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khalid84
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i was in a chat room and met a muslim sister and we quit got along and we talk about islam and so on cam to this question the sister said is chating to a men haram and i said i dont realy exactly now if it is or not but in my view it depends on the person iswell then she said yes indeed it depends on the person but some time feelings comes along and then things leads to one another and maybe zina so is that bad i mean haram or not even if u dont have bad feelings for some 1?
Asalaamu Alaikum Wr Wb my brother i commend you for coming on here and being open and honest about this problem because it shows you have concern about your imaan (faith) and that you do not want to jeapordise it.
The last decade or so has seen a massive rise in the use of the internet because it is now another way of communicating with each other. This rise has caused many to come up with new ways of people interacting and getting in touch with each other like facebook,hi5,Bebo and MANY more! You have the msn messenger, Paltalk and also MANY MANY chatrooms from around the world connecting people together.
Within those chatrooms you have the facility to send private messages and then you can swap adds with each other and add each other on msn or yahoo messenger.
I am very familiar with this my brother and let me tell you it is TOTALLY forbidden because wherever a man and a women are alone together and that includes msn and chatrooms then shaythan is ALWAYS the third party!
The Prophet (SAW) forbade men and women from being alone together. He said: “Never is a man alone with a woman except that Satan is the third party with them.”
Shaythan is very clever indeed he decieves us into thinking that we can talk to the opposite sex about Islam because it will be beneficial. Then we end up decieving ourselves thinking that we can talk to the opposite sex about Islam because it is a good thing.
How often have these conversations lead to bad results, and even caused people to fall in love, and have led some to do things that are even more serious than that. The Shaytaan makes each of them imagine attractive qualities in other, which leads them to develop an attachment that detrimental to their spiritual welfare and worldly affairs.
Then the more we talk to this person of the opposite sex the more we begin to like their qualities and character. Then slowly we start to fall for them until it is too late! This has happened COUNTLESS times to countless people around the world my brother and let me tell you that these social networking anc chatrooms are the places of evil and the places of shaythan and im talking out of experience because i knew and still know MANY people who have been ruined because of chatrooms.
Now that you know brother get rid of any social networks your a part of and stop going to any chatrooms that you take part in because these lead to haraam and we as Muslims are advised by our almighty to stay away from anything that takes us even close to haraam.
We should keep a close connection with the masjid and get involved with the brothers there and get involved with Islamic activities for the pleasure of Allah! Do not go anywhere near chatrooms or talking to ANY non mahram on the internet my brother. May Allah lead us to the straight path and not let us fall into the wrong path. Ameen