.....my life is wasting away

[AnonymousPoster]

Salam,

the doctor says i'm bipolar,depression. i've been struggling with this for a long time.about5 years.i've been in and out school many times .3 different post-secondary schools. Bad attendance. never completed my education.debt$.been unemployed many times and relying on family..when i should be helping them.
see my biggest problem is i'm constantly down.Lack of energy. i spent most the years down. had a 2 month manic phase. Ended up in hospital twice.but most the years i was down . I need a charger. i've tried so many medications. And methods. i don't think i have a good doctor. i can't go to another one because he's the only one in town. I have lots of friends and co-workers that have bipolar and their totally fine.believe me i talked to them. i know medications work. they have improved some of my situation. But i want energy. If i had it i could move on with my life. I'd have the ablitily to think clearer, be more aware, be active etc. If i had those qualities i'd have the focuse and have motivation to read a book. If i could read a book it would help me with school. i could graduate then get a job. get married. have kids etc.this problem is even taking me very long to write this post.

i don't know what to do i'm 24. in a few months 25. time is flying. I feel like my life is wasting away

Maybe i can read something from the quran that might help. Can you guys point out parts i should focus on reading? And duas? if you guys have any other advice please share.

i'd like to add this is a real medical problem.this not the type of depression you might think it is. i don't want people coming and saying things like maybe i have weak iman. i'm saying this to filter out those people. yes i'm open and willing to try anything.whether it's a vitamin or directing me to a website or some sort exercize.maybe you know something i don't know .

thank you

[جوري]

Do you mind telling me how many meds you have been on, what they are and if you took yourself off these medications by yourself or were tapered off them by your doctor? and the longest period you have been on a medication, as well what stopped you from using them?

Also your gender

we'll work through this insha'Allah

:wa:

[AnonymousPoster]

Salam,

Thank You
Okay i hope this doesn't freak anyone out

My list. And i'll explain what i believe each medication did for me. not 100% sure but i think.

1. Lithium --been on it for 2 years. I think it took my anxiety away. The shaky feeling

2.Lamotrigine-- 1 year. I think it got me out of the house and gave a certain level of energy. and toned down my severy self-esteem problem ex. i had problems crossing the street because people are watching. didn't like the mall food court.basically i had serious problem being exposed to the public. i still have the problem.. just a lot less.

3. Wellbutrine XL-- 3 months--- I was given this to increase my energy. FAILED. But something really good came out of it and no one told me about.. it took the SADNESS/PAIN away. then all the bad thoughts i couldn't get under control .GONE.lt's was like a lid. rarely something comes up but IT"S A BIG DIFFERENCE. best so far.




4. Acetazolamide--I'm taking this medication for my eye . 1 year ago there was swelling and it has blurred the vision in my left eye. So i also take regular Xrays. What i wonder is if the eye problem is connected to the second medication. i don't want to point fingers at my doctor or least i want approach it correctly.

other info-
Apo-Lithium Carbonate 300mg(3 capsules at night)
Lamotrigine 100mg( 1 in morning 1 at night)
Wellbutrine XL 300mg
Apo-Acetazolamide 250mg( 1 in morning 1 at night)

[AnonymousPoster]

Do you mind telling me how many meds you have been on, what they are and if you took yourself off these medications by yourself or were tapered off them by your doctor? and the longest period you have been on a medication, as well what stopped you from using them?

Also your gender

we'll work through this insha'Allah

:wa:

I tried lots i'd have to go to the Pharamacy to get the list. And i usually listened to the doctor. I'm to scared to risk doing something on my own. I have a friend who took herself off and went againest the doctor (the same docotr)and she's fine. But she took her self off when she had energy where as I don't.

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[desert winds]

Asslam alaikum.
I understand how you feel. You really need alot of positive people around you, people who will pull you up and i think its important to perhaps change your doctor, i am aware you mentioned another town but maybe another opinion can make a difference. I know at the moment it feels like you have hit a brick wall and this is it. Its not. Try another doctor. Im going to message you something i want you to try.

[AnonymousPoster]

Asslam alaikum.
I understand how you feel. You really need alot of positive people around you, people who will pull you up ,.

My family and the community have been very supportive. I have one friend who's family give her a hard time. And they push her and tease. making it worst and harder for her,That happens when people aren't well informed. But my family alhumdulilah helped! when i didn't know i had the problem my little sister taught my about depression and said maybe go to doctor. moms a sweet heart. she never claims when i don't help. my other little sister is sweet. some of the rest need work:hmm: i just shut them out.overall alhumdulilah

and i think its important to perhaps change your doctor i am aware you mentioned another town but maybe another opinion can make a difference. I know at the moment it feels like you have hit a brick wall and this is it. Its not. Try another doctor. Im going to message you something i want you to try.

yeah me and my mom are talking about going to a bigger city for couple of days to talk to a different doctor. The bigger city is the same place i was first manic in and when i got out of the hosptial i moved to my moms town to be taken cared of. I know a friend in that bigger city, she was in the hospital the same time as me. She recovered in 2 months. Me 3-4years still going. I'm going to email her and ask her if she can remember her doctor. iF i do that...will they ask about my other doctor?will there be issues ? what should i take with me? are there any problems i should consider ?

other thing we're planning to do is talk to the iman in the one mosque we have. And see his advise. So my plan.

1. IslamicBoard--in progress
2. Talk to Iman
3. Email friend.
4. different Doctor, different city


is everything i'm writing making sense? i hope the writings not to long

[AnonymousPoster]

oh yeah

salam and thankyou dessert wind

[جوري]

Salam,

Thank You
Okay i hope this doesn't freak anyone out

My list. And i'll explain what i believe each medication did for me. not 100% sure but i think.

1. Lithium --been on it for 2 years. I think it took my anxiety away. The shaky feeling

2.Lamotrigine-- 1 year. I think it got me out of the house and gave a certain level of energy. and toned down my severy self-esteem problem ex. i had problems crossing the street because people are watching. didn't like the mall food court.basically i had serious problem being exposed to the public. i still have the problem.. just a lot less.

3. Wellbutrine XL-- 3 months--- I was given this to increase my energy. FAILED. But something really good came out of it and no one told me about.. it took the SADNESS/PAIN away. then all the bad thoughts i couldn't get under control .GONE.lt's was like a lid. rarely something comes up but IT"S A BIG DIFFERENCE. best so far.




4. Acetazolamide--I'm taking this medication for my eye . 1 year ago there was swelling and it has blurred the vision in my left eye. So i also take regular Xrays. What i wonder is if the eye problem is connected to the second medication. i don't want to point fingers at my doctor or least i want approach it correctly.

other info-
Apo-Lithium Carbonate 300mg(3 capsules at night)
Lamotrigine 100mg( 1 in morning 1 at night)
Wellbutrine XL 300mg
Apo-Acetazolamide 250mg( 1 in morning 1 at night)

:sl:
lithium needs frequent visits to the doctor as it has a very narrow therapeutic index but it is an excellent medication and a naturally occurring compound unless you were thinking of becoming pregnant then there is no reason to stop it, also, I didn't catch what the was the problem with lamotrigine?

you can't take a medication like welbutrin for 3 months and then quit, you need to be on it for at least 7 months to see some benefits.
carbonic anyhdrase are given for both gluacoma and types of seizures which btw the lamotrigine can also be given for. Medications aren't give for a specific thing like frequenting the bathroom to wash your hands from germs, they work on hormones, chemicals, neurotransmitters (the ones that are released in excess or in imbalanced way to attempt to bring the body to its normal state) so, in other words the things that cause you to have a specific behavior, if a medication is trying to correct an imbalance that you have, you can't simply quit it half way and decide it wasn't working for this particular problem.

we need you to take charge of what is ailing you.. and it will require some patience if you want to get better as is with everything else it doesn't get fixed over night.

