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Well how do you stop yourself from desiring haraam things? you know you shouldn't desire them but the thought keeps repeating on your mind over and over. How do you stop this? so it doesn't even appeal to you?
or do you just have to go through your entire life fighting it? :hmm:
Asalaamu Alaikum Wr Wb, the best way to fight it is marriage. Marriage is the best solution without a doubt for there is nothing else that will surpress our carnal desires as much as marriage will. One can also fast and eat less but marriage is the only real solution.
One should also keep ones gaze low and not look at the opposite sex on TV or the internet because our minds hold images like sponges and if we keep viewing haraam images then our minds will keep playing them in our heads. The only way to stop this is not look at those images in the first place and keep ones gaze low. One should not go into market areas unless it is absolutley necessery.
We should also remember that our sworn enemy shaythan wants our destruction and that is shaythans main aim and purpose. Therefore we must repel his whispers and the temptations of our nafs by remembering Allah as much as we can and reciting the Qur'an, learning knolwedge of deen and keeping good and pious company which is very important.
Also having the fear of Allah in ones heart will help one to resist temtpation. Once we have the fear of Allah in our hearts then we will think twice before doing any action that may cause the anger and wrath of Allah. The best way to gain the fear of Allah is through gaining knowledge, remembrance of Allah and fulfilling ones obligations to Allah.
and Allah knows best on all matters