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cat eyes
hummm her opinion is islamic in many ways thats why in these times mothers don't encourage there daughters to go out looking for the guy they believe to be islamic just by watching them. lets face it some men are cunning creatures . they might dress like muslims that dose not mean to say they are muslim in there heart. all you really have to do is read the threads here where these bad eggs encourage our sisters to meet with them alone without there wali present. dangerous times we are living in. its all about protecting the woman and that is greatly apart of islam.
The issue is a women showing interest in a man through her wali, and whether or not it is something shameful or bad. She's saying it is however Islam says it isn't.
Who is she to disagree with 'ulama and put her own opinion forth when Allah and his messenger have spoken on the topic.
If a women has her wali present as she meets him then she can get to know him and assertain whether he's right for her not. And her wali can also help her to make the decision by getting to know the brother she is interested in.
here's the proof from Islam that there is nothing wrong with a women showing inerest in a man through her wali.
Ruling on a woman letting a man know that she wants to marry him
Islamically , Is it okay for a sister to let a brother (in islam) know that she cherishes him and she has the intention to get married to him? Is it considered to be bold approach?.
Praise be to Allaah.
There is nothing wrong with a woman letting a man know that in principle, however the woman should not propose herself, rather it is better if that is done via her wali (guardian) or someone else who can let the man know. This is indicated by the fact that ‘Umar (may Allaah be pleased with him) offered his daughter Hafsah in marriage to Abu Bakr and ‘Uthmaan (may Allaah be pleased with them).
http://www.islam-qa.com/en/ref/22897...20to%20a%20man
Shaykh Dr. Khaalid al-Mushayqih
now do we put our own opinions before Allah and his messenger and the 'ulama?
115. And whoever contradicts and opposes the Messenger (Muhammad ) after the right path has been shown clearly to him, and follows other than the believers' way. We shall keep him in the path he has chosen, and burn him in Hell - what an evil destination.
the path of the believers in this issue is to not look down upon such a pratice and see it as something haraam/forbidden (bad). which path does she choose? her own culture and desires or the path of the believers?
we don't put our own opinion forth when Allah and his messenger have declared that there is nothing wrong with it,
The answer of the Believers, when summoned to Allah and His Messenger, in order that He may judge between them, is no other than this: they say, "We hear and we obey": it is such as these that will attain felicity
Allah, his messenger and the scholars say there's nothing wrong with it who are we to disagree? who are we to disagree and judge it according to our own intellect. her opinion is based on cultral preferences and not islamic sources, the opinion of the scholars is based upon islamic evidence which she clearly doesn't have in this matter.