Pls stay away from herbal meds, I just discussed one of those 'herbs' the other day in a completely unrelated topic
see here:

believing that
http://www.amazon.com/Similasan-Anxi...5&sr=8-1-spell

really will cure your anxiety over something like an SSRI which is FDA approved because doctors and pharmaceutical companies along with the FDA are evil but 'holistic medicine' is well holistic..
you even have strong endorsement from PhD's on the site
boasting the wonderful ''all natural ingredient' of Argentum nitricum!.. in other words Silver nitrate what they put in new borns eyes to ward of chlamydial infections.. not recommended for ingestion, least of which on daily basis let alone to treat anxiety !..

remember this guy

yup that is argyria (caused by silver ingestion) .. the same ingredient in the 'all natural' anti anxiety med.

so don't purchase something thinking it is a miracle cure without discussing it with a doctor first.

you need to get a diary to document your reaction to medications, you need to take them as prescribed and you need to follow up with appointments.

You can't do anything about the time gone, but you can do something about the time to come..

if you have any more questions or would like to discuss it in private then pls feel free to PM me..


:w:

[AnonymousPoster]

i'm sorry i think i explained it incorrectly. The FOUR medication i listed above i'm presently taking them right now. The other medications i have tried in the past are not on the list.

Sorry! about the ones i'm taking now i also wrote down the length of time i've used them.

As for herbs i'm pretty careful. I tried herbal tea grocery store stuff, and stuff like black seed. nothing further.

lithium needs frequent visits to the doctor as it has a very narrow therapeutic index but it is an excellent medication and a naturally occurring compound

you Did point something out! yeah your right. i see the doctor regularly and he usually tells me to get a blood test for my lithium levels? for last 6 months i haven't done them. On average i usually do it 1.5 months. I just got sick of the needels from the lithium and my eye problem. I'll get It done this week inshallah. and i noticed the last several months (5-7) my mood was getting worst. maybe it's the lithium . i'll check!

[Innocent Soul]

I hope this will help u a bit. :hmm:
http://www.scribd.com/doc/17621/Reme...the-Holy-QurAn
http://www.islamicvoice.com/march.2003/muslim_pers.htm

[جوري]

i'm sorry i think i explained it incorrectly. The FOUR medication i listed above i'm presently taking them right now. The other medications i have tried in the past are not on the list.

Sorry! about the ones i'm taking now i also wrote down the length of time i've used them.

As for herbs i'm pretty careful. I tried herbal tea grocery store stuff, and stuff like black seed. nothing further.



you Did point something out! yeah your right. i see the doctor regularly and he usually tells me to get a blood test for my lithium levels? for last 6 months i haven't done them. On average i usually do it 1.5 months. I just got sick of the needels from the lithium and my eye problem. I'll get It done this week inshallah. and i noticed the last several months (5-7) my mood was getting worst. maybe it's the lithium . i'll check!

lithium can cause anything from hyper to hypothyroidism both very much affecting mood (heart rate) level of consciousness and in higher levels can cause some pretty serious problems, which I don't wish to delve into right now for the purposes of this thread.

It is very important to keep a diary, yes being stuck is an awful thing I am with you, I stick myself often to check my blood sugar and whatnot it is painful but it gives you control over other things..

I really believe that the first step to getting better is to realize you have a problem and set out to fix it, and you are doing that right now...

so this is what you'll do from now on even if on a blog, just start your 'mood diary' and jot down anything, no matter how little, for instance
monday- had breakfast, was feeling lousy, a little nervous and shaky, took medication, didn't feel much improvement, went to work or school or watched movie whatever..
then again
tuesday- went to the doctor, s/he told me that he needs to lower my dose of lithium and booked me an appointment for next week, meanwhile took meds as prescribed, noticing some subtle improvement in mood and vision
next week. really hated going for blood test but the tech. was nice and afterward I had a cup of cappuccino in a dainty coffee shop and took a walk in the park, watched some birds feed etc.

just do this everyday no entry big or small and you'll slowly gain insight to the things that bother you, the things that aren't working and you'll really gain perspective and be in charge of your body and mood, slowly that will spill into other areas...

hang tough and be well

:w:

[mustafaisb]

:sl: Sorry to hear about your situation. I've experienced the same thing, albeit to a lesser degree. I have to tell you though, I've taken this and I feel much happier and have lots of energy. Take fish oil. Take one in the morning after a good meal and one at night after a good meal. Take at least 2-3 per day. This helped me tremendously. It cured my depression and indolence. Also fish oil has been shown-by numerous studies- to alleviate the symptoms of mental disorders such as bipolar disorder, schizophrenia, psychosis, etc. Here's one link and there's many more if you look around on the net. http://ezinearticles.com/?Fish-Oil-i...hosis&id=39353 Inshallah I hope you feel better after taking this. :wa:

[Ramadhan]

To the OP, do you exercise?

If you don't already exercise, then I'd recommend you to exercise regularly.
You don't need to do heavy work out, as long it's regular, if possible daily. If you can, go for a jog and swim in the morning and maybe some light exercise in the early evening. You would feel better afterwards, because exercise stimulate the brain to release endorphins. You will also sleep better, which help in beating the depression and lack of energy.
Game sports like tennis/badminton/football are also good for weekly exercise because apart from giving you the benefits of physical exercise, they also give you the benefits of social interactions and healthy competition.

You can also try to set some short term goals, the ones that are doable. They can be work-related, study-related, or even just setting simple goals like rearranging/tidying up your clothes in the closet. Once you've achieved your goals you will experience some "high" that makes you want to do another one. Set your goals regularly, if possible daily.

Also, please avoid stimulants, even if they are natural, such coffee and tea (don't be fooled by tea, it contains half as much amount as caffeine as coffee). If you are used to drinking coffee, initially it might be hard because you feel lethargic and caffeine is well, addictive, but please resist it.

[Eric H]

Greetings and peace be with you AnonymousGender;

I agree with naidamar, that exercise will contribute to your solution, I differ slightly with goal setting though. Aim for something a bit scary, if you take up jogging look towards completing a marathon by the end of next year.

That would mean doing a five mile event during spring, a half marathon about June, and the marathon by about September. You might be able to jog five or ten minutes to start with, but just keep pushing yourself a little further. If you don’t have an end goal in mind, then you may give up too soon.

In the spirit of making the first difficult steps.

