Yeah i know what you mean :) i might have been harsh but i just do not know why most people make out that you should stick living with your parents even in adult hood
Salaam Hope your doing fine Sister Cat eyes, thanks for making your point... Dew paradise is right what said about parents... just to add on top of what she said...
When asked by some one that what are the rights of parents over their children.... Messenger of Allah (saw) said..
"They are Your Heaven and Hell." (Ibn Majah Hadith 3625)
There are 2 ways in regards to your parents, you either obey them and Earn paradise and disobey them and earn Fire..... we need to serve them and take care of them until they are pleased and if they are pleased then God is pleased... if God is pleased then every thing will be fine....
This is true that whenever the Topic of Parents is mentioned in the Quran, its always mentioned after the Importance of the Oneness of Allah (swt) i.e Tauhid ... letting us know and reminding us that if there is ANY one whom we should be careful of our duties to, after Allah (swt), is our Parents...
Just like the Verse mentioned by Sister...
(17:23)for thy Sustainer ordained that you shall worship none but Him. And do good to (thy) parents....
Since Allah (swt) is the Ultimate cause of our Existence on Earth, the Physical or Medium for that cause are our Parents.... without them there wouldn't be any of us here.... so we have to Respect and Love that Medium and by respecting and loving that Medium we respect Allah (swt) ...
The Western way of life, has definitely made an impact on Our Muslims lives, specially those who live in the West... that when You grow old, you can leave... this is being Selfish.. that when we needed them we lived with them, but as soon as we are Strong enough to take care of ourselves, we forget them! (Not trying to point towards you just in general)
The ONLY time we Disobey our parents is when they tell us to Associate any one or Anything in the Worship of Our Lord, Sustainer Allah (Swt)...
(29:8) We have enjoined upon man kindness to his parents, but if they exert pressure on you to associate with Me in My Divinity any that you do not know (to be My associate), do not obey them.
Because of the Above Verse and all other Verses of the Quran stressing on the point of duties to our parents, we are to even obey them if they are
non believers... and we still do NOT disobey them if they have not believed in your Sustainer....
we need to live our own life, we need to pay our own way. this is what my parents thought me anyway. you can still support and take care of them living in separate apartments.
The reason why we stay with them is, because since this Life is nothing but a Test for each and every one of us, if we bear with Patience their Anger and their being difficult with us, we are shown Mercy by Allah (Swt) and choose Heaven over hell.... Allah (Swt) loves us to be with them and take care of them not only, BUT bear with patience whatever they say or do... rather pray for them....
(17:24) My Lord, show them (my parents) mercy just as they cared for me when i was a little child.
you would pray this when you are able to see them at all times in the same house where you live, and not when you are few miles away.....
Also the part of wearing a Hijab is part of Islam, thats fine if you may not agree, as we all make our own choices, but if Parents say so and keep informing you to do it... remember that it is NOT their Order, but the Order of Allah (Swt) that they convey to you, since you Believe and Worship that same Lord...
:)