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AnonymousGender
Ok,but what would her brother or father say to him? , it `s not easy to be direct and just say would you marry my sister?:embarrass
can you please imagine then write a conversation betwen her brother and that man ,how to begin then what.......etc,given that her brother is shy and think it`s very imbarrassing.
Asalaamu Alaikum Wr Wb, my sister your brother should go to the shop where he works and somehow strike a conversation with him.
Whilst he is having a conversation with him on general matters he can then bring up the subject of marriage and ask him what his situation is in regards to marriage.
He can ask that guy whether or not he's looking for a partner at the moment for marriage and if he confirms he is then your brother can say that he is also looking for a practising brother for his sister who is also practising and he can mention the fact that it is not easy to find practising brothers nowadays.
Then he can ask him "Since you are a practising brother and my sister is also practising then would you be interested in talking further about marriage?"
Then they can swap e mail addresses and phone numbers and take it from there. The guy can send whatever questions he has to your brothers e mail and your brother can forward it to you and then you can reply to the guys e mail questions with any important questions that you may have and send them to your brothers e mail who can then send it back to the guy.
This way any important questions that you or the guy may have can be answered. If you are both happy with the answers then your brother can ask the guy if his mother can call your mother and take things further from there.
Don't be nervous sister these things have to be done in life and this is the best way for you to approach this guy through your male mahram or wali.
Allah will be happy with you that you did it the right way rather than the wrong way which unfortunatley many of our brothers and sisters end up doing resulting in them getting hurt and scared.
Ask of Allah to help you through this and to do whatever is best for you.