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mystifyed
05-11-2010, 04:45 PM
assalam o alikum

i wanted to ask why cant a muslim women marry a man from the ppl of book ??
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Abdul Wahid
05-11-2010, 04:59 PM
:sl: my sister.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SCH2L8_iuH8

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mystifyed
05-11-2010, 05:00 PM
my speakers don't work i can't listen to the video can you post some of the reasons here??
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Abdul Wahid
05-11-2010, 05:17 PM
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The general rule of Islam is that Muslims should marry Muslims. A Muslim male or female should not marry a non-Muslim male or female. ALLAH Almighty says: “ Wed not idolatresses till they believe; for lo! a believing bondwoman is better than an idolatress though she please you; and give not your daughters in marriage to idolaters till they believe, for lo! a believing slave is better than an idolater though he please you. These invite unto the Fire, and ALLAH inviteth unto the Garden, and unto forgiveness by His grace, and expoundeth thus His revelations to mankind that haply they may remember.” (Al-Baqarah: 221)

The only exception is given to Muslim men who are allowed to marry the girls from among the People of the Book. ALLAH Almighty says: “This day are (all) good things made lawful for you. The food of those who have received the Scripture is lawful for you, and your food is lawful for them. And so are the virtuous women of the believers and the virtuous women of those who received the Scripture before you (lawful for you) when ye give them their marriage portions and live with them in honor, not in fornication, nor taking them as secret concubines. Whoso denieth the faith, his work is vain and he will be among the losers in the Hereafter.” (Al-Ma’dah: 5)

The main reasons why Muslim men are allowed to marry women from among the People of the Book and why Muslim women are not allowed to do so are because:

It is not an honor or a privilege to marry a non-Muslim. It is a burden and a big responsibility. It is better to abstain from such marriages. Muslim men who are living in non-Muslim countries in particular should not marry non-Muslim women. However, man being the head of his household is more capable to handle the needs and problems of his non-Muslim (Christian or Jewish) wife. Muslims believe that Moses and Jesus, peace and blessings be upon them all, were Prophets of ALLAH(SWT) and so they give them full honor and respect.

Jews and Christians do not consider Prophet Muhammad(SAW), as the Prophet of ALLAH(SWT). Therefore they are unable to give the same respect and honor to him and to his followers. A Jewish or Christian woman with a Muslim husband will be in a much better position than a Muslim woman with a Jewish or a Christian husband. Even then, there are many non-Muslim women who married outside their faith say that they wish their religion too had forbidden them, because they know how difficult and hard it is to be the wife of a husband who has a different faith.

A Muslim woman should know that ALLAH(SWT) has really honored her and made it easy for her by not allowing her to marry a non-Muslim man.

According to the Qur'an, the husband is the head of the household and his wife should obey him. ALLAH(SWT) does not put the Muslim woman in a position that a non-Muslim becomes her head in her own private life. ALLAH(SWT) has spared her to suffer from being under the authority of a non-Muslim husband.

I hope this is clear InshaALLAH.

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Periwinkle18
05-11-2010, 05:21 PM
jazakAllah bro thank you so much for writing it awl down :)
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Periwinkle18
05-11-2010, 05:28 PM
we need more points about y women are not to marry the non muslim men the reasons and the wisdom of this law
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Abdul Wahid
05-11-2010, 05:37 PM
:sl: sister

You want more points. You sisters are hard work. Alhumdulillah I found this for you:

"If Allah is the one who prohibits a Muslim woman from marrying a non-Muslim, then we as Muslims are supposed to believe it and to take it. As a matter of faith, you cannot become a Muslim unless you accept everything when it is ordained by Allah or carried out by his Messenger. The Qur'an says, "O Ye who believe! Put not yourselves forward before Allah and His Messenger…" (Al-Hujurat: )

If you ask about the benefits of not marrying a non-Muslim, we can count you many reasons. A man is the manager of his household. He will persecute his Muslim wife in many dos and don'ts. She can hardly guarantee that kind of operation. Moreover, marriage is an institution for elevating our levels of having a good Islamic life. Pleasing Allah is our number one goal. If a woman is married to a non-Muslim, maybe the only thing she will accomplish in her marital life is what is good for livestock."

