Signs of Weak Iman and How to Increase It

http://www.missionislam.com/knowledge/weakimanfix.htm

The Four Poisons of the Heart

http://www.sunniforum.com/forum/showthread.php?t=42540

A party in Paradise, A party in Hellfire

http://www.sunniforum.com/forum/showthread.php?t=39698

The Spectacle of Death - Tawfique Chowdhury

http://www.islamictube.net/watch/161...ique-Chowdhury

The Ultimate Motivation for Muslims

http://www.sunniforum.com/forum/showthread.php?t=49243

The State of the People of Paradise in this World

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Please remember me in your dua's. Allah Hafiz

[mariyyah]

Assalamou Alaikoum Warahmatou Allah Talla Wa barakatou,

me too i have fear not from death but from what will be my judgment and how i will face ALLAH SWT with my sins , Im very lazy to pray properly and thats my biggest worries , sometimes i put the hijjab sometimes not , I wish ALLAH SWT give me hidaya and time to become a good person before death INSHALLAH , My dream in this life is to pray propely and to cover my self and to go to hajj and to help poor people and then i dont mind to die because i will be sure i will face ALLAH SWT as a good person INSHALLAH , please pray for your self and for us to be good before death

[zakirs]

Assalamou Alaikoum Warahmatou Allah Talla Wa barakatou,

me too i have fear not from death but from what will be my judgment and how i will face ALLAH SWT with my sins , Im very lazy to pray properly and thats my biggest worries , sometimes i put the hijjab sometimes not , I wish ALLAH SWT give me hidaya and time to become a good person before death INSHALLAH , My dream in this life is to pray propely and to cover my self and to go to hajj and to help poor people and then i dont mind to die because i will be sure i will face ALLAH SWT as a good person INSHALLAH , please pray for your self and for us to be good before death

Ameen and may Allah make us all good muslims and guide us to following the sunnah perfectly

[anonymous]

thank you for your replies. i want to get some other stuff off my shoulders :D
-i feel that im becoming a little aggressive and vicious :embarrass:hiding: and i need to learn how to clam down lol its not really what makes me angry, but sometimes i cant or dont know how to express that anger and that fact that i cant do anything about this anger, is what makes me angry. i need to learn how to let things go i mean what people do to and/or say. how do you let it go and just let hings be cos i dont know how to do that :(

my aggression is due to a number of things and the worst of my aggression is when people insult Islam and i cant do anything about it. even if i try to refute and prove them wrong, they still come up with nasty baseless rubbish, and i know that you people are going to say, "just ignore it, they want to start a fight." but how do you just walk away from someone who has insulted your prophet. even if i did ignore it, i'll become desensitized to it, possibly to the extent that when i see someone insulting our prophet, it wont matter to me (mega not good). it's quite exhausting refuting people, how do i approach it with a balance.

another thing that makes me aggressive and vicious is the mistreatment i cop from people. ok anyone reading this, would think there is some kind of giant person opposing me or something lol. it isnt the case, but im a sensitive person which makes peoples mistreatment alot worse then it is. for eg, my sister. i adore her, i do but sometimes shes really sarcastic and it can be a little insulting :(. i can either be a wimp and ignore it, but i dont find it dignifying to be insulted and sit and do nothing about it. and my other option is stand up to her which most of the time i do, but i feel this will make our relationship deteriorate but i dont want that to happen as once someone gets on my bad side, that's it, its hard for me to push everythign to the side and forgive and forget just like that as if nothing happened. if it was anyone else, id give 'em up in a heart beat but i cant do that to my sis (and i dont want to either) as it'll effect our blood ties, which i cannot risk!

-another thing is that i feel sometimes that im getting overly paranoid. anyone feel like that? maybe its the lack of iman? i feel that people are lying to me and when they try explain themselves, i feel that they are trying to mess with my head becuase im sure that (and not to sound arrogant here) that im in the right becuase what my heart tells me isnt exactly consistent with what they are trying to convince me. you know sometimes when you are so sure of something and then someone else comes along and tries to explain it...well yeah, their explanation makes no sense as you have seen and heard otherwise.

-time. im wasting it. i remember on the firs day of the last ten days of ramadan i was in constant ibaadah (not to boast here or anything). actually i wasn't really that constant but alot more constatnt that i usually would be. anyway my point is that i felt there was soooooooo much barakah in time. i mean i could probably of done so many things and still would have plenty of time left over. but now....imsad im wasting time and i feel so guilty and so helpless. i really dont know what to do and even worse, its one of the signs of day of judgment that a year will feel like a day, etc. that's really scary :phew :skeleton: in the last days of ramadan it felt like barakah :statisfie

-my prayers. i have barely, if any at all, humility/khoshoo3 whilst im praying. my mind goes everywhere. i feel so terribly guilty sometimes. i mean praying takes like 10 minutes and even in this ten minutes i cant even remediable allah properly. its a shame isnt we have all dat to think about whatver we want, but it onyl occurs during our prayers imsad i know hoe to increase my khushoo3, but the whispers of the devil just really overwhelm you.