Eric

[zakirs]

Al though i am inexperienced to give you enough advice on this issue.I pray for your health bro :) .Get well soon :)

:sl:

[AnonymousPoster]

^thankyou.
just So everyone knows god created me as a female

This is for everyone

1. I stopped checking lithium levels. Around June 2009----- 6-8months ago
2. I do have a diary . Last entry July 30,2009-----6 months ago
3. I Exersize. Presently 1-3 times a week. Tuesday and Thurday --- gym bike. Saturday 2hour walk.

I use to work out at the gym 3-4 times a week. Bike. Trendmill. wieghts. Stretching. AND i would walk 50mins 2-5 times a week. I LOVE TO WALK. .

In Dec.15 2008 I weighed 230pounds( beacause of depression and medication side effects). Today is Dec. 22, 2009 . I weigh about 176 pounds. In one year.about 54 pounds Gone!

I excersize. My energy is declining. So i'm excersizeing less. This Started 7-8months ago.

4. I lost a job in June-7months ago. I blamed this for my mood decline. took 4-5months to find another job.Job lastested 1 month.fired. i was slow. making mistakes. Now no job

5.my sister said to eat fish. mustafaisb said"Take fish oil. Take one in the morning after a good meal and one at night after a good meal. Take at least 2-3 per day."

interesting.

I should talk about my diet. what i'm doing wrong

I haven't been eating well. Not sure how long. Yesterday I only had cereal and 5-6 small samosas.(one meal) i rather be hungry then get something. Last night i paid for it and today. i ate something i shouldn't have had and i got sick in the bathroom. I got so sick i was on the floor.dizzy, my heart was beating fast,chest hurt.,my head was pounding, sweating. massive stomach pain . i was scared i was having a heart attack. I told two people i wasn't eating right so don't be alarmed.Today i ordered food to come the house and i always avoid outside food. I have little appetite, I'm not focusing on halal meat anymore until i can get my appetite back. minus pork.

Thank you guys . I live in a brain fog. You are helping see everything one by one.

I was doing better in the earlier part of the year but i was still depressed. My motivation?dec 15. 2008 the doctor advised me to lose wieght to ease the pressure swellling in me eyes. I was scared. the minute i walked out of the building i did a 1 hour walk to bus stop. he asked for. 20-25 pounds. I've lost 54:hmm: i was also on a new medication the same time i was motivated. Lamotrigine. Took it in Aug-Oct?2008 started to feel better in November 2008. so my best period in my whole depression . Nov.2008--Jun2009


Goal.
Lithium level check thurdays or friday. Might be a problem Christmas.
diary. tonight
exercise increase.tomorrow.
diet -buy a big long Sub. From Subway. tomorrow

God willing i'll answer back in about a week.
Jazakharin. Thankyou all
w/salam

[AnonymousPoster]

:sl: Sister if it isn't to much of a problem can you keep us informed about your condition? :wa:

[AnonymousPoster]

okay. i'll post. i'll even check in tomorrow inshallah.

i don't know how guys view my situation.....but..just so u guys know i'm actually a happy person even now right now.i'm serious i think i'm blessed. i'm not worried .i just want feel good and not waste anymore time.

w/salam

[AnonymousPoster]

me saying i'm happy is probably confusing .
especially since i have mood disorder.

I feel yucky and extremely tried,but i still have the ability to laugh. that makes sense. at least to me it does

w/salam again:hmm:

[zakirs]

:sl:

Its ok sister we all go through a similar phase.No normal human is totally confident of himself or his feelings.Stay strong and stop worrying .. worrying increases your problems further :) .


Happy eating at subway :)

[جوري]

okay. i'll post. i'll even check in tomorrow inshallah.

i don't know how guys view my situation.....but..just so u guys know i'm actually a happy person even now right now.i'm serious i think i'm blessed. i'm not worried .i just want feel good and not waste anymore time.

w/salam

:sl:

I am confused by how many anons are here.. just to let you know I don't think anyone here is judging you at all.. I don't see how anyone could? we are all subject to the human condition, being sick isn't in anyone's hand..

Yes lithium can cause serious acne and weight problems amongst other problems listed before, even though it is a good medication, if it isn't agreeable with you, I don't see you complying with it in the long run, and the purpose of medication isn't to suffer troughs and peaks rather to establish a nice steady state where you are as close to 'normal' as possible-- by normal I mean the natural baseline for you and not in contrast to anyone else..

I think after you take your lab tests and go discuss it with your physician, write down all your concerns and discuss them candidly..

just tell him or her, I am a little concerned about --------
see if there is a better option for you or if there is a way for you to take these meds while working around the side effects by some other means.

may Allah swt grant you shifaa..

:w:

[tango92]

my man what you need is some good old fashioned discipline - enrol in the army or get work on a farm. yh sorry i know thats not very helpful.

i dunno bout you but a cold wudu or shower gets me up. get up for tahajjud salah maybe?

edit: facepalm

[جوري]

The OP is a sister!

:w:

[Hamza Asadullah]

me saying i'm happy is probably confusing .
especially since i have mood disorder.

I feel yucky and extremely tried,but i still have the ability to laugh. that makes sense. at least to me it does

w/salam again:hmm:

Asalaamu Alaikum Wr Wb my sister Allah wants to help and guide you that is why you are feeling inclined in coming towards Islam and wanting to be closer to him.

Allah's mercy, compassion and forgiveness are all encompassing and his mercy is one of his most important and significant qualities of the almighty in the Qur’an, as well as in the saying and teachings of Prophet Muhammad (Pbuh).

In a Hadith Qudsi Allah states: "My mercy prevails over My wrath."

The Prophet also once said:

Allah, the Almighty, says: Whosoever does a good deed, will have (reward) ten times like it and I add more; and whosoever does an evil, will have the punishment like it or I will forgive (him); and whosoever approaches Me by one span, I will approach him by one cubit; and whosoever approaches Me by one cubit, I approach him by one fathom, and whosoever comes to Me walking, I go to him running; and whosoever meets Me with an earth-load of sins without associating anything with Me, I meet him with forgiveness like that. (Sahih Muslim)

Approximately 113 chapters of the Holy Qur’an begin with: "In the name of Allah the Most-Compassionate; the Most-Merciful".

This is a constant reminder to all who read the Qur’an of the great mercy, compassion and forgiveness of almighty Allah. So do not despair my sister for whatever wrongs we have done if we repent sincerely with the intention to NEVER commit it again then Allah will forgive us.

My Sister if we don’t keep consistent with our deen then our imaan (faith) will decrease and we will be far from Allah and our deen.

If we don’t let go of our love for this world and worldly things then how can our imaan (faith) remain high? So we have to forsake the love for this world and realise that this world is just temporary and our life in this world can end at ANY second!

My Sister we should thank Allah so much everyday because firstly out of BILLIONS of people that he's created he chose US and gave US imaan(faith)!

He didn’t have to, he could of created us non believers and he could have created us in ANY time period in history like in the dark ages or in the medieval times or some other terrible time uncivilised time period but he created us in a relatively safe environment in one of the richest countries in the world with luxury, food on a plate everyday, anything we want and all we have to do is look at the unfortunate people who have NOTHING and we will truly realise how lucky we really are and that Allah has given us EVERYTHING!

