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Brother jazaka ALLAH SWT kher INSHALLAH i will and please pray for me as well that i pray regular , I would like to know please how to stop my self to not put make up and how to push my self to pray regular and how to fast my ramadan loan ? Jazaka ALLAH kher brother
Asalaamu Alaikum Wr Wb, sorry for the delay sister. In regards to your question about making up the fasts that you have missed in Ramadan from Menstruation then you should do so as soon as possible as life is uncertain. You should make up all the fasts that you missed immediatley.
In regards to your question on wearing makeup:
According to Sunnipath:
In Surat al-Nur, Allah says, "And say to the believing women that they should lower their gaze and guard their modesty; that they should not display their beauty and ornaments except what must ordinarily appear thereof; that they should draw their veils over their bosoms and not display their beauty except to their husbands, their fathers, their husbands' fathers, their sons, their husbands' sons, their brothers, or their brothers' sons or their sisters' sons, or their women or the servants whom their right hands possess, or male servants free of physical needs, or small children who have no sense of the shame of sex, and that they should not strike their feet in order to draw attention to their hidden ornaments. And O you Believers, turn you all together towards Allah, that you may attain Bliss".
(Qur'an 24:31).
Scholars have interpreted the directive to not display beauty and ornaments except what ordinarily appears in terms of ordinary adornment and extra adornment. Ordinary adornments like kohl, henna, or a ring are permissible to wear in public. Extra adornment, like perfume, lipstick, dazzling eye colors, and the like are not permissible to wear in public. In short, any type of adornment which makes a woman look "made-up" and attracts amorous attention is not permissible, as this would defeat the whole purpose of hijab.
So my sister one should not beautify themselves when going out by applying lots of make up looking all 'dolled up'. This goes against the very principles of hijaab which is not to make oneself look extra attractive, resulting in attracting unwanted attention and gazes upon oneself.
The purpose of hijaab is to be inconspicuous not to stand out glowing with make up and various kinds of fashion accessories. Those girls who act like this get more attention from guys than girls who don't wear hijaab at all!
Even scholars have stated that it is not permissable for a girl who wears hijaab to get all
'dolled up' by wearing lots of make up and accesories that further beautify her and make her stand out which clearly attract unwanted attention and gazes from others.
You can apply very little and Kohl is permissable but one should still be careful because it can really beautify the eyes and make them look striking.
You can apply makeup In front of your mahrams and dress and put on as much make up as you want in front of your husband because you are the jewel of your husband who's beauty is only for him to admire and appreciate as you are his and he is yours and you are not for the eyes of others.
Also don't wear bright coloured hijaabs rather wear dark coloured ones and if you are not currently doing so then wear jilbaab as it is far more superiour to normal loose clothing because other loose clothing may hug on your hips revealing your shape.
The jilbab is also much more respectable and will certainly lessen unwanted attention and lustful glances.
Those women who are modest inside and out are the women who have true beauty! For they are the most beautiful in the eyes of Allah and the women are who make a mockery of hijaab are the most beautiful to shaythan and those who give lustful gazes!
Please read my thread: Hijaab is not a fashion accessory!
http://www.islamicboard.com/advice-s...accessory.html
In regards to your second question about praying regular Salat:
The Holy Prophet(Pbuh) has stated: "The first duty that Allah, the Supreme, has ordained upon my nation is that of offering Prayer, and indeed Prayer is the first thing that will be taken account of on the Day of Resurrection."
It is also reported in the Hadith that, "Whoever keeps the Prayer established, has kept his religion established - and whoever leaves Prayer has demolished religion".
It is reported by Syedna Abu Hurairah (may Allah be well pleased with him) that the Holy Prophet said: "Allah the Supreme states, 'O the son of Adam !! Free yourself for My worship, I shall fill your heart with content - and if you do not do so, I shall make you busy in several affairs but not remove your poverty.' "
(Mishkaat ul Masabeeh, Ibn Majah)
"Be content with five things before (the advent of) the other five: Youth before old age, good health before sickness, prosperity before poverty, spare time before indulgence in affairs, and life before death."
(Hadith reported in Tirmizi)
If we don’t let go of our love for this world and worldly things then how can our imaan (faith) remain high? So we have to forsake the love for this world and realise that this world is just temporary and our life in this world can end at ANY second!
My Sister we should thank Allah so much everyday because firstly out of BILLIONS of people that he's created he chose US and gave US imaan (faith)!
We should try and cry to Allah everyday on our dua’s and feel him close to us in our hearts for he listens to every prayer of ours and he knows our pain and wants to help us but we have to help ourselves first! Allah the most compassionate has already given us EVERYTHING we can see, hear, feel and touch and all we have to do is put the effort in but why do we still not make the effort?
How unappreciative are we to the favours of Allah and everything Allah has given us? He has given us so much yet we cannot even do a little in return? If we don’t change then the only ones in loss will be ourselves!
