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I went to uni yesterday. I was walking past a study room and I saw a guy and girl, both Muslims kissing. It looked weird.
I've seen them both around. The girl wears a hijab and guy I'm sure is growing a beard. Both look religious and no they are not married.
Do I approach the guy and tell him what he is doing is wrong or should I leave it and just do dua for him. I don't want to approach him cos he might tell me its none of your business/or get lost.
I just thought I'd ask you guys what I should do cos shouldn't I as a Muslim tell someone they are committing a sin. i don't know.
What do you think?
JazakALLAH
Asalaamu Alaikum Wr Wb, unfortunatley this is very common nowadays in both Muslim and non Muslim countries.
It does sadden a person especially when one sees a girl with hijaab and guy with a beard openly having a relationship but nowadays a lot of couples get a secret nikah done which is wrong because a wedding should always be anounced so that no suspicion arises of the couple.
I think brother (I'm assuming your a guy because you said should i approach the brother) that it is our duty to enjoin good and forbid evil but it should be done with wisdom. So as the sister said you should introduce yourself to the guy first and then mention it to him that are you married and if he says he is'nt, then you can warn him that it is a major sin to have a re marital relationship with the opposite sex.
Once you have warned him in a gentle and polite manner then leave it to Allah for there is only so much that you can do. We can only inform for guidance is with Allah alone.
Give him this advice:
Shaykh Ibn ‘Uthaymeen (may Allaah have mercy on him) said:
A person may hear that a woman is of good character and virtuous and knowledgeable, so he may want to marry her. Or a woman may hear that a man is of good character and virtuous and knowledgeable and religiously committed, so she may want to marry him. But contact between the two who admire one another in ways that are not Islamically acceptable is the problem, which leads to disastrous consequences. In this case it is not permissible for the man to get in touch with the woman or for the woman to get in touch with the man, and say that he wants to marry her. Rather he should tell her wali (guardian) that he wants to marry her, or she should tell her wali that she wants to marry him, as ‘Umar (may Allaah be pleased with him) did when he offered his daughter Hafsah in marriage to Abu Bakr and ‘Uthmaan (may Allaah be pleased with them both). But if the woman contacts the man directly, this is what leads to fitnah (temptation). End quote.
Liqaa’aat al-Baab il-Maftooh (26/question no. 13)
My advice to you as your Muslim brother is that it is essential to stop corresponding with this girl, and tell him that he has to propose to her through her wali, if he really does want to get married. He should not regard his material circumstances or anything else as a barrier. The matter is simple, in sha Allaah, and if a person is content with little, Allaah will make him independent of means by His grace and bounty. He should at least contact her wali or get his family to contact her family and do the shar’i marriage contract, and if the consummation is delayed there is nothing wrong with that. But if correspondence continues between him and the girl then according to the rulings of sharee’ah and the experience of real life – is a wrong path that opens the door to sin and corruption. You can be certain that you will never find happiness except by obeying Allaah and adhering to the limits set by his sharee’ah. The permissible ways are sufficient and there is no need for haraam means, but we make it hard for ourselves and the shaytaan takes advantage of that.
Your delay in getting married is very harmful for you. The more you stay in this relationship the more you are angering Allah and the more chance there is that your relationship will not lead to marriage because a relationship has no blessings from Allah and a marriage can ONLY take place through the will of Allah so don;t dig yourself into a bigger and bigger hole.
Get yourself out of this forbidden relationship and save your imaan (faith) because when a non mahram man and a women are together committing zina then they have no imaan for the time they are with each other committing zina.
So save yourself and do whats right and ask for her hand in marriage because you should think to yourself that would you want your sister to have a intimate relationship with a man like you are having with this girl? If its not right for your sister then why should it be right for the sister you are seeing? So be a man and tell your family and then go to her house with your family and do things the right way by asking for her hand in marriage and at least get the nikah done and you can consumate the marriage later inshallah
And Allaah knows best.