Many times I have been to my native Pakistan and seen the poor there and I just feel SO lucky sister that what Allah has given us compared to these people. I saw a paralysed guy ROLLING around on the streets because he couldn’t walk or afford a wheel chair.

My Sister the amount of poverty that people are experiencing in this world and the position Allah has put us in we should constantly be in prostration to him and thank him SO much! We are SO lucky my Sister and we still complain about this and that and minor things but we should be ever thankful to Allah night and day!

We take for granted what he has given us! He could have created us paralysed or with a terrible debilitating disease but no my Sister he has given us health, wealth and best of all imaan (faith) and now he is wanting to guide us that is why were want to go towards him!

The ONLY thing stopping us from going towards Allah is ourselves because know that shaythan can just whisper but it is our choice whether we listen or not. We are given free will to choose which path we want to take and we HAVE to make the effort to go towards him and get into our deen.

Every single day we should try to imagine and contemplate the favours Allah has done for us and everything he has given us and only then we will ALWAYS remain so thankful and appreciative of Allah because my Sister SO many people are suffering in this world and all around us but were not always aware. We may look at some people around us and think to ourselves they look happy and content but only Allah knows the most terrible hardships that they are going through.

I know you have been through a lot sister but you are so so lucky compared to most people in this world! We should ALWAYS look at people who have less than us and NEVER those who have more than us!

You may look at a person who you think has more than you but how do you know what they are going through in life? We don't because it is not always advertised what people are going through.

So my sister let us feel so lucky because we truly are so lucky! You still got through it all and you are the person you are today! Your a fighter and your struggled but with Allah's help you got through it so should we not turn to the one who created us and helps us through our lives?

Look at our poor brothers and sisters in war torn countries and those who are being oppressed by their governments who don’t even allow them to practise their deen, yet where we are our governments do allow us to practise our deen properly without any problems.

Even though we sin day in and day out our almighty creator still provides for us, nourishes us, sustains us and gives us EVERYTHING we need EVERYDAY OF OUR LIVES! He remains patient waiting for us to go towards him everyday but our luck can run out ANY second!

My Sister we are so lucky if ONLY we knew and realised how much so. Even after our imaan (faith) goes down, Allah is still trying to guide us and that is why we feel inclined in our hearts to go towards him and be the closest to him!

All we have to Sister is to make the little effort in comparison with EVERYTHING Allah has given us! But yet we still fail to do the little required of us to change and go towards Allah!

He gave us life, health and working limbs when there are people out there who have limbs missing or are deformed and retarded and look at us! He has given us EVERY SINGLE THING and yet we still struggle to give even a little back and thank him by praying to him for just a few minutes a day.

Even if we were to spend eternity trying to imagine what Allah has given us and the amount of favours he has done for us, we would NEVER be able to even begin to imagine!

My Sister happiness and contentment of the heart ONLY lies with Allah! Whether we gain this happiness and true contentment really depends on how obedient we are to Allah's commandments and how much we really strive to do what he asks of us!

Remember everything that is good comes from Allah and everything bad that happens comes from us and our own wrong doings! Also Allah tests his creations in MANY different ways!

He may test us in any aspect of our lives! Almighty Allah says in the Qur'an as well that do you think that you will not be tested? What is the point and purpose of life if we are not to be tried and tested by Allah?

Allah just wants to see how we will react when we are tested! Will we go closer to shaythan? or closer to Allah?

So my Sister it is clear that Allah is testing you because he wants you can become closer to him. This is not a privilege that everyone has.

When Allah wants good on a person then he tests them and your test is your mental health. Allah is with those who are patient and the reward of patience is Jannah!

Why should we let shaythan win? For Allah tests a person so that he may see if the person will go closer to him or further away!

Who were the people who were tested the most? They were the prophets! Do you know why? Because they were the best of all creation! So the more Allah tests us the more he wants us to be closer to him and if we bare the tests with patience then know that Allah is with those who are patient and the reward for patience can only be jannah (Paradise)! Subhanallah

It is shaythan who wants us to become closer to him and will we let him? He ONLY wants our destruction!

He tries EVERYTHING in his power to try and keep us away from our deen by trying by distracting us with the deceptions of this world but will we let him?

He constantly tries to make us forget our purpose for It is shaythan who wants to make us lose faith in Allah and trying to make us give up hope and get depressed and confused! He tries to mess with our minds and make us lose hope and self esteem and then tells us that our lives are pointless and worthless so why not give up? It is shaythan who wants to see our destruction in this world and the next! Will we let him do this to us and let him win? Will we let him jeopardise our imaan(faith) and bring us to total destruction in this world and the next?

My Sister Allah has not asked much from us in this life compared to what he's got on offer for us in the hereafter! Allah has just asked us for full obedience to him for such a short amount of time- (70 years to the most) and in return for our obedience he has promised us ETERENITY of bliss!

So that's: Obedience to Allah for the duration of our short lives = Eternity of bliss in the hereafter

Is that not the most amazing offer one can EVER imagine or comprehend? On top of that Allah has given us everything we need, life, shelter, wealth, food, clothing I can go on and on about the favours of Allah FOREVER because his favours unto us are infinite and we will NEVER be able to comprehend what he has done for us!

So not only has Allah provided us with everything we can imagine but he has asked us to do a little in return for an eternity of bliss and we still can't manage it? Were pathetic its as simple as that!

Allah just wants the best for us in this world and the next and he tells us in the Qur'an that righteousness and piety is the path to success in this world and the next! Simply following Allah's commands wholeheartedly will lead to success in this world and the next!

This life for us can end at ANY second Sister as we have seen for ourselves and still see on the news and all around us people dying and those people are not old at all they are people of ALL ages, ethnicities, backgrounds and religions! No matter who we are and what our situation or position is in life when our time is up then death will take us for death does not wait a second more it will take us when our time is up and NO ONE knows when that will be but Allah!

We know too well how temporary our life is and we should realise that if we waste our lives away more than we have already done then surely we will surely regret all the time we wasted on the day of judgement because ONLY then will we realise the true value of the time we had and the amount of GREAT opportunities we missed out on to do good and go towards Allah!

There will be MANY on the day of Qiyamat that will ask Allah for just one more chance and opportunity to have another shot at life and another chance to do things right this time but NO ONE will be given another chance for THIS is our ONLY chance! If we waste this opportunity then we WILL regret it FOREVER! That's a guarantee!

Allah will say have i not given you enough chances in this world to change and be obedient to me?

We wouldn't want to die at this point in our lives right now because we know that we have prepared NOTHING! What have we prepared to show Allah when he asks us what we did with our lives? We have NOTHING to show! We should be VERY worried indeed!

One time the Prophet (Pbuh) saw some people laughing out aloud and they were laughing a lot and the Prophet (Pbuh) said that if these people knew what was to come then they would NOT laugh at all! This proves that the Prophet (Pbuh) knew what was to come and he knew that if we had the knowledge he did then we would be VERY worried indeed but we don't realise because were asleep and we by the time we wake up it will be too late! So we HAVE to wake up now! Otherwise if we die and have nothing to show Allah of our lives then we are doomed and we would not be able to handle a second of punishment.

