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raudhah
08-18-2010, 11:58 AM
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i haf a bestfwen who is diabetic and according to her parent she was told by her physician that she is recommended not to fast as it could do harm to her blood sugar. me and my friend has been advising her to listen to what the physician has recommended but she refuses and perform fasting. She had also told us not to let her parent know as she didn't want to worry them. ever since first ramadan she has never failed to participate in fasting and gotten a little sensitive whenever we reminded her of her condition and what has been advised to her.

my question is, can diabetic patient be exempt from fasting? and wut is the best way to tell her without making her feeling so sensitive abt her condition. we don`t mean to be disrespectful of her decision but as her good friend we care for her very much and worry that something bad might happen if she continues to fast we don`t want her to risk her life like tat. tat and i had also made a promise tat i will try and look after her to her family and when she wouldn't listen it is kind of hard to help. me and my friends are kinda worried coz recently after class she is always lying down and when we asked she just said she's hving bad headache. we did some reading on google tat headache might be related to by high or low numbers in diabetes not sure how bad tat is only know tat if numbers are constantly high it could damage da nerve. she has a log book where she used to write down all her blood sugar numbers everytime she drip a blood on da little machine upon reading it yesterday i decide to making some research on google too see what those numbers mean and it seem like tat her number has slightly elevated from before fasting. not sure how bad it is or how it affected her.

should me and my friends mention tis to her parent? if we should how do we do it w/o offending her in da process? i`m worried as she's my good friend and i don`t want ne thing bad to happen to her and don`t want to lose her as my friend.

any advice would be appreciated.

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Hamza Asadullah
08-21-2010, 11:19 AM
format_quote Originally Posted by raudhah
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i haf a bestfwen who is diabetic and according to her parent she was told by her physician that she is recommended not to fast as it could do harm to her blood sugar. me and my friend has been advising her to listen to what the physician has recommended but she refuses and perform fasting. She had also told us not to let her parent know as she didn't want to worry them. ever since first ramadan she has never failed to participate in fasting and gotten a little sensitive whenever we reminded her of her condition and what has been advised to her.

my question is, can diabetic patient be exempt from fasting? and wut is the best way to tell her without making her feeling so sensitive abt her condition. we don`t mean to be disrespectful of her decision but as her good friend we care for her very much and worry that something bad might happen if she continues to fast we don`t want her to risk her life like tat. tat and i had also made a promise tat i will try and look after her to her family and when she wouldn't listen it is kind of hard to help. me and my friends are kinda worried coz recently after class she is always lying down and when we asked she just said she's hving bad headache. we did some reading on google tat headache might be related to by high or low numbers in diabetes not sure how bad tat is only know tat if numbers are constantly high it could damage da nerve. she has a log book where she used to write down all her blood sugar numbers everytime she drip a blood on da little machine upon reading it yesterday i decide to making some research on google too see what those numbers mean and it seem like tat her number has slightly elevated from before fasting. not sure how bad it is or how it affected her.

should me and my friends mention tis to her parent? if we should how do we do it w/o offending her in da process? i`m worried as she's my good friend and i don`t want ne thing bad to happen to her and don`t want to lose her as my friend.

any advice would be appreciated.

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Assalamu alaykum Wr Wb, jazakallahu khayran for sharing this isue with us. According to Sheikh Abdurrahman Yusuf in regards to fasting and diabetes:

In the name of Allah, the Inspirer of truth.

Type 1 diabetes is a serious problem. If this problem has been diagnosed in you and has been established in a concrete way, through consultation with an expert physician or diabetes specialist, then you will do the following:

If you have to forgo the fast in Ramadan but can keep them at another timeduring the year maybe in more shorter days of the year, then you have to make them up in those days that you feel better. Consult with a Muslim physician if there is some way to retain enough insulin through certain diets, medicine, etc. through the duration of the fast (If and when they become short) and keep them.

Added note: Obviously with the prevalence of diabetes this is a commonly raised concern. There are two important issues in this matter (along with what has already been mentioned above). First, it is medically important that one distinguish between type I and type II diabetes. Second, before looking to exemptions in the shariah one with such problems should contact a Muslim physician who understands the importance of fasting. Such a physician can often come up with an altered insulin regimen for the periods of fasting. In most cases this issue can be resolved at this level

2. If this is not possible and the problem of headaches and vomiting remain a serious problem at all times (even after working with a new regimen of medicine and insulin), then you are considered a person incapable of fasting due to terminal weakness or illness. It is permissible for you to forgo your fasts and pay fidya instead (Tahtawi alal-Maraqi 453). It must be remembered though that in any case, if you somehow become capable of fasting again (even through advanced medicines or treatments), all the missed fasts will have to made up again, even if you had already paid fidya for them (Fatwa Hindiyya 1:207).

So sister you should try and get her to see a Muslim doctor who may be able to best advise her of what to do. In this way she would also be more likely to take the advice given. Also approach her on this matter in a gentle way using wisdom or tact because it is obvious it is very upsetting to her. You should tell her that Allah does not want to overburden his slaves and he wants the best for them and if it is established that she should not fast then she should not do so as she will be putting herself in danger and that goes against the purpose of fasting.

So make her see a Muslim physician so that she can get advice off them but if she continues fasting and you can clearly see that it is having adverse affects on her then you should tell her parents because if something happens to her then you will feel very guilty for not taking the necessery steps. In these matters you must do what is best for her and not worry about how she will react because if not now then one day she will realise that you only did it because you care.

And Allah knows best in all matters
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