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mammyluty
asalaam alaikum
when u fall out with ur mother and she tells u never to call her again and shell never come to your house again.what do u do.i dont want to go into details as to what happend,al i can say is i regret the things i did on my part that caused all the conflict.
May Allah fill her heart wth forgiveness and mercy!
Asalaamu Alaikum Wr Wb, it does depend on what you did to her but you should realise that mothers have been given the highest status and therefore any wrong you did towards her you must ask her forgiveness for. Give her some time to cool down but let her know how sorry you are and that you would nevr behave in such a way and that you did a big mistake.
Ask of Allah to soften her heart so that she can forgive you and talk to you again. We must NOT even say "uff" to our parents even if they wronged us or oppressed us. We must ALWAYS speak to them in a low and soft tone and treat them the best regardless of how they treat us. The way we treat our parets that is the way our children will treat us so we should be very careful how we speak to our parents lest our children also speak to us and treat us in the same manner.
Therefore continue to try and gain her forgiveness and give her some time. Ask of Allah to forgive you also for the way you treated your mother. If she is in old age then that is more reason to treat her the best.
One of the salaf wept when one of his parents died, and said, “I used to have two doors to Paradise; now one of them has closed.” And the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “May his nose be rubbed in the dust (may he be humiliated), whose parents, or one of them, reach old age during his lifetime, then he is not forgiven.”
And Allah knows best in all matters