My Sister my dear friend died this past Ramadan just gone and he was only 28years of age and my first cousin sister died recently aswell and she was only 26. My Sister life is just so uncertain. How do we know when our time is up? The thing is we don't know that is why we HAVE to prepare now! Otherwise there may not be a tomorrow!

If we CONSTANTLY remind ourselves of death then we will NEVER slack in our deen because we would know that the angel of death may take us ANY second!

We get SOO many chances from Allah everyday but yet again and again we don't take those opportunities for we keep letting them pass but what if at ANY second our last chance is up? Then we will not get anymore!

So it’s best for us to try and change ourselves now! Let’s do our best to abide by the commandments of Allah and go closer to him because he is our beloved creator and he knows what’s best for us we don't! Allah says in the Qur'an that we humans know not what is best for us but Allah does. We think we do but we clearly don't.

Surely our creator knows because he has created everything we see and imagine! So let us put our FULL trust in him and strive to get the closest to our beloved creator who gave us life!

We should NOT keep dwelling on our past now or the bad experiences we went through because our past has made us who we are today! Let us take lessons from our past and learn from it and do things better now and the future!

It will do us absolutely no good by being down about what has happened in the past! Being depressed or down about the past and life I general and losing hope and faith will NEVER benefit us but cause our doom and destruction because that is what shaythan wants! He wants to mess our heads up and distract us ANYWAY he can!

If we think to ourselves that life is too short to be down or lose hope and faith and that i should spend most of my time working for the next life then this is the best way to live our lives because what is the point of investing time and efforts in this world when those efforts are for something that is temporary and could end at ANYTIME!

We should not waste a single second more being down or depressed for we should remember Allah as much as we can otherwise we will regret the seconds we did not spend remembering Allah.

Hadhrat Mu'az [RA] narrated Rasulallah (Peace be upon him) said: “The Inhabitants of Paradise will not be grief stricken or sorrowful about anything they did in the life of the world except for the time they spent without being in the remembrance of Allah” (Tabaraani)

We need to keep thinking to ourselves that EVERYTHING that happens around us and in our lives happens because of the will of Allah so whatever will happen will happen anyway so there is NO point of us being worried about it or down or depressed about it because we have NO control over it!

We cannot change it and it is not in our control so why should we not do the best we can in our own lives and accept that whatever happen then it is Allah's choice and he wanted it to happen because he knows best for us and we are just his creations so we do not know what is best for us in this life.

"I have no time to be down or depressed in this life because whatever will happen in life will happen and I have no control over it for everything happens from the will of Allah alone. I have to try and make the best of EVERY second of my own life because my life in this world can end at ANYSECOND! So I need to do as much good as possible and try my best to please Allah as much as I can otherwise I will regret it forever! There is no time or need for me to be down or depressed because I rely on Allah for EVERYTHING and I depend on him and put my hopes and trust in him and I put my FULL FAITH in him because he created me and NOTHING will happen to me without his will so I’m FULLY reliant on Allah!"

Say this to yourself with FULL sincerity and conviction EVERY morning and every time you begin to feel down or depressed and inshallah you will realise that there is NO need to EVER get down or depressed and you will have no time to EVER be down or depressed.


Why not spend most of our time and efforts on the hereafter which is for ETERNITY? Any investment we put into the hereafter will benefit us forever and we will wreak the rewards for eternity! But if we put all of our efforts just into this world then how much will we really gain from it? Very little or nothing at all!

The person who chases this world will only get what is destined for him but the person who chases the hereafter will get more from this world and from the hereafter! So who is the winner?

We have all done mistakes in our lifetime and sometimes we wish that we can get hold of a time machine and do things differently! We wish we could go back into the past and change things so that things could have been different now but what is the point of thinking this way?

Whatever has happened has happened and will NEVER change! Even if the world was to be created again whatever will happen will happen because it is ordained by Allah and his will!

We are wasting even more time thinking this way when we could be using this precious time in doing things better now and the future because that’s what really counts not what has already happened!

Let’s move on and NOT think and dwell about the past because our life experiences make us who we are and have made us wiser people when in the past we were inexperienced in life and naive!

Sometimes in life we have to learn the hard way because the hard way is the best way to learn at times and we have to just accept what’s happened and move on because life goes on but we don't know for how long! We have to realise how precious time is!

So lets forget the past now and move on and do the BEST we can now and the future in pleasing Allah and trying to be the closest to him and repenting our past sins because if we repent with full sincerity with the intention of NEVER doing it again then Allah almighty will forgive us Inshallah that’s how merciful he is!

We can work our WHOLE lives 24/7 and build a wonderful life for ourselves here and then the next day we die before we can even enjoy the fruits of our hard labour! What was the point of all that investment just in this world when it can end at ANYTIME!

Let’s ONLY invest the very minimum into this world lets invest as much as we can to the next world which is our final and ultimate destination!

The Prophet (saw) says to that we should treat this life as if it were just on a journey! This life is not a very long stop until our final abode which is the hereafter!

When investors are looking to invest in a business venture do they look for short term gains or long term? Obviously long term my sister and that’s what we should be looking for because the cleverest person is the one who makes arrangements for the hereafter and not only for this world!

That’s not to say that we shouldn’t have our share in this world of course we should but we should invest most of our time in the next life which is for ETERNITY!

We would NOT be able to handle a single second in the hell fire my sister, we cannot even imagine how terrifying this will be so we should do our best in this life to seek protection from it and make our good deeds balance as heavy as possible!

Sometimes I find it very hard to imagine when i think of the concept of FOREVER! It’s hard to imagine something that will last forever! That it will never cease but will go on and on! It’s not hard to think of temporary because most of the things around us goes through a cycle of life and then ceases to exist!

We see people die all around us we see things ending etc But the concept of forever is unimaginable because nothing in this life is forever! We cannot imagine there hereafter that is why you may find it difficult to comprehend but if we believe in the hereafter then of course we must believe in the full descriptions of heaven and hell!

The disbelievers have nothing to live for! They go through life ONLY living for this world and are confused as to why they are here and they don't have a purpose in life but we know our purpose but what are we doing to achieve it?

Allah guides who he wants and he says in the Qur'an that if he wanted to he would guide all of mankind but that would go against the whole point of this creation and testing mankind!

Allah knows best who is worthy of having faith and guidance! But it is truly a sad life for those who have no purpose in this life! They live just for this world! This is their paradise! This is their bliss! But ours is in the next world for this world is the prison for the believer!

One of the main reasons why we lack in Imaan Sister is also due to a lack of knowledge of Islam!

Knowledge always makes things clearer to us! If we constantly gain knowledge of Islam and especially the akhirah and at the same time contemplate and ponder over it then my sister our imaan will remain strong because we know what is to come.

My Sister our enemy shaythan wants our destruction and he will stop at NOTHING until we desire this world and live for this life but my sister this life is SO SO short that we cannot imagine.