He didn’t have to give us imaan, he could of created us non believers and he could have created us in ANY time period in history like in the dark ages or in the medieval times or some other terrible time uncivilised time period but he created us in a relatively safe environment in one of the richest countries in the world with luxury, food on a plate everyday, anything we want and all we have to do is look at the unfortunate people who have NOTHING and we will truly realise how lucky we really are and that Allah has given us EVERYTHING!
For us it is easier to sin that to do good deeds, but that is because were in the habit of sinning so much that were used to it. Were in the habit of missing Namaz day in day out so it is a normal thing for us. We hardly think about Allah and what is to come in the afterlife but continue to think about our life in this world and our future. How do we know we have a future? How do we know whether our time will come now or later? If it does come now what have we got to show for what we have done in our life to try and please Allah?
We need to get into the habit of doing good deeds and praying ALL of our salat and then it will be easier for us to do good deeds and when we get so used to doing good deeds and sinning less then when we do happened to do a sin we would be much more guilty about it and strive not to do it again.
We should NEVER give up hope and give in to shaythan! This is exactly what shaythan wants! He can only whisper but WE HAVE THE POWER OVER OURSELVES! We have FULL control over our mind and body so let us take back control and use our mind and body and focus it towards bettering ourselves as Muslims and going towards our deen and Allah! Let us NEVER give up hope in Allah and NEVER give into shaythan because you are STRONGER than him and you can overcome him it is in you!
This life is a test and what kind of test would it be if there wasn’t evil and temptation around us? Life is full of hurdles for the path to Jannah is not an easy one and why should it be? We have to earn our place in Jannah just like we earnt our degrees or driving licenses or anything else we have achieved in our life.
If we get closer to Allah then our journey to Jannah will be a very easy one because we would have Allah by our side and when we get tested we would bare it with patience and have full hope, reliance and trust in Allah! But if were far away from our deen and Allah then we will be on a very rocky road to nowhere and eventually destruction!
The problem is because were far away from our deen and Allah it is MUCH harder for us to do good deeds and pray to Allah with full commitment. That is why it is crucial that we get closer to our deen and Allah so that we find it easier to do good and feel more guilt when we do bad. Once you start praying properly and coming towards Islam then one will bring Noor(light) and blessings into the household and other members of the household will also benefit from it, so will you not pray and read Qur'an so that your house gets full with this Noor and blessings?
My Sister Allah ONLY created us for one purpose and that is to worship him! He created us to provide for ourselves in this world but it is him who has given us the ability to work! He has given us the mental ability and capacity and he has given us the health and energy in our muscles so that we may work! He is our employer and he is our wage giver!
He sustains and he has given us the ability to earn for ourselves. This does not mean that we should let this affect our actual purpose in this life! We should always keep a balance between what we do for this world and what we do for the hereafter.
My Sister Allah has not asked much from us in this life compared to what he's got on offer for us in the hereafter! Allah has just asked us for full obedience to him for such a short amount of time- (70 years to the most) and in return for our obedience he has promised us ETERENITY of bliss!
So that's: Obedience to Allah for the duration of our short lives = Eternity of bliss in the hereafter
Is that not the most amazing offer one can EVER imagine or comprehend? On top of that Allah has given us everything we need, life, shelter, wealth, food, clothing I can go on and on the favours of Allah FOREVER!
So not only has Allah provided us with everything we can imagine but he has asked us to do a little in return for an eternity of bliss and we still can't manage it? Were pathetic it’s as simple as that!
There is 1440 minutes in a day and on average all the Salah if we add it up takes around 40 minutes in total a day so that’s 40 minutes for Allah out of 1440 minutes in a day that’s just 3% of our day that we need to pray to Allah and we still can't manage that! We are truly pathetic and we will truly regret it on the day of judgement FOREVER and by then it would have been too late!
My Sister after EVERYTHING Allah has given us, we can’t even manage to spend just 40 minutes out of 1440 minutes for him? Almighty Allah does not need us at all Sister for we need him!
Allah just wants the best for us in this world and the next and he tells us in the Qur'an that righteousness and piety is the path to success in this world and the next!
Simply following Allah's commands wholeheartedly will lead to success in this world and the next!
This life for us can end at ANY second Sister as we have seen for ourselves and still see on the news and all around us people dying and those people are not old at all they are people of ALL ages, ethnicities, backgrounds and religions! No matter who we are and what our situation or position is in life when our time is up then death will take us for death does not wait a second more it will take us when our time is up and NO ONE knows when that will be but Allah!
We know too well how temporary our life is and we should realise that if we waste our lives away more than we have already done then surely we will surely regret all the time we wasted on the day of judgement because ONLY then will we realise the true value of the time we had and the amount of GREAT opportunities we missed out on to do good and go towards Allah!
There will be MANY on the day of Qiyamat that will ask Allah for just one more chance and opportunity to have another shot at life and another chance to do things right this time but NO ONE will be given another chance for THIS is our ONLY chance! If we waste this opportunity then we WILL regret it FOREVER! That's a guarantee!
Allah will say have I not given you enough chances in this world to change and be obedient to me?
We wouldn't want to die at this point in our lives right now because we know that we have prepared NOTHING! What have we prepared to show Allah when he asks us what we did with our lives? We have NOTHING to show! We should be VERY worried indeed!
