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AlHoda
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Well, of course I talk with people if I have something to talk about. I just always run out of topic, I just don't know why? I always was a quiet person.
Asalaamu Alaikum Wr Wb, sister were all created different and have different personalities and traits which have been instilled in us. Some of us are extrovert and some are introvert.
You are more introverted which just seems that you tend to be more reserved, less outgoing, and less sociable. They are not necessarily loners but they tend to have smaller circles of friends and are less likely to thrive on making new social contacts. Introverts are less likely to seek stimulation from others because their own thoughts and imagination are stimulating enough. A common misconception is that all introverts suffer from social anxiety or shyness. Introversion does not describe social discomfort but rather social preference.
An introvert may not be shy at all but may merely prefer non social or less social activities. so accept that this is the way you are and in a way it is beneficial because at least you get to guard your tongue and Rasulallah (Pbuh) stated that the tongue is one of the most significant factors leading to people going to Jahannam. So at least you are saved in that respect.
As i have tried to advise you on numerous occassions that you should always try to keep yourself as busy as possible rather than sitting or lying around thinking all of the time because an idle mind is the playground of shaythan and if you sit or lay around thinking all of the time then you are going to get very distrorted thoughts where shaythan will try and mess around with your head and confuse you about certain matters.
Just busy yourself with doing good deeds like dhikrullah, reciting the Qur'an with its meanings and reading Islamic books and I would really suggest that you join a sisters circle where you can join like minded sisters in classes where you can learn about Islam as you should make the best of your youth to learn as much as possible because this is the time where its easier to learn.
Try not to think too ahead about the future. There is no certainty that we will even live another day let alone at some point in the future.
It is normal to be worried and uncertain about the future thats because the future is uncertain and so is the fact that we will be alive for another day or not. That is why we must make the best use of every second of our lives now in the present for we may not have a future so why worry about it?
If we have full hope, trust, faith and reliance in Allah then we will not have to worry about what will happen. Just make the best use of now and take one step at a time. Don't go thinking too far ahead too soon otherwise because its pointless. The reason why its pointless is because the way your thinking now you will not think in that way in the future.
Similarly when were young we don't know what it will be like when were old. So now that were unmarried we do not know what it will be like when were married. So trust in Allah and make the best use of every second of your life and whatever will happen will happen for the best inshallah.
and Allah knows best