A hadith to the nearest meaning says that when we will be in the akhirah we will be asked "How long were you on the earth for?" We will say “Only for a few hours" because the comparison of this world to the akhirah is NOTHING! So when we are in this next world this world will seem like a few hours!

My Sister we will regret every second we wasted! In the akhirah we will wish that we went back to the earth and done things better but this is our ONLY chance! My Sister we can't waste our one chance that we have in this world!

What is this world but an illusion and a deception? Allah says this in the Qur'an that this life is like a veil over your eyes its a deception! We have to wake up Sister and keep reminding ourselves EVERY day of our purpose!

My Sister Allah loves us 70 times more than a mother loves its baby! Look at how much love our almighty has for us! He looks after us, sustains us and cherishes us but what do we do? We run after this world! We are truly sad and we will be the losers on Qiyamat (Day of judgement) unless we change NOW!

We need to make the changes in our own heads first and change our mind set in order for us to move forward and make the best use of everyday!

We need to make sincere vows to Allah that we will ONLY go towards him and we will ONLY put everything into the Akhirah to please him!

We need to only live for this world as much as we can survive comfortably but everything we do for this world we should also make the intention of doing it for Allah's pleasure so that we can survive in this world! The prophet (Pbuh) was given the chance to have all of the riches of this world but he rejected it all because he wanted the riches in the hereafter! Similarly we need to want the riches of the hereafter for how can one compare the riches of this world to that of the hereafter? There's NO comparison!

If we keep constantly reminding ourselves of this then we will constantly busy ourselves with Zikr (remembrance of Allah) and we will have no time for being down or depressed.

The constant remembrance of Allah is the cure for depression my sister and it cleanses the heart and mind for those hearts and minds that are devoid of the remembrance of Allah are deviod of these special blessings.

This life is our ONLY chance to please Allah and gain as many good deeds as we can so that we can build our eternity in the next world. We can't build our eternity once were dead so we HAVE to do as much as we can to please Allah and increase our good deeds now that we are alive before death overtakes us and death can overtake us at ANY second!

You really need to try and find good pious local sisters who are working for the akhirah. I'm sure you can get involved with local sister halaqa's and sisters circles because there are SO many Muslims in your area and there will DEFINATLY are good sisters doing good work in your area.

It is just a matter of making the effort to locate these groups. If you ask around then someone will know of such groups inshallah

You are who your friends are so if your friends are good and pious and of those who ONLY desire the hereafter then those are the right people to be with but if they are the opposite then you need to get away from them because whether we like it or not their bad influence and habits etc will rub off on us gradually. The true friend is the one who takes us towards goodness and towards Allah and Islam and the bad friend is the one who will drag us towards hell and destruction.

My Sister our aim should be to do EVERY good act especially namaz with khushu (imaging we can see Allah when praying or doing good deeds). We need to imagine him watching us no matter what we do! If we imagine him watching us then surely we would automatically want to stay away from sin and do good actions with more sincerity and focus. For this we need to try and clear our minds of all thoughts and focus SOLELY on Allah when were doing any good action like namaz for example because it is easy for our minds to wander when were praying.

We need to try and gain more sincerity in our hearts in every action we do and clean out the love of this world from our hearts and replace it with the love for the hereafter and wanting to be the closest to Allah!

All this is certainly not an over night process, but my sister our imaan (faith) can remain strong and high if we consistently remember Allah ALL the time and keep in mind our purpose in this world that were ONLY here for such a short period and that we will have to go one day which can be ANY second. We should glorify Allah throughout the day and remember him no matter what were doing in our lives and this way our imaan (faith) will remain high all the time inshallah!

We should imagine him watching us glorify him and think of him and we should do lots of duas throughout the day and gain a close relationship with Allah!

We should read much of the Qur'an and its meanings and contemplate and ponder over its meanings. We should try and spend a little time each day trying to memorise bits of the Qur'an and even make intention that we want to memorise all of it because We will get our reward depending on our intention!

We should try and learn and implement as MANY Sunnahs (Actions and sayings) of our beloved Rasulallah (Pbuh) as possible who is our role model and we should learn the masnoon duas and implement them EVERYDAY in our lives!

We should learn the life story of our beloved Rasul (Saw) and learn about every aspect of his most amazing life! This will surely soften our hearts!

We should learn about the stories of the pious predecessors and the heroes’s of Islam and take them as our hero's because they are the true hero's of this world like the many hero women of Islam which I will paste you the web link at the bottom so that you can read about their amazing lives!

We should constantly remind ourselves of death and read about it all the time my Sister and read about what will happen to us after death in the grave and in the hereafter! We should learn about our possible rewards in Jannah and our demise in Jahannam if we fail and die without imaan May Allah save us all!

We should try and gain a thirst for knowledge my Sister because it is said that the ones with knowledge and the ones without knowledge is like the distance from here to the star that you can see shining and learning knowledge of Islam will opens up our eyes wider than they currently are.

We need to acquire a taste and a desire to gain knowledge and try our best to act upon it and implement it in our daily lives and share it with others! My brother we need to try and gain the closeness to Allah by reading MANY nafil salah's.

My Sister we need to try and constantly occupy ourselves with the Zikr of Allah and glorify him day and night!

Allah says in the Qur'an "Remember Allah abundantly, in order that you become successful"
Quran (Surah 8: Verse 45)

"Only in the remembrance of Allah (swt) will your heart find peace" Quran (Surah 13: Verse 28)

"Those men and women who engage much in Allah's praise. for them Allah has prepared forgiveness and a Great Reward"
Quran (Surah 33: Verse 35)

"When any group of men remember Allah, angels surround them and mercy covers them, tranquillity descends upon them, and Allah mentions them to those who are with Him." (Muslim)

We also know that remembering Allah is of the greatest deed:

"The remembrance of Allah (swt) is the greatest (deed)" Quran (Surah 29: Verse 45)

and of the the worst things we can do is not to remember Allah:

"Satan has mastered them and caused them to forget the Remembrance of Allah. Those are Satan's party; and Satan's party shall assuredly be the losers"
Quran (Surah 58: Verse 19)

"Whosoever turns away from the Remembrance of Allah, He will hurl him into a stern punishment".
Quran (Surah 72: Verse 17)

"Whosoever turns away from My remembrance, his life will be made tight and narrow on the Day of Resurrection We shall raise him blind"
Quran (Surah 20: Verse 124)

Allah tells us to remember him no matter what we do whether that be lying or sitting down:

"They are the most wise who remember Allah, standing sitting and lying down"
Quran (Surah 4: Verse 190)

We should remember Allah no matter what we are doing and we should ALWAYS try to keep our tongues moist with his remembrance and glorification.

Here are some VERY quick, easy and rewarding ways of earning good deeds everyday especially easy zikr's:

http://www.islamicboard.com/worship-...-everyday.html

Ideally sister we should get into the habit of doing as many nafil prayers as we can on top of fard prayers. This is the best way of getting closer to Allah. Ideally this is how we should spend our day from when we first wake up:

In the morning when waking up for tahajjud even if its 20 mins before start of Fajr and then wait until Fajr and pray that and then do ibaadah (worship) until ishraaq(Sunrise) and then pray that Salah and then the breakfast salah(Salaatul Duhaa) and then pray Zuhr with all the sunnah and Nafil and same with Asr and make some time to do ibaadah until Maghrib and read the nafils after that (Salaatul Awabeen) and read isha and all the sunnah and nafil and do zikr (remembrance of Allah) throughout the day.

