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Alpha Dude
:sl:Strong faith in Allah. Nothing else matters.
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h-n
My only confidence comes from remembering Allah and the Day of Judgement.
Remembering the Day of Judgement means that I know that I won't care about how others think of me, as we are all looking towards Allah. If others were bullying you, you would look down on them on the Day of Judgement and say why did I waste my time worrying about what you think and say to me.
Negative life experiences coupled with lack of coping mechanism and lack of understanding of our true purpose on this Earth. Someone with the correct approach to life that has true tawakul/trust in Allah and realises that Allah is fully in control of all our affairs and realises this world is a test, when he is faced with hardship, has far greater ability to cope with it than one that is clueless. He retains confidence in Allah and Allah strengthens him by giving him confidence in his life in return.
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**muslimah**
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Confidence means strong trust in Allah SWT, the All-Hearer the All-Knower. In actions it can be seen as working as much as you can in order to achieve your goal and the ability to put your trust in Allah SWT.
For example you have an exam tomorrow. You need to score an excellent grade, but you haven't studied at all. In this case you have two options left;
- a) Give up and don't study.
- b) Study, and trust and put your faith in Allah SWT.
believing in Allah and the last day and being confident thats all very good as long as your not hurting anybody by being to over confident in yourself.
you all have mentioned that confidence is associated with iman. in which sense exactly? if you mean confidence in having hope that your deeds (eg prayer etc) will be accepted, i understand that. but in terms of things you aspire to in this dunya for example getting a job, studying, etc then why is that associated with iman?
of course iman is relevant in this case, but in which sense? the way im seeing this, is sort of like how some people say no love matters except for Allah and as long as you love wallah, then loving no-one else matter. but to me, this type of concept makes zero sense because we are all people and we all need the love of someone be it a parent, wife, child, etc. Divine love is different from the way you love people. even the love for your parents differs from your love for your siblings and the love for your siblings differs from your love for your friends and so on.
so in the same sense, how does iman fit into the equation of confidence?
I would say to that person to bear it with patience. Sticks and stones. Don't be so weak that words can break you. At the end of the day, we have to realise that there are people at differing levels of understanding and at different states of faith. The one with lower understanding and wisdom is the one that would resort to belittlement.
Why should the belittled one feel inadequate when he has done nothing wrong? Just bear their injustices with patience and make dua that others can overcome their arrogance and be granted a superior attitude to life.
nothing other than it just plain hurts. its the fact that they come to you with a (for eg) "you know what, you're stupid ^o)" its the tone if you will and by them saying what they say, its like they are saying "im bigger then you and your just somewhere else below." its the fact that they put themselves in a higher position and maybe that's why you believe them because through their harsh words i guess it make them sound authoritative and you listen/accept what those in authority. its not the words, it more like the attitude.
on the side: how would you advise children about bullying and self esteem. kids tend to act on instinct "child sees, child does" so they will be more vulnerable to hurtful comment and are likely to believe them. what do you say to a child who cant seem to be making friends.
It depends on the kind of confidence and one's attitude to life. If someone thinks everything he does is out of his natural abilities and that he is better than others, then without doubt that is bad and a negative character trait. It's arrogance and we all know how bad a sin that is.
is it arrogant to think you are better/more suited for doing something than someone else? how should one reverse their ill feelings taken into account that these feelings stem from the heart and it isnt possible to physically change them like certain other sins that are physical and can be changed.
The two causes of low confidence, insecurity and dissatisfaction, develop only and only when you let worldly issues affect you.
how can worldly affairs NOT affect you?
So basically, remove the things that make you uncertain/dissatisfied. Nothing can touch you unless you let it.
how and what if they aren't in your hands.
Over confidence is positive or negative depending on what you use it.
could you give examples of both.