Shedding more light on the question, we'd like to cite the words of the eminent Muslim scholar, Sheik Yusuf Al-Qaradawi, in his well-known book, The Lawful and the Prohibited in Islam:

"It is haram for a Muslim woman to marry a non-Muslim man, regardless of whether he is of the People of the Book or not. We have already mentioned the saying of Allah, "...and do not marry (your girls) to idolaters until they believe..." (Al-Baqarah: 221)

And He said concerning the immigrant Muslim women: "Then if you know them to be Believers, do not send them back to the unbelievers. They are not lawful for them (as wives), nor are they lawful for them (as husbands)." (Al-Mumtahanah: 10)

No text exists which makes exceptions for the People of the Book. Hence, on the basis of the above verses, there is a consensus among Muslims concerning this prohibition.

Thus, while a Muslim man is permitted to marry a Christian or Jewish woman, a Muslim woman is not allowed to marry a Christian or Jewish man. There are many sound reasons for this difference. First, the man is the head of the household, the one who maintains the family, and he is responsible for his wife. And while Islam guarantees freedom of belief and practice to the Christian or Jewish wife of a Muslim, safeguarding her rights according to her own faith, other religions, such as Judaism and Christianity, do not guarantee the wife of a different faith freedom of belief and practice, nor do they safeguard her rights. Since this is the case, how can Islam take chances on the future of its daughters by giving them into the hands of people who neither honor their religion nor are concerned to protect their rights?

A marriage between a man and woman of different faiths can be based only on the husband's respect for his wife's beliefs; otherwise a good relationship can never develop. Now, the Muslim believes that both Judaism and Christianity originated in divine revelation, although later distortions were introduced into them. He also believes that God revealed the Tawrah to Moses and the Injeel to Jesus, and that both Moses and Jesus (peace be on them) were among the Messengers of Allah who were distinguished by their steadfast determination. Accordingly, the Christian or Jewish wife of a Muslim lives under the protection of a man who respects the basic tenets of her faith, her Scripture, and her Prophets, while in contrast to this the Jew or Christian recognizes neither the Divine origin of Islam, its Book, or its Prophet (peace be on him). How then could a Muslim woman live with such a man, while her religion requires of her the observance of certain worships, duties, and obligations, as well as certain prohibitions. It would be impossible for the Muslim woman to retain her respect for her beliefs as well as to practice her religion properly if she were opposed in this regard by the master of the house at every step.

It will be realized from this that Islam is consistent with itself in prohibiting the Muslim man to marry a mushrik (polytheist) woman, for since Islam is absolutely opposed to shirk (polytheism), it would obviously be impossible for two such people to live together in harmony and love."

http://www.islamonline.net/servlet/S...EAskTheScholar

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cat eyes
05-11-2010, 05:38 PM
there is many scholars who have objected to muslim men marrying non muslim women also sister because it is the children who take influence from the mother because they are always with her and they gave many other reasons. inshaAllah i will give some evidence on that too.
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aadil77
05-11-2010, 05:42 PM
Many scholars believe it is haram for muslim men or women to marry christians or jews because they are not the same people of the book who were true believers as mentioned in the quran
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Abdul Wahid
05-11-2010, 05:45 PM
Yes the scholars are correct. Especially in this day and age. Which is why this verse is very important.

The general rule of Islam is that Muslims should marry Muslims. A Muslim male or female should not marry a non-Muslim male or female. ALLAH Almighty says: “ Wed not idolatresses till they believe; for lo! a believing bondwoman is better than an idolatress though she please you; and give not your daughters in marriage to idolaters till they believe, for lo! a believing slave is better than an idolater though he please you. These invite unto the Fire, and ALLAH inviteth unto the Garden, and unto forgiveness by His grace, and expoundeth thus His revelations to mankind that haply they may remember.” (Al-Baqarah: 221)
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cat eyes
05-11-2010, 05:51 PM
there is so many muslim men i see who are married to non muslim and these women actually have kids for them. i know one woman married to a muslim she has kids for the guy and she has said she

will never revert to islam and allow the kids to do what they want... so these are the dangers men face when choosing to marry non muslim. imams should not allow these marriages either sister but

they are doing these nikkah's for these men maybe because of the fact the imam knows them personally or know there families or maybe because they blindly believe that these people automatically

revert and they make out that marriage is 100percent guarantee of reversion for the woman. the truth is there is not guarantee. there is not evidence of that from the holy quran and sunnah that this will happen and Allah did NOT say to marry idol worshipers
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Periwinkle18
05-11-2010, 05:52 PM
JazakAllah bro for working hard and posting again :)
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