So my Sister if we do all of these things then were are implementing Islam FULLY in our lives and we will be SO SO close to Allah and feel the best feeling in our hearts that we can EVER imagine!

We will feel the sweetness of imaan!Oh what a beautiful feeling it is! My Sister we should try and cry to Allah everyday on our duas and feel him close to us in our hearts!

Please click on the link for a more detailed explanation of the many Nafil Salah which we can pray everyday so we can be the closest to Allah!

VERY Rewarding Nafl Salaahs we can Pray Everyday

http://www.islamicboard.com/worship-...-everyday.html

We should cry over our sins and cry to him for guidance and help in our lives and ask of him for EVERYTHING we want, especially in this last portion of the night where duas are more readily accepted. Just like how a mother runs to its baby when it’s crying then will Allah not swiftly attend to us when we cry to him in dua?

We should have hope of his mercy after sincere repentance and make intention not to repeat the sin again but if we do then we should continue to ask for repentance my Sister because Allah is most merciful and his mercy overcomes his wrath! Allah gets angry at those who don't ask of him!

We should ALWAYS make dua for our parents and all of the Muslims. If we make dua for EVERY Muslim person who’s ever lived and every Muslim from now until the last Muslim then we will get the reward for EVERY Muslim we pray for.

So that's BILLIONS of good deeds every time we do dua for every Muslim that's ever lived! We need to make a habit of doing this!

We should from now on have FULL hope in him and him ONLY! We should have FULL reliance in him and accept the fact that if he tests us then he wants us to be the closest to him and we should bare the test with patience! He ONLY tests those he wants closest to him!

My Sister can you feel in your heart how much you desire to be the closest to Allah? It is because Allah wants you to be the closest to him and he wants you to desire the next world and not this world which is PATHETIC my Sister and NOTHING but deception and a waste! This life is a proto-type of the akhirah.

My Sister lets get the hunger for good deeds and making Allah the happiest.

My Sister people spend their whole lives looking for peace and contentment in their hearts and ALL the worldly goods and money have NEVER given them that! Allah says that ONLY with my remembrance will hearts find contentment!

So my Sister we have to CONSTANTLY remember him and glorify him! We need to constantly keep our lips moist from his glorification. Keep a tasbih near to you in your hands ALWAYS because a tasbih is the best reminder for one to do zikr. I find that a metal clicking tasbih is really good and practical to carry ANYWHERE.

My Sister Allah is watching us in our prayers and EVERYTHING that we do so we need to imagine he is watching us because he ACTUALLY is! What an amazing feel that he is watching us pray and glorify him!

Let’s make the best of every second we have now and NOT waste it anymore! Let’s learn as much as we can about our beautiful way of life because it is truly amazing and has perfect wisdom in it!

Once we become closest to Allah we will feel more amazing than we have EVER imagined because Allah says that you will NOT find contentment and true happiness in money or anything else but you will ONLY find true contentment and happiness in me and NOTHING else!

So my Sister this is our chance to aim HIGH and gain the HIGHEST positions in paradise! Allah wants you to come closer to him so grab this opportunity and lets keep ourselves strong against the whispers from shaythan who wants our destruction by distracting us with worthless time wasting that will NEVER benefit us but cause our doom!

Allah is beauty itself for he is perfection and the almighty master of the universe and we are is lowly slaves who are insignificant like a speck of dust!

We should make the intention NOW that we will change our lives FOREVER and we go FULLY towards Allah and make our sole purpose and aim in this life to make him the happiest and shun this world which is deception and a jannah for the non believers for this is their temporary bliss and our bliss will be FOREVER in Jannah inshallah.

Life is so uncertain and we can be taken ANY second my dear Sister and when it is gone then we can't do anything more to please Allah and add to our good deed accounts. We need Allah; he doesn’t need us so let us strive to go towards him FULLY!

We should desire to be the closest to Allah and Allah wants us to be the closest to him because he loves us MUCH MORE THAN WE CAN EVER IMAGINE!

So let us show him how much we love him with action and let us glorify him and thank him day and night because he loves those who thank him constantly and are appreciative of him SO SO much!

Let us make changes to ourselves NOW because we may not live tomorrow! Let's re-evaluate ourselves and realise that we only have ONE purpose and our destination is in the hereafter for our stay in this world is so short.

Let us spend each day FULL of worship and obedience to him and a life where we will spend it making him the happiest and he will fulfil our needs and give us peace and contentment in our hearts which is the best feeling anyone can EVER imagine!

Let us not feel down or depressed because that is what shaythan wants so that we can waste our lives and our only chance that we have to build our hereafter!

Continue to take the right medicines and do all of your fard prayers as well as nafil prayers. Rememeber Allah as much as you can and recite at least one juz of the Qur'an each day.

My sister if you increase the amount of good deeds you do everyday and remember Allah as much as you can and have patience putting your FULL reliance, trust, hope and faith in Allah then inshallah you will be healed no time whenever Allah wills. But never ask him why he has done this to you but we thankful to him and appreciate what you have because what you have is MUCH more than what most people have! Whatever Allah decised for us in our lives is the best for us even if we think it is not for did we create ourselves? Then surely if Allah created us then he knows what is best for us. He only tests those who he wants closest to him and if he wants good upon that person. How lucky are you then my sister!

Let us from now on FULLY rely on Allah and put our FULL hope, trust and faith in him and him ALONE and he will NEVER let us down but if he tests us then let us bare with it with patience and know that if we be patient then Allah is with us and our reward will be great!

Keep reminding yourself every morning of the purpose of this life and that the shaythan will always try to make you forget your purpose by reminding you to be down and depressed. We know know that this is his trick and plan and that he can ONLY whisper to us but WE have the power and control over ourselves and we will go towards Allah FULLY and he is there for us through EVERY aspect of our lives!

Please ask me anything you want I'm here for you as your brother!

I have pasted some beneficial links for you on various aspects of Islam which i hope you will find VERY useful and beneficial!:

Overcoming tests from Allah



http://www.turntoislam.com/forum/showthread.php?t=61961



25 Ways to Deal with Stress and Anxiety VERY GOOD THREAD



http://www.sunniforum.com/forum/showthread.php?t=43179


Overcoming laziness and Procrastination


http://www.sunniforum.com/forum/showthread.php?t=52097


10 Steps to Increasing our Iman(Faith)



http://www.islamicboard.com/manners-...man-faith.html



Signs of Weak Iman and How to Increase It



http://www.missionislam.com/knowledge/weakimanfix.htm


Forty Very Easy, Quick & Rewarding Good Deeds for all of us to do Everyday!

http://www.islamicboard.com/worship-...-everyday.html


VERY Rewarding Nafl Salaahs we can Pray Everyday!


http://www.islamicboard.com/worship-...-everyday.html (VERY Rewarding Nafl Salaahs we can Pray Everyday!)