-dreams. i had the weirdest dream this morning. does anyone know a reliable dream interpreter? i had/have the ibn sireen book, but apparently that's hokey, so i stopped using that :(

-im also feeling highly anxious and stressed. i feel alone and scared...sort of like im in a lonely forest or something. as i said, im not a holy person, but the day of judgment is really scaring me :phew
i dont want to go though it. is there anyway for its terrors to be removed from you?

im so stressed right now, i need your duas imsad

[adriatic82]

Hello ,every one is scared or worried about death ,people that say they are not they lie,thats why Allah didnt give us the knowlodge to know when we die,My dad was a very good person and educated me with Islam and before he died of cancer he told me that he is scared cuz its something that no one has been and come back to tell us ,its only faith that keeps up ,2 months ago my mum died of cancer too and she was in so much pain for months and a few days before she died she kept seeing loads of flowers and little kids playing and from her face expressions she was so happy and also she was a man standing there and smoking and she was wary of him .About the dreams ,if u see loads of people gathering ,eating meat and stuff ,that is a sign of death of somebody u know ,if u dream of somebody diying it has nothing to do with real death

[cat eyes]

maybe this will help to control your anger! islam belongs to Allah and not to us humans! we humans are so bad but Allah is so good. you have to first understand why the non muslim dose not like islam and why he insults it because he has no knowledge of it and its upto us to give that knowledge and not to get Angry because what if you got angry on that non muslim and he was thinking to revert to islam but he just had some doubts? Allah will question you on the day of judgement what way you went about it. our role model is our beloved prophet mohammad pbuh we are meant to take examples from but nobody is taking this on board and i can see this on this forum also, we should be bringing people to islam not driving them further away with our anger just because our day didn't go the way we wanted!

[adriatic82]

cat eyes ur so right ,i am a muslim and seek answers and all i got from sumone here was u dont deserve answers and u cant question Mohamed sav ,My finance is non muslim and i dont try and force her to be a muslim ,i only try and teach her about Allah and The Quran and to be a good person .Its hard to find a good muslim now days specially in western europe,a muslim that is not crasy about women ,a muslim that doesnt drink,a muslim that doesnt treat his wife bad

[OurIslamic]

I do not fear death since it it eminent that all of us will face it one day.

[Woodrow]

Perhaps it is the result of my family culture. But, I have more fear of life than of death. Death is inevitable, I have no choice or decision making in when or how it will occur, but occur it will.

However, life is very scary. All that I do requires I make free choices and there is no turning back, I must live with my choices. That is cause for fear.

The only option I see is to learn to live a life that teaches me the best choices to make. Take care of life and there is no need to be afraid of death.

[Hamza Asadullah]

thank you for your replies. i want to get some other stuff off my shoulders :D
-i feel that im becoming a little aggressive and vicious :embarrass:hiding: and i need to learn how to clam down lol its not really what makes me angry, but sometimes i cant or dont know how to express that anger and that fact that i cant do anything about this anger, is what makes me angry. i need to learn how to let things go i mean what people do to and/or say. how do you let it go and just let hings be cos i dont know how to do that :(

my aggression is due to a number of things and the worst of my aggression is when people insult Islam and i cant do anything about it. even if i try to refute and prove them wrong, they still come up with nasty baseless rubbish, and i know that you people are going to say, "just ignore it, they want to start a fight." but how do you just walk away from someone who has insulted your prophet. even if i did ignore it, i'll become desensitized to it, possibly to the extent that when i see someone insulting our prophet, it wont matter to me (mega not good). it's quite exhausting refuting people, how do i approach it with a balance.

another thing that makes me aggressive and vicious is the mistreatment i cop from people. ok anyone reading this, would think there is some kind of giant person opposing me or something lol. it isnt the case, but im a sensitive person which makes peoples mistreatment alot worse then it is. for eg, my sister. i adore her, i do but sometimes shes really sarcastic and it can be a little insulting :(. i can either be a wimp and ignore it, but i dont find it dignifying to be insulted and sit and do nothing about it. and my other option is stand up to her which most of the time i do, but i feel this will make our relationship deteriorate but i dont want that to happen as once someone gets on my bad side, that's it, its hard for me to push everythign to the side and forgive and forget just like that as if nothing happened. if it was anyone else, id give 'em up in a heart beat but i cant do that to my sis (and i dont want to either) as it'll effect our blood ties, which i cannot risk!

-another thing is that i feel sometimes that im getting overly paranoid. anyone feel like that? maybe its the lack of iman? i feel that people are lying to me and when they try explain themselves, i feel that they are trying to mess with my head becuase im sure that (and not to sound arrogant here) that im in the right becuase what my heart tells me isnt exactly consistent with what they are trying to convince me. you know sometimes when you are so sure of something and then someone else comes along and tries to explain it...well yeah, their explanation makes no sense as you have seen and heard otherwise.

