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Abel
Assalam Alaikum, I have repeatedly committed the major sin of Adultery at least once a week, and EVERYTIME after the act I feel so shamed and guily and seek for foregiveness and promise never to do it again.........however a 2 months i didnt do anything and now im doing at least once a week :(, and ive done it 3x during ramadan (after iftar). I feel so sick and disguted at myself..
I promised Allah on every occasion i wont do it again and yet it happens, Please I need help, I want to stop! What should I do, im in desperate need of help,
I pray 5x times a day, I pray sunnah, Im memorizing at least one ayat a day. And yet i end up commiting this major sin, Recently Ive taken extreme measures and just destroyed the tool i was using to commit the sin with (my cam). Will this suffice? I'm scared, I dont want to be one of the people who went astray,
Brothers sisters, I am in desperate need of advice, Would Allah forgive someone who would flee jihad repeatedly then ask for forgiveness and then flee again? This is exactly how i feel.
Asalaamu ALaikum Wr Wb, my brother you should get rid of the webcam immediatley and you should also think to yourself that Allah is watching you whatever you are doing. If you mother or father was to have seen exactly what you are doing then how would you feel about that? You would feel sick in your stomach with shame for what your mother and father had seen. But you know that Allah can actually see EXACTLY what you are doing then how do you feel?
Before ever contemplating such an act please think to yourself that right now Allah is watching me and everything i do is seen by Allah and on the day of judgement Allah may show you and how will you feel when you are shown exactly what you were doing? You would want to be turned into dust that is how shameful you will feel in front of Allah. Then surely you must feel ashamed now so NEVER repeat such an act again and feel remorseful and turn to Allah especially in the latter part of the night after praying Tahajjud or during fasting just before you break your fast.
Cry to Allah and ask of him for forgiveness for doing such an act. Ask of Almighty Allah to help you never to repeat such an act again and tell him how shameful you feel. Repent sincerely with the intention NEVER to repeat such act again and if your intentions are true and your repentance is sincere then surely you will find that Allah is forgiving and will forgive you because he loves forgiveness and is most merciful.
My brother make the best use of these last few days of Ramadan to get closer to Allah. Allah has inclined you to come here so that you can realise that your time is short and death can come to you at ANY second! So how can we not make best use of what time we have left?
This Ramadan could be our last and this day could also be our last. The sahaba lived in such a way that when they did one salaam at the end of Salaah they were not sure if they would be alive to the the second salaam. Subhanallah and you see us planning our lives away like we will live until old age. Surely we are being decieved!
How many people have passed away at a young age not thinking that they would die that day? There are countless examples and i am sure we all know of a few. So let us get back to reality and realise that our life is way too short and we should not be wasting a single second!
Now my brother go towards Allah and strive to be the closest to him. Ask of him to guide you and help you. Walk towards him and he will run towards you. All it takes is effort so put in the effort and you will find peace in your heart that you never imagined. if you ever contemplate such act again then think of the fire of Hell and the torment of the grave and think if i die now whilst doing this then what will become of me? Also imagine Allah is watching you and you will feel too ashamed to even begin to imagine doing it.
Let us not waste a second more for death can approach us at ANY moment and believe me death does not wait for ANYONE! It comes not a second ahead or before its appointed time and if we die whilst committing a lewd act or whilst doing a sin then surely we are doomed to destruction for we will be raised the way we died! So let us die with the shahada on our lips and let us not die whilst committing a sin!
Download this brilliant PDF file called:
MASTURBATION: A DISASTROUS PROBLEM FACED BY THE YOUTH
http://www.al-inaam.com/Books/Masturbation.pdf
Here are some very beneficial lectures which you should listen to, to increase your imaan and fear of Allah:
Angel of Death!!! - Sheikh Ahmed Ali
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tUzRJXlB2uA
Imam Anwar al-Awlaki - Death (The Destroyer of Pleasures) [part 1/4]
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ieX7ZQtHl0s
Imam Anwar al-Awlaki - Death (The Destroyer of Pleasures) [part 2/4]
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KK_2sVGMW08
Imam Anwar al-Awlaki - Death (The Destroyer of Pleasures) [part 3/4]
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bpmzA2hk1Bo
Imam Anwar al-Awlaki - Death (The Destroyer of Pleasures) [part 4/4]
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=km39GfL62TQ
Imam Anwar al-Awlaki - The Journey of the Soul
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wAwHEXE3-n0
HARD HITTING Lecture on HELLFIRE & the Day of JUDGEMENT! يوم القيامة والجحيم
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0O6L_fBk7VM
Sheikh Ahmad Ali - Hellfire Talk Part 1/3
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DWTehIeCOUU
Sheikh Ahmad Ali - Hellfire Talk Part 2/3
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yXTtk7rWx_U
Sheikh Ahmad Ali - Hellfire Talk Part 3/3
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wmiD86w9fBc
Islam - Punishment of the Grave by Sheikh Riyadh ul Haq
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UWb-hYIm2WE
Death and the Grave by Murtaza Khan
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7r2nzJVecqo
How can we not appreciate what we have after watching this?
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=AkEBUC0APMg[/QUOTE]
And Allah knows best in all matters