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Salam
i've got this friend, we aree soo close but every tym we go out or doo stuff we end up doing haram, and the thing is i cant really stay away from her as we are soo close i try to tell her to change her ways as she is also a muslim herself but it just doesn't work. but for lyk a few months now shes been going out with certain boy but when she goes out she tells her parents shes with me however the first tym it happend we both got caught and even police got involved as she was apparently missing and for lyk a few months her parents wasnt speaking to me. but the other day she told her parents she was at my house for the whole night and i had no clue about it and she was out with this boy again then around 11/12 her dad came knockin on my door i didnt know what to say to him and he thought i was lying.
this 'friend' also likes being a muslim just for the 'brothers' and now that i have been practising for a year now shes tryna persuade me to go to my old ways but im definatley not going back.
I dont want anyfing to do with her anymore but i also love her but i would rather go jannah instead, so any ideas of how i stay away.
jazakhallah
Asalaamu Alaikum Wr Wb my sister jazakallah for sharing this with us. My sister i know you have good intentions and a good heart but you have been too soft on her and in life we have to be stearn against evil and sin.
She has walked over you for far too long and it is clear she does not even take you seriously. Allah gave you inclination to come here to share this problem so that we can advise you to do the right thing my sister and i would advise you to tell her parents the truth right away!
Everytime you cover for her and allow her to commit major sin and evil, you are also getting a big sin for this! Imagine if her parents found out for themselves which a lot of parents eventually do and how ripped apart and hurt would they be that all this time you covered the evil she has committed all of this time and still continued to do so!
But if you tell them yourself what she has been upto then they will definatley understand why you did it and that you felt guilty so came clean, so don't waste a minute more and tell them straight away because this girl will NOT listen to you!
If you do threaten her to tell her parents then she will just use some other excuse and continue the evil she is committing now! Would you want that?
If you were a mother and you found out your daughter was doing the same thing and also found out that her friend was covering for her and continues to do so until you caught them then how hurt and ripped apart would you feel? Would you not want to know so that you can put a stop to this?
I know its not easy but its now time for you to become firm against evil and put your foot down. Are you going to continue to be a walkover? If we were parents and had daughters like that how would we feel if no one told us of the evil they got upto but instead hid it from us?
Do the right thing and tell them as soon as you can and they will take appropriate action to stop her of the evil she is committed inshallah because trust me NOTHING else will work and you will be doing it for her benefit.
You must also get away from her as soon as you can. Islam teaches us that the best friend is the one that leads us towards Jannah and the worst one is the one that will lead us towards hell. So which do you think she is?
There is NO time to waste sister because our purpose is to move towards Allah and worship him best we can and please him but having a friend like that will cause you to do the opposite and will you let her waste your one chance that you have in this world to please Allah and earn jannah? Or will you take action NOW and tell her parents the TRUTH for her own good and move away from her?
Just yesterday my first cousin sister died at the tender age of 26, we do not know when our time is up but i'll tell you one thing sister it could be at ANY second! When our time is up then it will be too late to act and do good so the time to go close to Allah and do good and work for Jannah is NOW because there may NOT be a tomorrow! So you know what you have to do but DON'T delay it my sister because death will NOT delay coming to us for it will come in its EXACT time!