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anonymous
I don't realy know where to start.... for a long time now I feel stuck in every important aspect of my life... I've been through alot in the past few years... did alot of mistakes and bad choices... sometimes I wish to go back in time and to be smart about my choices... :) I find my self alot thinking about the past... about all the things that have happened to me... some of it were not under my control at all and some of it are bad choices that I've made....
It feels that I cant fix anything and get out of this situation that I'm in now... I'm feeling depressed that I keep failing.. and the most painful thing is that this situation hurts my parents also.
I wish someone could make duaa for me ... that everything will fall into place...
thanke u all :)
Asalaamu Alaikum, the best thing we can do about our past is to learn from it and take lessons from it so that we can make the best of now and the future. Apart from that it is pointless dwelling on what has past for that is wasting more time. There is no point regretting what has happened but we can learn from it so that we make better choices now and in the future.
Whatever wrong we have done to ourselves can be forgiven as Allah is most merciful and he loves to forgive. As long as we are remorseful and repent sincerely with the intention nevr to repeat such acts then we wil find Allah most forgiving. He loves to forgive and in roder to gain forgiveness we should always repent sincerely.
Life is a learning process and if we did'nt fail then how would we ever learn from our lives? We only learn from failures not our successes. If we alway succeeded in everything then we would never learn from life. But we learn from failures so you should accept that you failing in certain aspects of your life is what has made you a better and wiser person who can now make better decisions about your life and do things better now and in the future. That is what life is all about. We all wish that we could get a time machine and go back to certain aspects of our lives and do things differently but this would be pointless because firstly it will never happen and secondly we have learnt from it and taken lessons from it with which we can do things better in our lives now and in the future.
So the first thing you need to do is accept what has happened in the past and then you should realise that you are now a much better and wiser person from it and that you can now move forward with your life knowing that you have learnt a lot of lessons which you can apply to your daily life ensuring that what has happened will never happen again and in this way you have learnt from your past so that you can have a better present and future.
So strive to be closer to Allah and do everything to please him and refrain from doing anything which displeases him. Ask of him always and repent to him him asking for forgiveness. Tahnk him and share all of your feelings with him. Ask of him for guidance, help and support and know that he will never turn you away. Fulfil your obligations to him in the form of Salaah and remember and glorify him in the form of dhikr.
Recite his beautiful words in the Qur'an and read its meanings. Be the best towards others and serve your parents and family as much as you can. Be with good company and learn as much about Islam as you can and implement what you learn in your daily life. If you do all these things then EVERYTHING will fit into place in your life like a jigsaw puzzle!
Here are some very beneficial lectures for you to increase your imaan and fear of Allah:
Remembrance: ask Allah for his forgiveness
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Z-EK9r3rMzQ
Angel of Death!!! - Sheikh Ahmed Ali
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tUzRJXlB2uA
Imam Anwar al-Awlaki - Death (The Destroyer of Pleasures) [part 1/4]
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ieX7ZQtHl0s
Imam Anwar al-Awlaki - Death (The Destroyer of Pleasures) [part 2/4]
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KK_2sVGMW08
Imam Anwar al-Awlaki - Death (The Destroyer of Pleasures) [part 3/4]
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bpmzA2hk1Bo
Imam Anwar al-Awlaki - Death (The Destroyer of Pleasures) [part 4/4]
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=km39GfL62TQ
Imam Anwar al-Awlaki - The Journey of the Soul
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wAwHEXE3-n0
HARD HITTING Lecture on HELLFIRE & the Day of JUDGEMENT! يوم القيامة والجحيم
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0O6L_fBk7VM
Sheikh Ahmad Ali - Hellfire Talk Part 1/3
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DWTehIeCOUU
Sheikh Ahmad Ali - Hellfire Talk Part 2/3
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yXTtk7rWx_U
Sheikh Ahmad Ali - Hellfire Talk Part 3/3
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wmiD86w9fBc
Islam - Punishment of the Grave by Sheikh Riyadh ul Haq
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UWb-hYIm2WE
Death and the Grave by Murtaza Khan
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7r2nzJVecqo
How can we not appreciate what we have after watching this?
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=AkEBUC0APMg
AMAZING short speech -"The Goodly Life"
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-fugf1DcNyc
Here are some very beneficial articles for you to help you on your journey to Jannah and to make best use of every second of your life in this world:
10 Steps to Increasing our Iman(Faith)
http://www.islamicboard.com/showthre...our-Iman(Faith)
30 ways the youth should spend everyday of their lives!
http://www.islamicboard.com/showthre...of-their-lives!
Easy Dhikr which is light on the tongue but heavy on the scales!
http://www.islamicboard.com/showthre...-on-the-scales!
My Daily Ibadah (worship) check!
http://www.islamicboard.com/showthre...worship)-check!
10 steps to getting closer to Allah
http://www.islamicboard.com/showthre...loser-to-Allah
Forty Very Easy, Quick & Rewarding Good Deeds for all of us to do Everyday!
http://www.islamicboard.com/showthre...to-do-Everyday!
Not praying Salaah 5 times a day? Here's the solution!
http://www.islamicboard.com/showthre...s-the-solution!
VERY Rewarding Nafl Salaahs we can Pray Everyday!
http://www.islamicboard.com/showthre...-Pray-Everyday!
Please remember me in your dua's.
and Allah knows best in all matters