But Brother what your asking parents to do is take away there childhood honestly, forbidding them from being a child let alone human and make mistakes. Home schooling and locking them in the house without being able to talk to there peers, what happens when they actually need to step out into the world brother? They won't have the first hand clue and become vulnerable. How will they ever socialise, If parents and family are all the know?
Robbing them of their childhood? Define childhood for me. Go to any third world developing or war-torn country and ask them what having a childhood means. Ask all the people prior to the last century what childhood was about. Ask the people who have had difficult childhoods. Ask them how mature they were at young ages? How they were 'forced to grow up'.
It's all relative to the society and environment that you live in. Unfortunately for the kids in this day and age, society is more or less corrupt. Vice is the order of the day. They are bombarded with a million
controlling blatant and subconscious messages that influence them toward behaving bad for the economic gain of hungry corporations that don't give a rat's ass about the damage that they are doing to the poor innocent souls.
Why would any sane muslim parent want a corrupt society to raise their children for them? I can see non-muslims from say the 1940's if ever given the chance to see how children behave today, having a heart attack. There is a stark difference between the maturity shown by children now than back then. They're so much more unintellectual and apathetic. Mass population control. They use TV and most other forms of entertainment to dumb down the population. Do you ever see the sort of crap that comes on the tele? They make children want to be like and emulate total non-entities portrayed in movies, shows etc. They are made to want to see what's going on in their lives. Celeb xyz took a dump and for some reason the world needs to know about it and it's good? How nonsensical.
It's not a shock to see 16/17 years old people behaving like total morons. Bodies of men but the brain and thinking power of 5 year olds who haven't had an ounce of mature thinking to do in their entire lives. Born into families that let the media raise them, who gave into
all their materialistic desires - 'ooh mummy daddy, I want thissss' (which arises due to ruthless advertising campaigns by corporations). This same quenching of materialistic thirst leaves a massive hole in their spiritual armour. They only know selfishness and that they want their wants to be fulfilled. Then they're spoon fed education through the mass schooling system. Brainwashed into wanting more adult forms of (either physically or spiritually) self-destructive pleasure while in their teenage years.
You tell me who has been robbed more, these poor people, or the child who grows up with proper manners, humility, humbleness, politeness, selflessness, care for others, fear of God, respect for elders, can talk to anyone at any age, is an independent thinker and wants to assert positive change in the world, all due to careful (and 'controlled' if that's what you want to call it) parenting?
Are we going to let them have all the fun in the world that they want and gain all sorts of bad psychological habits and assume it's all good cos it's just them having fun? I think that's extremely careless parenting. This world is so messed up. How can you change society for the better except by being a good parent protecting your children from becoming zombies who just care for themselves and don't see past their own greed and desires?
Homeschooling is tough definitely and the danger does exist that there is a potential that they will have social problems, but that only occurs if the parents are not dedicated enough. They have to work overtime and very hard to ensure that the child's pshychological and social needs are met and not just confine the interaction to people the kid's own level.
It's a myth that home-schooled children will
definitely grow up to be socially inept. There's so many things that can be done to offset the lack of school driven social interaction. It doesn't just have to be kid sat at home with mummy all day. Parents can be creative, take them out to museums, playgroups, study, sport groups with other like minded homeschoolers.
As muslims, 5 times a day daily prayer in the mosque. Who do they meet? People. They can not only learn to interact with other children their age, but also people much older. Rather than just being locked in school all day.
Education systems around the world produce robots, that are all
controlled by governments and mass media into behaving in certain mostly materialistic ways. There's tremendous levels of social engineering at play which you are overlooking.
In schools, they hardly are taught to have their voice heard. Just raised to be another cog in the wheel that has to conform to the system that is already in place. They aren't taught to think past the barriers.
By homeschooling and taking an active involvement in a child's upbringing, parents can guide them into being independent thinkers. They're not all forced to sit in classes full of 30 others and a tired bored teacher who just wants to teach them enough to pass an exam.
I said in my first post that parents should want their kids to change the world with the noor of iman, how else would they do that if they weren't able to communicate with people?
The first step is to treat them like adults at an early age. None of this dumbing and talking down to them and making them believe they are not mature enough. Yet at the same time, of course parents shouldn't give them too much responsibility that they wouldn't be able to bear it. Parents would know their children more than anybody else in the world and so should know what their strengths and weaknesses are and should only give them so much that they are not overburdened.
Also, humans are not infallible. They
will make mistakes and nobody should hold those mistakes against them, not least the parents. However, that doesn't mean we willingly put them into a position that they are far more
likely to mess up. Again, nothing short of careless parenting.
A child isn't a colouring book, where you can fill your favourite colours and control them like that.
A parent wants what's best for his children. It's better colouring them with your favourite colours, than letting others with bad motives and ideals do it for you.
Like I said, make them
yearn for Islam. If that happens, parenting wouldn't need to be militaristic. They would care for their deen by themselves more than anything else if they are taught properly. Much like how your father gave you a proper talking to which somewhat set you straight, except that kind of conversation should be happening from day one. Talk to them from the heart and guide them. They don't need to beat, force or have them on lock down.
If you raise them to think properly, they wouldn't feel they were being 'controlled' or kept out of having fun and thus would not rebel.