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Hey, i was wondering if anyone could give me some advice.
The problem that im having is that i feel stress all the time, i find it really hard to de-stress, nothing seem to work....
I can't find a job, i've had a lot of interview but i just don;t get the jobs,
don;t know what's wrong with me.
I don;t really have any friends here and find it really hard to make friends. I move to the city in nov last year but im stuggling,
I live with my husband who is at work most of the time.
Im home alone, alot of the time, i don;t have any children. Me and my husband are having problems, to the degree where i think it might be my time to leave the relationship, i talk to my husband about my problems but they are still there... i dont know how long i can live like this,
I even started to self harm, i know it is wrong but it the only way i seem to control myself,
I find it hard to get out of bed in the morning coz i know i've got nothing to do, all i do most of the day is go on the internet, which isn;t good.
I came from a background where i have a larger extended family who play a very big part in my life and friends who are there when i needed them, but i've moved away from all of the things tht make me happy in order to save my marriage, which is still the same.... 'NOT WORKING'
Thank You
Salaam sister
I've not got much knowledge compared to others here but i'll try to help best i can :).
Firstly, self harm is wrong, and you understand that, but you continue to do it. Now i know you think it gives you some control over your life but you need to realise that it will only escalate and get even worse, and it does not give you any control at all, that’s just something you believe.
You mentioned that you moved away to a new location away from family and friends, which is obviously hard because you are in a place you may not be familiar with and same goes for the residents. I suggest you visit the local mosque or another place which may have a muslim community, because you will find it easier find help and make friends. I must admit that just like you, I myself cannot get up in the morning because i feel the day is pointless and sometimes feel very sad and empty, but i find the strength to go about with my daily duties. I too am stressed most of the time, and it is hard to calm down and relax, but even prayer can help you calm down. I suggest you speak to your husband about your stress and the need for some company.
You also mentioned marriage problems, if you don’t mind me asking what are they? Is he not being supportive? Abusive? Something else maybe? Whatever it may be, you need to sit down with him and have a talk and if he fails to realise possible get in touch with an imam who may be able to help you. You mentioned it’s hard to get work, don’t give up just keep trying, inshallah you will find a job soon.
May Allah ease your situation and help you with your problems, Inshallah.