My Daily Ibadah(worship) check


http://www.islamicboard.com/manners-...hip-check.html

The translation of salat (namaz)- learn what your reading in namaz



http://www.sunniforum.com/forum/showthread.php?t=38303


Advice from a sister on hijaab



http://www.sunniforum.com/forum/showthread.php?t=39547



The Role of Women in Islamic Society-Very good article by revert sister



http://www.sunniforum.com/forum/showthread.php?t=39901



Hijaab and the Freedom of Women



http://www.sunniforum.com/forum/showthread.php?t=39857



Very Inspiring Experiences Of Recently Converted Woman



http://www.sunniforum.com/forum/showthread.php?t=40169



WOMEN IN ISLAM



http://www.sunniforum.com/forum/showthread.php?t=41377



The Best Role Models for All Muslim Women



http://www.sunniforum.com/forum/showthread.php?t=41302



[ Every Thing ] About .. " Woman Rights in Islam " ..



http://www.turntoislam.com/forum/showthread.php?t=58707



A party in Paradise, A party in Hellfire



http://www.sunniforum.com/forum/showthread.php?t=39698



The Ultimate Motivation for Muslims



http://www.sunniforum.com/forum/showthread.php?t=49243



The State of the People of Paradise in this World



http://www.sunniforum.com/forum/showthread.php?t=49125


Major Signs before the Day of Judgement


http://www.inter-islam.org/faith/Majorsigns.html


Signs before the Day of Judgement


http://etori.tripod.com/dajjalsystem/judgement.html



The Life of this World and the Hereafter


http://www.sunniforum.com/forum/showthread.php?t=51739


Beautiful Description of Paradise in Islam


http://www.sunniforum.com/forum/showthread.php?t=51707


Practising az-Zuhd in the Dunya


http://www.sunniforum.com/forum/showthread.php?t=51738



Everything about Prophet Muhammad (Pbuh)



http://www.mohammad-pbuh.com/



For those wanting to look more into Islam



http://forum.mpacuk.org/showthread.php?t=44392



Please remember me in your dua's and ask me ANYTHING you want and i will try my best to always help you as your brother in Islam. Allah Hafiz

[AnonymousPoster]

Salam Hamza

thank for your effort. Keep in mind i have focus problem so i have reading problem,.Most of what your saying doesn't really apply to me

You're saying prayer is important. I take it seriously. BEfore i was depressed i prayed regularly read the Quran .even 2 and half years into my depression i prayed. But it became worse where i was sleeping 10-16 hours a day! I would miss one or two prayers. I would feel constantly guilty and even trying to get up do it was hard. If i have hard time brushing my teeth ...then praying isn't easy. then i stopped. god knows my intentions. i even tried twice this year.god willing i'll keep trying

Your talking about how fortunate i am. You're even talking about sick poverty people. I said in my post i feel blessed. I know This my path and I"M NOT COMPLAINING.

You're saying not to dwell on the past . I'm not anymore. I'm taking a drug that's controling that. This a brain problem i can only control so much. Your type of sadness is very different from mine. I used to be like you so know i know the difference. All the past sadness and dwelling is not me. It's the illness that's doing it.

You saying don't waste time. I"M here making plans in front of all of you. I clearly don't want to waste time.

You saying make friends with muslim sisters. There's probably about 50-100 muslims in my town. I know 2 muslim girls around my age.i made an effort. Really truly that's not my list. . I'm not ready to be around 'normal' people. they don't understand. i don't want anyone to ask me what have i been up to. IT BUMS them out.I'm makeing friends with people who are struggling like me. at least i can relate to them and don't feel alone.

You saying learn about islam. i'm on a islamic forum. I'm trying here. Even when i have problems reading

I saw some of your links.Thank you. That might help.!
The type of depresion that you think I have ...is not what i have.
thank you for your effort.

For real u guys inshallah i'm post next week. All this typing is to much

[Hamza Asadullah]

Salam Hamza

thank for your effort. Keep in mind i have focus problem so i have reading problem,.Most of what your saying doesn't really apply to me

You're saying prayer is important. I take it seriously. BEfore i was depressed i prayed regularly read the Quran .even 2 and half years into my depression i prayed. But it became worse where i was sleeping 10-16 hours a day! I would miss one or two prayers. I would feel constantly guilty and even trying to get up do it was hard. If i have hard time brushing my teeth ...then praying isn't easy. then i stopped. god knows my intentions. i even tried twice this year.god willing i'll keep trying

Your talking about how fortunate i am. You're even talking about sick poverty people. I said in my post i feel blessed. I know This my path and I"M NOT COMPLAINING.

You're saying not to dwell on the past . I'm not anymore. I'm taking a drug that's controling that. This a brain problem i can only control so much. Your type of sadness is very different from mine. I used to be like you so know i know the difference. All the past sadness and dwelling is not me. It's the illness that's doing it.

You saying don't waste time. I"M here making plans in front of all of you. I clearly don't want to waste time.

You saying make friends with muslim sisters. There's probably about 50-100 muslims in my town. I know 2 muslim girls around my age.i made an effort. Really truly that's not my list. . I'm not ready to be around 'normal' people. they don't understand. i don't want anyone to ask me what have i been up to. IT BUMS them out.I'm makeing friends with people who are struggling like me. at least i can relate to them and don't feel alone.

You saying learn about islam. i'm on a islamic forum. I'm trying here. Even when i have problems reading

I saw some of your links.Thank you. That might help.!
The type of depresion that you think I have ...is not what i have.
thank you for your effort.

For real u guys inshallah i'm post next week. All this typing is to much

Asalaamu Alaikum Wr Wb, i hope my words helped in someway as encouragement. Please try to increase the remembrance of Allah as that will help you in more ways that you can ever imagine.

Please make good use of the links too and remember we are here to support you and help you in anyway that we can.

Also try to establish a closer connection to Allah and increase the amount of dua you make to him. Ask of him for he is the only one who can help any of us.

Finally put your full hopes, trust, faith and reliance in Allah and know that he is there for you so you are never alone!

Remember us in your dua's too. Wa Salaam

[AnonymousPoster]

^i might have been a little defensive. thanks again

salam i said i would check in.

1.lithuim- plan to check next week --because of holidays
2.Driary-didn't start
3.Excersize--not much change
4.job -- might starting working in Februray
5. fixed eating problem

inshallah check in 2-3weeks w/salam

[tango92]

"Those who believe (in the Oneness of Allah - Islamic Monotheism), and whose hearts find rest in the remembrance of Allah, Verily, in the remembrance of Allah do hearts find rest." [Ar-Ra'd (13):28]

"The believers are only those who, when Allah is mentioned, feel a fear in their hearts and when His Verses (this Qur'an) are recited unto them, they increase their Faith; and they put their trust in their Lord (Alone)." [Al-Anfaal (8):2]

listening to naats and nasheeds is also a good way to remember Allah
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_MLgWjFyj8k

[Tahira85]

Wslm all, just wanted to know if this sister is ok? You're in my duas.

Wslm