My Sister It’s just about making a routine for ourselves! If we have a daily routine of work, praying remembrance of Allah, reading the Qur'an and learning about Islam then we are more likely to stick to it and implement it throughout our daily life.
When you get into the habit of praying my Sister then everything will become easier for you. It is just right now shaythan is trying to make you think its impossible for you and he is trying to make you think that you can't do it and that it is not in your capacity to do it but he is just trying to knock your confidence in yourself! You have the ability to do ANYTHING!
Once you get into the habit of praying you will NEVER look back again and you will think why I didn’t start earlier!
I believe in you Sister and know you can do this for you are MUCH stronger than shaythan and you can get into the habit of namaz without any problems but you have to act NOW and NEVER put this off again and say soon or tomorrow because tomorrow or soon will NEVER come but NOW is the time to change and go towards Allah! For we will regret the seconds we wasted and all the Salah's we missed.
If we chase the dunya then the dunya will run away from us but if we chase deen then the dunya will run after us! If we walk towards Allah Allah will run to us! So let us run towards Allah and run away from the dunya!
Please feel free to ask me anything you want as I am here for you as your brother in Islam and we as Muslims are all one body!
Here are some very beneficial talks you should really listen to in order to make you realise the purpose of this life:
Imam Anwar al-Awlaki - The Importance of Prayer (Salat)
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dNDb41OH46A
Imam Anwar al-Awlaki - Death (The Destroyer of Pleasures) [part 1/4]
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ieX7ZQtHl0s
Imam Anwar al-Awlaki - Death (The Destroyer of Pleasures) [part 2/4]
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KK_2sVGMW08
Imam Anwar al-Awlaki - Death (The Destroyer of Pleasures) [part 3/4]
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bpmzA2hk1Bo
Imam Anwar al-Awlaki - Death (The Destroyer of Pleasures) [part 4/4]
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=km39GfL62TQ
Sheikh Ahmad Ali - Hellfire Talk Part 1/3
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DWTehIeCOUU
Sheikh Ahmad Ali - Hellfire Talk Part 2/3
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yXTtk7rWx_U
Sheikh Ahmad Ali - Hellfire Talk Part 3/3
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wmiD86w9fBc
Angel of Death!!! - Sheikh Ahmed Ali
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tUzRJXlB2uA
Islam - Punishment of the Grave by Shaykh Riyadh ul Haq
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UWb-hYIm2WE
Death and the Grave by Murtaza Khan
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7r2nzJVecqo
I have pasted some beneficial links for you on various aspects of Islam which i hope you will find VERY useful and beneficial:
The translation of salat (namaz) - learn what you’re reading in namaz
http://www.sunniforum.com/forum/showthread.php?t=38303
Overcoming laziness and Procrastination
http://www.sunniforum.com/forum/showthread.php?t=52097
10 Steps to Increasing our Iman(Faith)
http://www.islamicboard.com/manners-...man-faith.html
Signs of Weak Iman and How to Increase It
http://www.missionislam.com/knowledge/weakimanfix.htm
Overcoming tests from Allah
http://www.turntoislam.com/forum/showthread.php?t=61961
25 Ways to Deal with Stress and Anxiety VERY GOOD THREAD
http://www.sunniforum.com/forum/showthread.php?t=43179
Forty Very Easy, Quick & Rewarding Good Deeds for all of us to do Everyday!
http://www.islamicboard.com/worship-...-everyday.html
VERY Rewarding Nafl Salaahs we can Pray Everyday!
http://www.islamicboard.com/worship-...-everyday.html (VERY Rewarding Nafl Salaahs we can Pray Everyday!)
My Daily Ibadah(worship) check
http://www.islamicboard.com/manners-...hip-check.html
A party in Paradise, A party in Hellfire
http://www.sunniforum.com/forum/showthread.php?t=39698
The Ultimate Motivation for Muslims
http://www.sunniforum.com/forum/showthread.php?t=49243
The State of the People of Paradise in this World
http://www.sunniforum.com/forum/showthread.php?t=49125
Major Signs before the Day of Judgement
http://www.inter-islam.org/faith/Majorsigns.html
Signs before the Day of Judgement
http://etori.tripod.com/dajjalsystem/judgement.html
The Life of this World and the Hereafter
http://www.sunniforum.com/forum/showthread.php?t=51739
Beautiful Description of Paradise in Islam
http://www.sunniforum.com/forum/showthread.php?t=51707
Practising az-Zuhd in the Dunya
http://www.sunniforum.com/forum/showthread.php?t=51738
Everything about Prophet Muhammad (Pbuh)
http://www.mohammad-pbuh.com/
(THE SEALED NECTAR)Memoirs of the Noble Prophet [pbuh]
http://www.witness-pioneer.org/vil/B..._tsn/index.htm
For those wanting to look more into Islam
http://forum.mpacuk.org/showthread.php?t=44392
Please remember me in your dua's and please feel free to ask me ANYTHING you want and I will try my best to always help you as your brother in Islam. Allah Hafiz