Originally Posted by mammyluty
Asalaamu Alaikum Wr Wb, my sister it is far better that you get an elder of the family or community involved to mediate these disputes as their influence may have more weight in resolving this conflict.
You should also make them aware that Allah is very angry with those who break the ties of kinship within the family.
At two places in the Qur'an, Allah has cursed the one severing family ties:
"And those who break the covenant of Allah, after its ratification, and sever that which Allah has commanded to be joined (i.e. they sever the bond of kinship and are not good to their relatives) and work mischief in the land, on them is the curse, and for them is the unhappy home." - [Ar-Rad 13:25. See also Muhammad, 47:22-23].
A cursed person is one who is deprived of the mercy of Allah. It is an indication of this deprivation that this sin is punished in this world as well as in the Hereafter.
"There is no sin more deserving of having punishment meted out by Allah to its perpetrator in advance in this world along with what He stores up for him in the next world than oppression and severing ties of family." [Tirmidhi]
Another hadith highlights the high stakes involved here in a compelling way:
"Rahm (family ties) is a word derived from Ar-Rahman (The Compassionate One) And Allah says: 'I shall keep connection with him who maintains you and sever connection with him who severs you.'" [Bukhari]
"Whoever believes in Allah and the Last Day, let him maintain the bonds of kinship." [Sahih Al-Bukhari]
"Allah's mercy will not descend on people among whom there is one who severs ties of kinship." [Baihaqi, Shuab Al-Iman]
Make them aware of the Ayats and hadith pertaining to breaking ties of kinship and make them realise that until they have not resolved their issues then llah will remain angry at them and they will be deviod of peace in their hearts as well as blessings in their lives.
May Allah resolve the conflicts of all of our families are bring us altogether as one. Ameen.