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StayHumble
I got into a big fight with my family this morning. I woke up to the sound of music blasting in the basement and I am all the way upstairs. We have a computer that has big speakers and my sisters love to blast music all the time. I told them that since music is haram (based on the information I have received and people I have spoken to) I asked them to not blast it but to use their Ipods instead, and they have refused. This quickly turned into a huge argument everyone screaming at the top of their lungs, including me I wont lie.
They told me that if they are doing haram, it doesn't affect me. But the thing is Music is very catchy, repetitive and gets stuck in your head, how can I focus on Quran or reading when music is blasting in my head. My family says put your headphones on and listen to Quran but why can't they put their Ipods on and listen to music. They say that I am being unreasonable and that I can't force religion on them. I read a hadith once that said that if you see an evil change it with your hands if not speak out against it and if not hate it in your heart. So I told them that If they blast music I will simply come down and turn it off with my own hands.
This erupted into an even bigger fight, I don't think that I am in the wrong, Music is haram and they want to blast it and I can't stand hearing it. I said that I would blast Quran and they said they would blast their music right back. Why can't they just listen to it on their Ipods it was made for that reason. They tell me to listen to my quran on my headphones but shouldn't it be the other way around? I can't believe that something as stupid as music is making such a big deal, Am I in the right? or am I in the Wrong?
Asalaamu Alaikum Wr Wb, My brother use wisdom and tact in these issues because anger will only make the situation worse although it is a very frustrating situation you should remain patient as your reward is with Allah!
You should call a meeting of the family to discuss these matters properly as a family unit. If need be get an elder/s of the family to mediate such matters so that you can come to a mutal agreement.
You should make your family aware that music is forbidden and that there is no reason for your sisters to put the volume up so loud so tat the whole house and neighbours can hear it. You should let them no that it is really upsetting you that they act in this way and that there is no need for them to put the volume up so loud as they can hear it just aswell in a lower volume.
You should try to be tolerant and patient with your sisters and show them good character so that they may see the beauty of islam and how it has made you a better person. Remember that the best dawah is a persons good character and manners.
Create good relations with them as Islam maintains that we keep good relations with kith and kin. Creating good relations will make your dawah for them to come into Islam much more effective.
Whenever you have the opportunity read them a few hadith or an ayat from the Qur'an with its meaning. Talk to them about death, th grave punishment and the hereafter as this would bring them back to reality.
Death is the destroyer of pleasure so make them realise that they will return to Allah and how will they answer for thier deeds? What have they prepared for the hereafter? Talking about death will often make them think. Make them realise that the time they are wasting will never return and that they should think about death and thew hereafter. Also text them weekly reminders as well.
Know that we can only inform them best we can for Allah is the ONLY one who can guide them. Always use wisdom and tact and never get frustrated and angry as this will never work.
Most of all make lots of dua for them that Allah guides them towards Islam.
Here are some brilliant talks that you can make them listen to. The first is about the evils of the hip hop culture. Then there are short clips about the realities of death, the grave, hell and the hereafter as well as the importance of Salah. These talks will certainly open their eyes to reality inshallah:
The Evil Of The Hip-Hop Culture by Abu Shahadah
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4DdKbLckjeU
Imam Anwar al-Awlaki - Death (The Destroyer of Pleasures) [part 1/4]
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ieX7ZQtHl0s
Imam Anwar al-Awlaki - Death (The Destroyer of Pleasures) [part 2/4]
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KK_2sVGMW08
Imam Anwar al-Awlaki - Death (The Destroyer of Pleasures) [part 3/4]
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bpmzA2hk1Bo
Imam Anwar al-Awlaki - Death (The Destroyer of Pleasures) [part 4/4]
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=km39GfL62TQ
Imam Anwar al-Awlaki - The Journey of the Soul
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wAwHEXE3-n0
Sheikh Ahmad Ali - Hellfire Talk Part 1/3
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DWTehIeCOUU
Sheikh Ahmad Ali - Hellfire Talk Part 2/3
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yXTtk7rWx_U
Sheikh Ahmad Ali - Hellfire Talk Part 3/3
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wmiD86w9fBc
Angel of Death!!! - Sheikh Ahmed Ali
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tUzRJXlB2uA
Imam Anwar al-Awlaki - The Importance of Prayer (Salat)
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dNDb41OH46A
Islam - Punishment of the Grave by Shaykh Riyadh ul Haq
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UWb-hYIm2WE
Death and the Grave by Murtaza Khan
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7r2nzJVecqo