Originally Posted by anonymous
Asalaamu Alaikum Wr Wb, your questions are most welcome my sister. Firstly we should realise that the purpose of hijaab is to conceal ones beauty and to steer unwanted lustful gazes away from oneself. When a sister wears hijaab in ways which will actually attract attention then this is clearly not right.
When you are at home or around your mahrams then you can wear which ever colours you want with lace etc but when going out then precaution must be taken so as to ensure that you are as plain as possible preferrably going towards wearing the darker colours as oppose to brighter ones which will always attract more attention.
It is also very important that the hijaab is worn properly. It should not be worn like as if one has a camels hump in ones head. It should also not be worn in such a way that the ears and neck are all showing. It is best to wear it in such a way that it covers the whole head sufficiently and should not be worn like a fashion accessory like how it is by some nowadays.
It is not right to dress in such a way so as to be "pleasing" to the eyes of others except for one's husband. It is far better that a sister wears full hijaab with jilbaab as the jilbaab is the most superiour of the outer garments and is the best for concealing the definition and shape of the body. Wearing normal clothes may sometimes hug against bodily definitions depending on the material etc but that will never be the case with the jilbaab.
The worse colours to wear outside are pink, sky blue, red etc as they are just screaming "look at me". Men are also very guilty of wearing innappropriate colours as many are seen nowadays wearing feminine colours like pink, red, yellow etc.
Women should not wear any perfume which has a strong odour when going out anywhere.
1. Allah's Messenger (Sallallaahu Alayhi Wasallam) said,
"The perfume for men is the fragrance is apparent but the colour is hidden, and the perfume for women is the colour is apparent but the fragrance is hidden." (Mishkaat Hadith4443)
2. Allah's Messenger (Sallallaahu Alayhi Wasallam) said: Every eye is lustful and when a woman applies perfume and then goes about in an assembly, she is like such and such, i.e. an adulteress. (Mishkat Hadith1065)
3. The Prophet (Sallallaahu Alayhi Wasallam) said:
If a woman applies perfume, she must not attend the night prayer with us. Ibn Nufayl said: Isha' means night prayer. (Abu Dawud Hadith4163)
4. Narrator: Abu Hurayra -
A woman met him and he found the fragrance of perfume in her. Her clothes were fluttering in the air. He said: O maid-servant of the Almighty, are you coming from the mosque? She replied: Yes. He said: You used perfume? She replied: Yes. He said: I heard my beloved Abul Qasim (Sallallaahu Alayhi Wasallam) say: The prayer of a woman who uses perfume is not accepted until she returns and takes a bath like that of sexual defilement. (Abu Dawud4162)
5. The Prophet (Sallallaahu Alayhi Wasallam) said:
If a woman uses perfume and passes the people so that they may get its fragrance, she is so-and-so, meaning severe remarks. (Abu Dawud Hadith4161)
6. The Prophet (Sallallaahu Alayhi Wasallam) said:
I do not ride on purple, or wear a garment dyed with saffron, or wear shirt hemmed with silk. Pointing to the collar of his shirt al-Hasan (al-Basri) said: The perfume used by men should have fragrance but no colour, and the perfume used by women should have a colour but no odour.
I think he said: They interpreted his tradition about perfume used by women as applying when she comes out. But when she is with her husband, she may use any perfume she wishes. (Abu Dawud Hadith4037)
The reason for this prohibition is quite clear, which is that women’s fragrance may cause undue provocation of desires. The scholars also included other things under this heading of things to be avoided by women who want to go to the mosque, such as beautiful clothes, jewellery that can be seen, excessive adornments and mingling with men. See Fath al-Baari, 2/279.
Therefore when a women is with her husband she can use whatever strong perfume she likes but when she goes out she must not wear a perfume with an odour.
High heels should also not be worn as they clearly attract unwanted attention due to the noise that high heels make when walking in them. They may also attract lustful gazes due to the fact that they are made to make the women look taller and walk in a certain manner that is innappopriate.
So my sister when going out stick to darker colours and wear the hijaab properly around the head with the jilbaab as an outer garment and when you are with your mahrams or partner then you don't have to hold back with the bright colours, accessories and wearing the hijaab how you want to etc.
The shaythan is always wanting to play his evil hands in every aspect of our lives. That is why we must always be very cautious and we should always think that whatever we are doing is it going to please Allah or anger him.
Shaythan is always wanting to make us do that which is not permissable and he rests not until he steers us away from the right path. That is why we must always be on guard and think about what we are doing and whether or not what we are doing conforms to that which is permissable in Islam and that we are refraining from that which is not permissable. Let us do everything to please Allah and refrain from everything that displeases him.
And Allah knows best in all matters