-time. im wasting it. i remember on the firs day of the last ten days of ramadan i was in constant ibaadah (not to boast here or anything). actually i wasn't really that constant but alot more constatnt that i usually would be. anyway my point is that i felt there was soooooooo much barakah in time. i mean i could probably of done so many things and still would have plenty of time left over. but now....imsad im wasting time and i feel so guilty and so helpless. i really dont know what to do and even worse, its one of the signs of day of judgment that a year will feel like a day, etc. that's really scary :phew :skeleton: in the last days of ramadan it felt like barakah :statisfie

-my prayers. i have barely, if any at all, humility/khoshoo3 whilst im praying. my mind goes everywhere. i feel so terribly guilty sometimes. i mean praying takes like 10 minutes and even in this ten minutes i cant even remediable allah properly. its a shame isnt we have all dat to think about whatver we want, but it onyl occurs during our prayers imsad i know hoe to increase my khushoo3, but the whispers of the devil just really overwhelm you.

-dreams. i had the weirdest dream this morning. does anyone know a reliable dream interpreter? i had/have the ibn sireen book, but apparently that's hokey, so i stopped using that :(

-im also feeling highly anxious and stressed. i feel alone and scared...sort of like im in a lonely forest or something. as i said, im not a holy person, but the day of judgment is really scaring me :phew
i dont want to go though it. is there anyway for its terrors to be removed from you?

im so stressed right now, i need your duas imsad

Asalaamu Alaikum Wr Wb,


Doing good and having the right belief go hand in hand in Islam. In fact, doing good in practice is the proof of having the right belief in the heart. This is why the Holy Quran speaks of true Muslims very often as "those who believe and do good deeds". Both the Quran and the Holy Prophet have told Muslims that the best among them is that person who shows the best behaviour towards other people.

What we have to realise is my brother that the Prophet (Pbuh) was treated the worst by the disbelievers but he did'nt retaliate with nasty words or bad behaviour towards them. He gave them peace and love in return for their hate and malice. When he was stoned by the people of Taif the angel came to him and offered him the chance of crushing the whole city in between two mountains for the way they treated our beloved Prophet (Pbuh) but instead of retaliate by crushing the whole city the Prophet (Pbuh) made dua for Allah to forgive ALL of the people of the city and if they were not to accept Islam then at least their offspring accept Islam. The Prophet (Pbuh) dua was accepted and now the WHOLE city is Muslim. Subhanallah. What patience the Prophet (Pbuh) had.

Should we not try to resemble him? Or should we follow our own desires by losing our control and not being able to restrain ourselves. This is not the practise and sunnah of the Prophet (Pbuh). The Prophet (Pbuh) taught patience and wisdom when dealing with people and that we should be the BEST towards others even though they are nasty to us. Let us make dua for them instead of cursing them. Is it us who can guide them? If they say something blasphemous or something contrary to Islam then know that we can ONLY inform them but Allah guides so losing control is pointless and we are in loss if we get like that. So let us follow the xample of our beloved Prophet (Pbuh) who taught perfect manners and came to perfect the character.

Let us try to resemble his character rather than the character shaythan wants us to have.

[alcurad]

for some time perhaps, contemplating death was uncomfortable, but not anymore, as I don't think much of it anymore, it will come when it will come, no changing that so live your life as much as you can before it happens.

otherwise you need more self esteem, think of all the situations that you felt hurt/sensitive and find the reasons for why you shouldn't have let it hurt you. and more importantly go out, which is really the best solution, meet with more people, you'll find that you will be in a much happier mood outside than inside, as well as grow thicker skin, I mean no one is perfect right? we all make mistakes? well when you make them, then deal with them it really helps you in avoiding them again as well as make you more mature.

you are brave to write of this problem, see everyone has 'down' times as well as 'up', no exceptions, only difference is in how they deal with them. let your self out, and don't suppress it too much. surely there are people you can trust? one you can confide in? be careful, but also realize that there are many trustful and good friends if you look for them.

I myself am 'sensitive', sometimes I feel lonely too, and it doesn't feel good, but if you erect a barrier then no one can reach you. you can still talk to friends regardless, that's really important, there are some will care.

otherwise you prayers and general outlook on life are dependent on achievement and self esteem, really, just see how you go on to prayer and s on when in a calm mood, then compare to now.

what is causing you stress btw? school? job? family?

[Supreme]

Although prepared for martyrdom, I preferred that it be postponed

Sir Winston Churchill

Like most things Churchill said, I wholeheartedly agree. Obviously, I don't want to die- there are many things I haven't done in my life that I want to- but if died tomorrow, I wouldn't exactly mind. I've had a happy life and I've been (I hope) a good Christian, and then it's up to God to decide what to do with me.