I kinda feel like everyone sort of missed the point - I felt like the video was exaggerated and had added humorous situations to highlight the basic fact which is that it's tough to get married.
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Perhaps I am not the best one to comment, but I do have questions also that might facilitate conversation. My questions first:
How representative would you say this man and his attitudes are among Muslim bachelors? Would it be more representative of Muslim males in certain regions? (The one man in the video suggested it is partly a problem with American culture.) Would you say that it is more representative of a certain age range of males?
Generally, keeping in mind that this video was done in a humorous way and wasn't (to the best of my knowledge) meant to be a serious documentary, I'd say not representative in the way he was acting.
However, since companionship, love, intimacy, etc etc are all only permissible through marriage for Muslims, marriage is defiently on the minds of a lot of people, a lot of times. As the Imam said near the end of the video, it's natural to feel that way. It's also tough because its hard to control one's human desires when one walks out on the street in the summer time to see a beautiful girl wearing a short skirt and a tank top. That's tough to deal with.
As for whether what exactly the video was meant to represent, I can't answer that because I have no idea who made the video. You'll have to ask this question on the youtube page and maybe they'll be able to give you an accurate response.
My comments:
This man seemed so focused on marriage that he was hanging all of his happiness upon it. He had a belief that if he could just find the right wife then he would be happy. Unfortunately, for men like that, they are often not happy no matter how wonderful their wife is. Peace and happiness must be found from within rather than expecting others to create it for you. I felt bad for this man, in this regard, because I can see where the attitude will lead down the road. Any time he finds himself unhappy in the marriage it will be blamed on his wife. He needs to work on himself before he ever worries about finding a wife. Quite sad, but also it seems quite common among younger individuals today. Man (and woman) should seek God first. The man on the video seemed to be seeking woman first. I feel sorry for his future wife also. The whole thing makes me quite sad.
I completely agree with what you're saying, but like I said, I think it was definitely exaggerated.
I was a bit shocked by the man in the video. His language was shocking. He was eating hot dogs. Will someone please tell me those were halal turkey or beef hot dogs he was eating. :nervous: I confess I was shocked at the music and break dancing (?) at the conference he went to. His attitude would have been shocking if it were not something I see so commonly among younger individuals-- that just makes it all so sad. I am not sure how old he is. Did it say and I missed that?
I'm pretty sure they were halal hot dogs lol. Yeah the music and break dancing was something part of the conference. But then again, I think all of this is not the underlying point of the video. Im not sure about his age.