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paradise786
I went to two partys so far which included of muslim girls and not one of them prayed and i was so upset and shocked cos i was the only one and i felt lonely in a way.. what is happening to people. The first the i asked them but they had reasons which i wont mention and some just couldnt be bothered to,
second time they all started mocking me when it came to order food by saying 'dont worry its halal see it says HALAL' and when i was eating something they said 'its haram its got this in it' etc i just laughed it off cos i didnt wnt to spoil their party. However I must say i felt like im some sort of 'extremist' and that i was doing something over the top when i was onky following basic rules of islam!!! Do I stop socialising with these friends?? They are nice and I do send them religious messages often..
:sl: my sister save yourself from these people for they are not good for your imaan. The influence of our friends rub off on us and if you continuously keep these sisters as friends then eventually their influence will rub off on you. There influence is not good on you at all in that you feel like an extrmist in their company and that is because you have concern over your imaan whereas they do not.
Sister find pious and practising sisters to meet with so that you can help each other increase each others imaan by talking about Islam and learning about deen together and attending sisters talks, halaqas and activities.
By hanging around with the people you hang around with is not doing any favours for your imaan at all but in fact putting it at risk because the topics they will talk about would rarely ever be about Islam and it is said that those gatherings which do not include the mention or the remembrance of Allah will be at GREAT loss on the day of judgement.
Therefore be with sisters who are likeminded and have fear and concern over their imaan like you do and not with those who are heedless and have no concern over their purpose in this life. May Allah guide them inshallah but you have to worry about your own imaan and NEVER comprimise it therefore you should leave this crowd immediatley because in islam the TRUE friend is who will lead you towards Jannah and the bad friend is the one who will lead you towards destruction.
Continue to send them one Islamic reminder text a week and an Islamic e mail sometimes too. Whenever you see them invite them towards Allah in a beautiful manner and if they become bitter about you moving away from them then they would have shown their true colours but ignore them and continue to stand strong because you have Allah by your side so please him as much as you can and remember and glorify him day and night.
Also sister in regards to "so called halal food" we have to be very careful about what we eat. Most chicken in this country has been stunned and therefore resulting in the chicken being either severely brain damaged or dead before slaughter and one of the rules for Islamic slaughter is that the animal should be in good healthy condition prior to slaughter and with stunned chicken it is very uncertain how many chickens actually die from stunning before slaughter.
Many slaughter houses also think it is sufficient to have "Bismillah" playing on a tape player in the background and think that this is sufficient when slaughtering an animal.
Many also have "Bismillah" written on a knife or a saw and think that this is also sufficient when slaughtering an animal. These practices are contrary to Islamic slaughter and currently there is only one Islamic food authority that actively send monitors to these slaugter houses to ensure that proper Islamic methods of slaughter are being used and that is a company called HMC. This company is a God send and are very active in sending out inspectors and monitors to inspect all premises that they certify in the UK.
No other so called halal food agency does that. One of the worst of all are HFA or in other words Haram food authority who have NO checks or inspectors or monitors but will stamp the halal stamp anyway. So stick with eating chicken from places that is certified by HMC or at least ask if the chicken they buy is stunned or not because it is our duty as Muslims to ensure that what goes in our stomachs is halal otherwise we risk rejection of our dua's and good deeds by pollution of haraam in our bodys from haraam food. We must take care in this respect.
Here is this website so please refer to it for information on slaughter aswell as certified restaurants, takeaways and butchers across the UK:
http://www.halalmc.net/
Hope that helped sister. If you ever need help or advice then please never hesitate to ask.
Here are some very beneficial articles for you:
10 Steps to Increasing our Iman(Faith)
http://www.islamicboard.com/showthre...our-Iman(Faith)
30 ways the youth should spend everyday of their lives!
http://www.islamicboard.com/showthre...of-their-lives!
Easy Dhikr which is light on the tongue but heavy on the scales!
http://www.islamicboard.com/showthre...-on-the-scales!
My Daily Ibadah (worship) check!
http://www.islamicboard.com/showthre...worship)-check!
10 steps to getting closer to Allah
http://www.islamicboard.com/showthre...loser-to-Allah
Forty Very Easy, Quick & Rewarding Good Deeds for all of us to do Everyday!
http://www.islamicboard.com/showthre...to-do-Everyday!
Not praying Salaah 5 times a day? Here's the solution!
http://www.islamicboard.com/showthre...s-the-solution!
VERY Rewarding Nafl Salaahs we can Pray Everyday!
http://www.islamicboard.com/showthre...-Pray-Everyday!
Please listen these very beneficial talks:
Angel of Death!!! - Sheikh Ahmed Ali
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tUzRJXlB2uA
Imam Anwar al-Awlaki - Death (The Destroyer of Pleasures) [part 1/4]
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ieX7ZQtHl0s
Imam Anwar al-Awlaki - Death (The Destroyer of Pleasures) [part 2/4]
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KK_2sVGMW08
Imam Anwar al-Awlaki - Death (The Destroyer of Pleasures) [part 3/4]
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bpmzA2hk1Bo
Imam Anwar al-Awlaki - Death (The Destroyer of Pleasures) [part 4/4]
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=km39GfL62TQ
Imam Anwar al-Awlaki - The Journey of the Soul
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wAwHEXE3-n0
HARD HITTING Lecture on HELLFIRE & the Day of JUDGEMENT! يوم القيامة والجحيم
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0O6L_fBk7VM
Sheikh Ahmad Ali - Hellfire Talk Part 1/3
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DWTehIeCOUU
Sheikh Ahmad Ali - Hellfire Talk Part 2/3
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yXTtk7rWx_U
Sheikh Ahmad Ali - Hellfire Talk Part 3/3
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wmiD86w9fBc
Islam - Punishment of the Grave by Sheikh Riyadh ul Haq
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UWb-hYIm2WE
Death and the Grave by Murtaza Khan
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7r2nzJVecqo
How can we not appreciate what we have after watching this?
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=AkEBUC0APMg