They do not plan ahead for the first week or month after marriage, when they are expected to be living on their own, with their wife, and providing for her well-being and sustenance. When both husband and wife are students, it is imperative that the husband's parents — or whichever set of in-laws can afford to do so — provide financial assistance.In fact, securing that financial support before the marriage and being sure it is being given willingly is paramount to relieving at least a portion of the undue burden posed on the newlyweds.
No doubt support can come in the form of living with the parents after marriage. But this arrangement, especially if it means living in the young man's parents' home, often infringes on the privacy and the right of the wife to have her own quarters. While the wife has somewhat more privacy when the young couple lives with her parents, it is still far from ideal. No matter what, should misunderstandings arise and disharmony prevail, both sets of parents must be respected, and, if necessary, a trustworthy third party be brought in to help restore understanding and harmony.
For those young people considering early marriage, it is critical that they give lots of attention to issues such as finances and privacy. The stresses associated especially with these two issues appear to destabilize marriage early on.
A beautiful lesson can be learned from the life of the beloved young couple `Ali and Fatimah (may Allah be pleased with them) about the power of du`aa' (supplication) as a way to survive marital stress. `Ali (may Allah be pleased with him) narrated:
Fatima was complaining about what she suffered from the hand mill and from grinding, when she received news that some slave girls from the booty had been brought to Allah's Messenger. She went to him to ask for a maid-servant, but she could not find him, and told `A'ishah of her need. When the Prophet came, `A'ishah informed him of that. The Prophet came to our house when we had gone to bed. (On seeing the Prophet) we were going to get up, but he said, "Stay where you are." I felt the coolness of the Prophet's feet on my chest. Then he said, "Shall I tell you a thing that is better than what you asked me for? When you go to your beds, say 'Allahu Akbar (Allah is Great)' thirty-four times, and al-hamdu lillah (all the praises are for Allah)' thirty-three times, and 'subhan Allah (Glorified be Allah)' thirty-three times. This is better for you than what you have requested." (Al-Bukhari, Book 53, Hadith 344)
Fine, so you want to marry young, have a job, and be in school. You truly want it all. But who goes to school, who goes to work, and ultimately who stays at home are questions whose answers are not at all simple or straightforward. Unless explicitly discussed, another major challenge for those who are young, married, and in school is to come to terms with the fact that both the husband and the wife will actually be in school or that one will be working full-time while the other is in school, or some combination of both possibilities might exist.
Usually, very closely associated with a high level of maturity is a level of sophistication that translates into an ability to develop a clearer sense of course of action and future goals, especially with regards to career.